To not want new rings?

[BringMeCoffee]

I have an engagement ring, wedding ring and eternity ring. I remove them when I bathe, shower and had also recently been decorating so hadn't been wearing them whilst I did it. I have a toddler who is like a magpie. I realised they were missing but cannot find them anywhere. I have turned my house literally upside down. My Husband has said he will claim them on the insurance but I am so upset. I don't want new ones. I can't even sleep thinking about where they are! Do I sound really ungrateful telling my Husband I don't want new ones. I don't want to sound like a brat but I just want mine back! :'(

[yumscrumfatbum]

If I lose something after the usual search proves fruitless I take a step back and stop looking. I then tidy the house methodically and usually find said item. Down the sides of the settee in usually where I find missing items. I feel for you OP I lost my engagement and wedding ring on holiday and ended up replacing them via my insurance x

[IllHaveALargeGlassOfRed]

Oh OP I feel for you! I lost my rings a couple of years ago and was devastated. I knew they were in the house so we searched everywhere. My DH and DS both went through the (full) kitchen bin and eventually found them inside half an eggshell!

[UnicornInTraining]

Have you checked the places where you could have hidden the rings?

My mom used to hide them in piles of clothes when she was not wearing them for a long time or when we were going away. Once she could not find one anymore and I was the magpie toddler so was accused of having taken it. I had not and since my dad gave her a new ring I got the one she retrieved a year later between two nighties as my graduation present

[juneau]

IME toddlers like to 'post' things. Do you have any cracks in the floor? What about drawers s/he could have slid them inside? Check toys, tea sets, kitchen cupboards, soft toys, etc.

I lost my engagement ring last month - probably while I was in town - so I feel your pain. The good news is that your rings should turn up at some point, as they've been lost in the house.

[Notsoaccidentproneanymore]

I lost my wedding ring quite a few months ago. I thought I had left it by the kitchen sink, but it disappeared.

Anyway, dh found it last week under one of our sofas - between the storage boxes. No idea how it got there, ds2 is a teenager and we’ve not had any small children in the house (or any children).

My mum lost a gold ring when I was a child. She had given up ever seeing it again. As a teenager I was looking for a candle in the utility room and found the ring stuck to the bottom of a large candle.

So don’t give up hope (though I lost my engagement ring in the car, and even though dh crashed it a few months later and the internal carpet was taken up, there was no sign of it).

[HollyBerryHolly]

You can't do a pretend search tho. You can't trick the magic like that. You have to be patient

Hahaha very true!

[SunnyCoco]

My friend found hers inside the hoover

[lurkingnotlurking]

Oh and I once lost mine on my chest of drawers - I'd put a lid down on top of them and couldn't find them for days

[lurkingnotlurking]

Cat flap, under the kitchen surfaces, washing basket, radiators, down the side of the sofa, swallowed, inside their toy kitchen, in a shaggy rug...

[AmethystRaven]

I hid my mums in between the bed sheets when I was little.

I hope you find them. My rings aren't worth much in value but I couldn't replace them so I know what you mean. Although, sods law says if you get replacements they will turn up...

[SaucyJack]

You'll find them next time you're searching for something else. Promise.

You can't do a pretend search tho. You can't trick the magic like that. You have to be patient.

[CaledonianQueen]

My dh used to work away and when our ds was 2 and dh had just come home we realised that dh's car keys were missing. We searched everywhere for two days, pulling furniture out and going through ds's toy box.

On the second evening, I happened to ask ds "sweetheart, have you seen Daddies car keys, we have been looking for them everywhere and if we can't find them then we can't go out", right away ds took me by the hand saying " I knows where they are Mama", he led me to his bedroom, pulled out the drawer under his bed and produced both sets of DH's car keys. I asked ds "we have been looking everywhere for these, why didn't you tell me where they were?", I got the response 'You knows ask me". I then asked him why he had hidden Daddies keys '"I no want him go way gen" followed by "I teach Daddy lesson, he no leave his keys out gen"

We were speechless! I should add that having taught ds baby sign language at five months, then spent hours every day with ds demanding I read the picture word books so he could learn every word, he was very vocal at two!! (My little girl was the same) My ds has since been diagnosed as autistic, which explains his very literal language!

Have you asked your dc where they are? It is worth a try lol as my story above shows! Do you have a sandpit? Does your ds like posting things down the back of radiators? My ds liked posting everything down the back of radiators at that age, including wax crayons, which made a lovely rainbow effect on our lounge carpet! Unfortunately, he also liked posting things into the toilet too! Thankfully you can use a knife to turn the lock on the outside of our bathroom door!

It's worth thinking of any schemas your dc might be going through, e.g enveloping, so putting objects inside things or wrapping objects up, transporting? posting as above!

I also recommend checking his poo, just in case he has swallowed your rings! In which case you might prefer to claim your insurance!

This link gives good examples of play schemas, maybe they will give you a good idea of what your toddler might have done with your rings!

www.flyingstart.uk.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/08/Schema.pdf

[BarbarianMum]

My mum's wedding ring turned up 6 months after she "lost" it. It was secured into my little brother's toy bus as a passenger.

[KathArtic]

Has your toddler swallowed them?

[IJustLostTheGame]

My suggestions based on bitter experience:
Take the sofa apart.
Check the bin
Check any toys you put things in/post things through
Dvd/ps4 etc.
All shoes and boots.
All drawers below waist height.
Behind the bath panel.
Behind the mattress
Search toddler bed

[BigDamnHero]

They must be somewhere. My kids have lost mine before and sometimes it takes a few days to find them but I always have.

I was once convinced I'd lost my engagement ring. I dropped it in our tiny bathroom at the time and it vanished! I looked EVERYWHERE and was completely puzzled.

Turns out it was caught in the turn-up of a pair of jeans in the wash basket.

[Babymamamama]

Your DH is trying to make the best of the situation. If you try to frame it in that way maybe it will help? Not sure you can claim if they are mislaid in you own home?

[Justmuddlingalong]

Don't do the 'panic searching'. I've found things in places I'd already looked. Fingers xed you find them soon.

[Onlymeeeeee]

Look inside the loo rolls? If your loo roll is hung horizontally, also any bath toys with flappy bits (octonaut gup I'm looking at you)
Examples assuming i recalled correctly that you took them off in the bathroom

[Bananamanfan]

Inside any little containers dc has, inside lift up seat in ride on car.
Ask St Anthony for help, it usually works for me, don't know why.

[Member984815]

Last Thursday I lost mine I knew they were in the house I looked at photos I took at an event I went to with the kids zoomed in on my hand I had them then . I tore the house apart and then thought maybe they somehow got in the bin . I was so upset I couldn't cry and then I searched a place I and my husband had looked and they were there . I was so relieved ,I think the panic stopped me seeing them .

[Betsy86]

Lost a special necklace once was realllllly upset about it searched everywhere washing machine seals and filter etc. Then randomly after a week of doing washing i pulled filter out one more time and it was just sat in there! Was a washer dryer st the time so filter was right on the front but just never actually expected it to turn up there.
So dont lose hope xx

[HeddaGarbled]

He can see you are upset and is trying to make you feel better. Don't have an argument about this.

I lost mine/had mine stolen at work (hot weather, swollen fingers, unfastened handbag) and never recovered them, so I completely understand how you feel. Yours are somewhere in the house, though. Hope you find them.

[TheSnowFairy]

I lost my engagement ring when the house was being decorated (had also taken it off and didn't see it again).

I bought another which was not as nice but I really missed wearing it.

Holding out hope it is here somewhere but it has been a few years

[chewbacca83]

I once lost a ring my mother bought me and I was distraught. Several months later I dipped my hand into a packet of dried apricots for a snack and pulled out my ring! It must have slid off when I last put my hand in I really should eat them more often i hope you find your rings.