I genuinely want to know what is reasonable here. My family and DHs family are all completely unreasonable and I am struggling with very poor health at the moment so would value guidance.
I have a small business and employ a couple of part time admin assistants and a few contractors when we are busy. I have always paid for an Xmas do for us all as a thank you for all the hard work. Just a meal and some drinks, all booked for Sat night. Only 8 of us, I get the bill and take a small gift for everyone - really enjoy thanking them for their hard work.
On Friday one of my admin assistants was in a very odd mood (only been with me for a month) and kept doing slightly 'off' things like making himself a drink, checking texts (no personal phones allowed in office). I took him aside and asked if all was ok and he started laughing and said I was 'making a big deal of nothing' and laughed. I told him we needed to work as a team and to let me know if there was anything bothering him. On Sun morning at 3am he sent me a rant and unpleasant text - clearly drunken - listing my many shortcomings and handing his notice in with an X Factor style 'my journey is complete and my heart isn't in it' msg that seemed rather OTT for what had been an 8 hour a week admin role. I replied this morning thanking him for his text and accepting his notice, saying I wished him luck in the future.
My AIBU is - do I need to TELL him not to come on Sat? He is thick skinned and I don't want him to just turn up and spoil the atmosphere of what should be a relaxed and laid back evening when I am thanking people. WWYD? I don't want to seem petty by telling him overtly he cant come!
Sorry if this sounds weak and unprofessional. I have been really unwell and am taking medication that is affecting my thinking straight. Between my awful family, Xmas lists to things to do and my working week I cant seem to think straight.
Thank you.