AIBU to pretend to be at work when I'm not?

[CoffeeAndToffee]

I'm a teacher, work part-time in a school 90mins from home. We have an Inset day on Mon that I don't need to attend. WIBU to pretend that I'm at work and go out for the day?

Two kids at school, one at nursery and the toddler would be with the child minder. DH has the morning to work and then would have the kids during the afternoon until I get home.

His job involves working on my days off, most evenings and every weekend, so I get hardly any time to myself. Would it be unreasonable of me to use that time to treat myself to a relaxing day (and get some Christmas shopping done!)?

My plans involve a good book and a decent cup of coffee with noise cancelling earphones and possibly finishing any last minute shopping...or not. Just not being talked to or touched or anything. Bliss!

Yes, partial lie as Rhoda says and tell him when you get home (or text during the day) that your line manager said you weren't needed after all so you used the opportunity to get other things in. Then there's no long term deception going on.

Kindle is loaded with a book I've been really wanting to read but haven't had time, swimming costume packed, pampering planned, let the me-time begin!

Do it. I once left for a trip a day early so I could have a glorious peaceful evening (and bed) to myself in a premier Inn. Instead of getting up at 5 am the next morning. I have no guilt. At all.

Can't believe you need to lie.

What part of it can't you believe Oblomov?

Have you told your DH where you're going yet?

Glad you've booked your spa day. Enjoy it! I do this occasionally, my mother looks after my DD one afternoon a week after school, sometimes I take the day off and take myself off to a matinee in London and don't tell her. If I tell her I'm off work she leaves me to collect DD from school then complains I never let her see her grandchild. I

Well done OP. As PP have said, if I ever told my DP that I had a day or half day off, he would expect me to do various errands for him, or for me to pick the kids up from school when it's his turn etc. So I tell a partial lie eg 'we finished early, so I went shopping'.

Have a lovely Monday!

Thanks, I'm really looking forward to it! Just getting some time to myself without the constant demands of family life will be such a treat.

For any of you who are interested I had an absolutely lovely day yesterday! It was wonderfully relaxing and I really felt the benefit of a proper break from the kids and not having to watch the clock and rush home. Definitely going to do it again if the opportunity arises!

Sounds lovely OP! I've done something kind of similar and booked a holiday day this week all by myself! DC's at school, DH at work and me free to do whatever I like, I can't wait!!

DH was a bit but he would never dare say anything or ask me not to!

Why is it that its usually the women who are automatically 'on duty' unless they schedule time off, whilst men are usually 'off duty' by default unless they specifically need to be on duty? By 'on duty' I mean family/child-wise. I'm sure there are exceptions to this, but in my experience, the experiences of most of my friends and from what I read on here, this seems to be the case.

Glad you had a nice day OP. I used to do this when I was on flexi-time and we had the option to phone in on the day for a 'Duvet Day'. I used to regularly have 20+ hours flexi and we could only carry a certain amount forward each month. I would decide I was phoning in and do it without telling anyone until it was too late, otherwise people would try and plan my time. I didn't need my time planning, I was happy to just potter about at my leisure. This was before children though, so no feeling guilty that I should be using my time on them.

I did it today! I'm divorced but didn't mention a day off to my kids, parents and went shopping in total peace. Silly really as my kids were at school and they come home with their own keys. I just felt I needed a day off.