To ask the difference between Mumsnet and Netmums

[Emlou07]

Mumsnet seems more brutal (not that that's always a bad thing)

I haven't posted on Netmums yet.

Is there much difference in your opinion?

It just seems like a place for people TTC now. Anyone who enjoys more diverse topics seems to have come here.

"Netmums makes me feel geriatric"

The casual ageism, and number of posters who say it's OK, on MN is something I think is a great shame.

With the new permitting of pregnancy chat threads in 'Pregnancy' rather than moving all to Antenatal chats has changed MN, but like NM being all TTC. There are dominant groups. Some moderating decisions make some more obvious than others (usually around the time of change of policy)

Never having been part of a dominant group - I tend to notice them in a non-favourable way.

@AuntieStella I wasn't intending to be ageist, poor choice of wording on my part. I just meant that I felt older than everyone else on netmums.

A bit less judgmental if I'm honest, especially towards teachers who don't let children go to the toilet during lessons.

MN - filled with women I would willingly spend time with in real, interesting, clever etc

NM - filled with women like the ones I work with. Would definitely not spend time with them willingly outside of work.

Hi mums,
My ex and baby daughter’s father who doesn’t have custody of my daughter (I look after her full time) has been paying me monthly via CMS arrangement since the birth of our daughter - a fixed amount which gets reviewed every year based on his taxable income, which he has been successfully decreasing every year by increasing his private pension. Oh well?!
Last year he agreed to give give me a bit of extra money (£200) to help cover the childcare costs since I am a full time carer and work full time and my childcare costs are through the roof, and the money he transfers me monthly via CMS arrangement doesn’t even cover half of the childcare monthly cost. All of a sudden this month I get a letter from CMS about the voluntary payments information that my ex has submitted to them - i.e. that he has been paying me extra £200 every month on top of my existing agreed child maintenance amount. I rang CMS where I was advised that indeed my ex did put a claim through that this money that he has been paying on top (£200) should be considered as part of child maintenance and should be factored into overall future calculations, and which now means CMS may reduce my future payments. I can’t believe he has done something like this? If I knew he would do that I would have never agreed to take that money. I was so shocked that he has done that but I equally I can’t believe CMS would consider a claimlike this - something he did on his own accord and now wants to take away just to punish us?! Basically CMS are going to take money away from my daughter since he voluntarily been giving extra based on our verbal agreement and now he just decides to be a prick and take it away via them via future payments - which apparently he can do.
This whole thing put some much unneeded stress onto me as I can barely afford childcare now and if my payments are reduced even further I am scarred I won’t have enough funds to care for my daughter.
Has anyone come across this before? Can CMS actually reduce my future payments by the top up amount already contributed?

Any advice is much appreciated. Thank you

You’ve accidentally posted on an old thread and probably won’t get many responses as only people as the thread is from 6 years ago on a completely different subject.

If you go to the top of the page and click start a thread in this topic and repost, you will get a number of responses.

Do be aware this thread is AIBU, which is where posters come if they want to be told if people think they’re unreasonable or not so you may get some harsh responses. You may therefore prefer to start it under the chat or parenting topic for example.

I cannot help you with this question btw but if you post your own thread, there will be plenty of posters to help.

Yes I just realised that I did incorrectly posted this. Thank you for spotting and letting me know. Thank you

The difference is highlighted here.
And it does MN no favours.

You are a carer and your income is too high for any UC?

This is how I see MN. I think some people go along with the MC yummy mummy thing, but I think there are a lot of people who are lying on here. Very few people claim to have an average income - either dirt poor or 100k+ household income which is really odd as there must be a lot of people in the middle. I'm sure there are some rich Londoners on here, but I do find it odd it's one extreme or the other.

I think the posters are older on MN than NM. I stick around because people are much funnier on here and you can rip the piss out of politicians and have a general moan about things.

That said, there is a lot of shit things about MN. Trolls, weird Tory bots and the stealth boasting is pretty tedious, but I just ignore that.

How fluffing ridiculous 😉

Sorry you are having a difficult time but you need to start your own thread.

Grammar

This thread is six years old
Does Netmums,even exist anymore
I used to.be a member but every time I have gone on to look.I can only find really old threads

This thread is six years old

Good catch, I didn't even notice!

Hopefully it can now rest in peace.

Back when my children were small it was a case you allowed your toddler a fruitshoot.

Or you didn't.
If it was the latter you were a mumsnet. Haha.

Not used NM much, I prefer the layout of the forums on MN and swearing doesn't upset me so I come here.

I find NM quite hard to follow on the phone because people have weird sparkley banners and pictures which take up a lot of space. I'm sure it would be okay on a computer though.