To ask the difference between Mumsnet and Netmums

[Emlou07]

Mumsnet seems more brutal (not that that's always a bad thing)

I haven't posted on Netmums yet.

Is there much difference in your opinion?

Often when i've googled a question about DCs health/development a netmums thread has come up. I've read it (and that's the only reason i've been on NM tbh) and the advice has always been down to earth and practical. It's friendly there. It seems like parenting face book.

MN seems to have a lot of posters knocking about who can come on and advise folk very specifically about just about anything. Law, social services, planning advice, DV escape, medicine are the few which spring straight to mind.

I've learned loads here. And it's a laugh.

Just my take on the difference. I could be wrong. I've been hanging about here for 9 years but only dip into NM.

With Mumsnet you also get a wide range of often brilliant usernames. With Netmums it’s just “Hannah C” “Louise B” “Melissa D” etc which is rather boring.

Threads on there either get no reply or only one or two.

Yes. NM seems more of a parent's problem solving site (answer the question and that's it) than the bun fight debate forum that MN often is.

I find mumsnet is a bit more truthful, like that one blunt friend you have that tells it how it is.

Netmums is wishy washy and full of huns who will tell you what you want to hear.

I started off on NM and found it OK, though there were some strange threads involving men trying to flirt with posters..

It sometimes strikes me as a site where you have to agree with the OP no matter what or you're being nasty. I like that you can have more of an actual debate on MN.

I went over to NM the other day and it was riddled with advertising. Couldn't look at any threads due to pop up ads. I like how MN keep theirs quite discreet in comparison!

Also I like that we can swear here.

Spend a day on both, you will figure it out for yourself

I prefer mn but I dabbled In nm first. What I do think is good is that they seem to have people to hand straight away to deal with very distressed posters. They get people who can professionally advice on the threads very quickly. But yes it's very hun this hun that and a lot of tx speak which hurts my eyes

YABU

Also the pop ups (is that tickers) are so annoying I don't even bother going on there anymore.

Local is actually useful on NM and the meet a mum boards are great, especially if you move to a new town / have young DC and don't know any other mums.

Mumsnet local is dire.

Other than that - what everyone else said!

I have no idea what people on NM think of MN but there is a bit of sneering on MN about NM by a very small minority. Probably people that like to feel superior because deep down they are insecure. MN has posts about class and the class system, both serious and jokey, never seen that on NM.

Basically the only people obsessed by the class system are the middle classes. Which is why I always think MN is dominated by the MC. Either people that sociologists would easily chuck in to the MC box in a data set or people that aspire to it.

Netmums tells you what you want to hear.
Mumsnet tells you what you need to hear.

It's a 'lovely' place, netmums. But I do feel the actual support to help women escape abusive relationships or even deal with minor unfair gender role imbalances is very strong here.

There's often a 'big mama' response from moderators. Yes HQ intervene is needed and reporting is necessary but I feel honest debate is much better here.

You are more likely to get into a bun fight here but if you're sensible and reasonable you don't. (Ime).

I think support for long term medical issues is better here.

It sounds awful but I prefer the higher level of debate here too. I know I can pose a therory/ question and get reallly knowledgeable answers.

I've only read net mums for pregnancy symptom reassurance

I actually checked out net mum for 1st in ages today before I saw this thread I am more of reader than a poster but OMG net mum is very very hard to navigate took ages to load and just found nothing of interest to read .

What do the tickers on NM do?

I've also found mn big enough that you can avoid the class war shit and talk about the stuff that matters.

There are also some extremely funny threads here.

I used to be on Netmums. The demographic over there is GENERALLY a younger poster, less well-educated, less well-informed, lower income.

There is a lot of "hun" and "babez" and nonsense like "happy mummy happy baby". They love pyramid scamming multi-level marketing companies and don't let you fucking swear.

They are basically the same but nm has too much on the page and it gives me a headache. I also find the board too difficult to navigate.

My impression of NetHuns is they are younger and less educated. Often more monied though but the money tends to be spent differently than on here.

I think NM is actually better for current affairs. Often, I've seen something on the news, popped on here to see any discussion, and there's nothing. On NM, there's nearly always a mention.

I think Mumsnet can be incredibly negative about current affairs and I find myself really down some days because of stuff I read on here. I wish we could all get some more positivity sometimes 😕

Punctuation and venom.

The board has got harder to navigate on Netmums and the pop up ads are really annoying. I rarely go on there anymore but i do think it can be more supportive over there for example if someone starts a thread about a serious issue but the thread is full of spelling mistakes people are more likely to ignore the mistakes and try and give advice on here sometimes people will ignore what the thread is actually about And pick on the Grammer and spelling , i know mines far from perfect.

I think the word cunt is a bit frowned upon over there so it's best I don't venture onto NM

Staples

mumsnet is more snobbish but more entertaining at the same time.
It's easy to get sneered at on here and the only thing that annoys me on here is anyone with a different opinion from the vast majority are instantly labelled a goady fucker!.