I feel none of my friends like my husband

[Kav123]

I am quite puzzled and wondering if anyone has experience the same. I used to have loads of friends before my marriage, I still have few good friends but I recently realised that no one ever invite my husband to any outing or event. They are always up for doing things with me but when I try to arrange something involving my husband no one seem to be interested. For new years eve my friends are up for anything if its just me but when I mentioned my husband they seem to have gone quiet. Mind you they are single so that also could be the factor but I feel so isolated because few times I don’t go without my husband and than I end up feeling lonely. My husband only have two friends bot lives another town. Please excuse my typo, i am at work so discreetly posting this.

[Jux]

If your dh doesn’t trust you because he’s paranoid, and gets annoyed when you go out without him, while not sharing your interests or wanting to go out himself, then I think you probably have bigger problems than whether your friends like him or not.

[RunRabbitRunRabbit]

Ah, paranoid. He complains about you going out twice a month you say?

Does he avoid making friends with couples because he thinks you will go off with other men?

[curryforbreakfast]

I don't go for the women-only "girls" night out thing either OP. It isn't compulsory. Someone is either good company or they aren't, regardless of their sex

A group of friends having to put up with one of thems partner is the issue, and would be if the partner was also female.

[Kav123]

No no .. he doesnt get annoyed with me going out that way.. he keep wanting to spend time with me all the time because we dont spend much time together but i also want to divide the time equally with my girlfriends. I think if he had friends around he would not act this way.
we just dont have couple friends.

[DistanceCall]

Erm, paranoia (real paranoia) is a form of psychosis. Do you mean to say that he's jealous?

[MrsTerryPratchett]

I'm going to be really blunt. If you really think he has a PD this would explain your friends not wanting his there. Sorry to say but often people with PDs don't come across as likable. Not their fault and not always the case (NPD can be charming).

Why do you think he has a PD?

[Kav123]

I do not believe PD has anything to do with social situation. its more of internal conflict within oneself, as i mentioned earlier he is the most likable guy in a room but he disconnect himself after the day ends thinking everyone is against him or have some sort of motives. he is basically restrict himself from forming lasting relationship.

[AfunaMbatata]

Because you don't need to drink to enjoy yourself? Because people who don't fit the mould of prolific talkers can still be good company and enjoy a party?

So you think the op’s DH sounds like good company at a party? Really?

[TheNaze73]

This really is a lot of fuss about nothing or there is a more sinister underlying problem. If a group of single sex friends want to get together, your DP would be as welcome as a fart in an astronaut suit. It’s not him, it’s the situation & frankly most men or women, if the situation was reversed, would rather crap in their hands & clap, then attend such an event.
If however your DP, is being controlling, I think you need to rethink why you’re with him

[Intercom]

"So you think the op’s DH sounds like good company at a party? Really?"

Not necessarily, but as a quiet-ish non drinker I seem to get on OK 🙂🎉

[x2boys]

Well I wouldnt spend new years eve without dh now and the kids of course but on a night out with friends I wouldnt dream of bringing dh it changes the dynamics completely .

[Spangles1963]

I must admit that if I was going out with a few girlfriends and one of them wanted to bring her husband/partner along,it would annoy me a bit.