So my 4 year old has hardly been to nursery this term. We've had illnesses after illness and bugs on and off since October. It happens every year, we stay unwell until around Feb. She was prem with respiratory distress, so a normal cold makes her quite bad.
It's her Christmas do at nursery today. She wanted to go until I mentioned that I was going to take her sister (2.5yo) to look at some toys (as she can't join the do). Since then she's adamant that she doesn't want to go. Point blank refusing. I have no issue with this, she's sort of out of the habit of going now and I think she's a bit nervous of going back. I said to nursery earlier in the week that maybe we will forget the rest of this term and start fresh in January.
However, as she starts school next year, this will be her last Christmas do at nursery. I say 'do' but it's more just songs, maybe some Christmas crafts and a trip to the church next to the nursery for a few songs and the Christmas story. (We're not religious, so that doesn't matter too much)
I'm unsure if not 'making' her go is the right thing to do. I'm more than happy to let her use some birthday money on a toy and spend the day at home playing. I just feel bad that she will miss it/not fully understand that she will miss it, despite having explained lots to her.
AIBU to say 'never mind' and go toy shopping instead? Or would you send her (if it were your child)?