To send 6yo to bed ‘hungry’

[Singlebutmarried]

Firstly hello all. I’ve been lurks by for a couple of weeks now and have been throughly entertained by Antique ram castrators and FTCFs.

My 6yo daughter is refusing to go to bed as she’s ‘hungry’

I’ve got to the stage where I’m fed up of her not eating all her dinner then asking for more half an hour later.

This has been going on for months.

Hubby works away mon- fri, she’s called him complaining about me and he’s now had a go says no I should just deal with it as he can’t parent from a different part of the country.

Proper peed off at the mo

Your DP is undermining your parenting. His answer, when your DD calls complaining, should be "listen to your mother - she's the one there who cooked you the dinner you refused to finish".

My DD (5) does this, but she does eat most of her dinner and is always hungry just before bed, about half an hour before actually, I normally give her a slice of toast, or a bowl of cereal, but like a PP just said I don't like her going to bed hungry otherwise she won't sleep...can you alter her dinner/tea time so it's a bit later perhaps?

First of all, for you and your DD for everything you’re going through with school.

We went through similar with DD (4yo). She does not settle well at bedtime, at about 6 months ago it was ridiculous! Requesting multiple snacks, staying up til 10pm! We did bedtime snack with milk (usually an organix oat bar). We chatted with her about it in the day and made it very clear that she wouldn’t be getting anything else after she’d brushed her teeth. When she faffed with dinner, we reminded her again. I was worried about her being hungry but she has never needed a snack after bedtime again. Funny that hey? Somewhere along the line she stopped wanting the snack with her milk.

I do think this is probably more about wanting to have more time with you and delaying bedtime. It’s like that feeling when you hate your job and dread going to sleep because you know the next thing will be the alarm telling you to get up and go to work again! I hope you get something sorted with the school soon.

@care

She’s in a squad, so prepping to be competition standard, tho won’t compete til she’s 8. She loves it (tho it is a bit heart in mouth with the bars n things)

@italian I don’t think I can Home school. From what I can see from research, once you take them out of the ‘system’ you can’t get them back in with ease.

I have a friend with kids at the other school so she’s keeping her ear to the ground re movers etc.

@archery I’ve had this chat with him, it’s slowly sinking in. It will be reiterated again in person at the Weekend

Good luck, OP.

Save the dinner she hasnt eaten and re heat it.

Simple. And ask half hour before bed. Tell her its her last chance to eat!

Otherwise, yep, go to bed hungry.
Nothing else offered

Haven’t RTFT but my now grown up youngest DD did this when she was 5 or 6. I never commented on whether or not she’d eaten much of her dinner though it pissed me off. Every night at bedtime I put her up to bed with a slice of bread and butter and a glass of water. Read to her while she ate it then came down. It preempted the “I’m hungry” shenanigans and lasted a few months then eventually stopped.

How did it go tonight?

Give the dinner a little bit later....she may eat well at school and not hungry at dinner time.

Keep her supper and offer to warm it up again in the microwave as long as it’s not delaying bedtime. I wouldn’t give an alternative.