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To have completely just lost my shit and spirit of Christmas?

234 replies

Rangelife · 12/12/2017 08:59

I'm walking across an icy, freezing northern city after rushing into Sainsbury's to buy a shifty secret santa present for work.

A bastard glass hot chocolate snowman kit for a fiver. I'm trying to simultaneously shove the thing into a shitty gift bag, whilst tying the ribbon and ripping off the stupid plastic hanger thing and screaming in my head 'I'm sick of this shit!'

I don't even know the woman I've bought for and I was ill yesterday so missed the food and secret santa swap. AIBU to think this isn't what it's meant to be like?

I want to be a child again. Please regale me with your Christmas meltdowns so I don't feels so irritated with the festive season. Please.

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Trailedanderror · 12/12/2017 18:18

Bitout
haven't had a melt down as such but I do seem to be doing an awful lot of sighing Grin
That should be tapestried onto a cushion!

MrsJayy · 12/12/2017 18:23

Today in primark a woman elbowed me in the face while i was looking at Pjs she was trying to get the size i was looking at silly cowbag didn't even apologise I was so angry. I shouted YOUR'E WELCOME put my basket down stormed out of the shop went and bought 20 fags and smoked 4 i stopped smoking a year ago Santa can fuck off Angry

BarrowInFurnessBusDepot · 12/12/2017 19:01

Due to the cold weather, I decided that I needed a soft fleecy top and scarf. Went into Tesco’s, selected what I needed and took them to the checkout. The checkout woman then starts coughing and sneezing all over my purchases Confused Lovely.

LyannaStarktheWolfMaid · 12/12/2017 19:28

I’m struggling a bit this week with a non-specific but very uncomfortable sense of existential dread, compounded by the knowledge that there is absolutely not one fucking thing for me to feel miserable about. Ho hum. I’m off to throw an unreasonable amount of money at a counsellor tomorrow. At least it’s Christmas and weekday drinking is acceptable. Grin

OhPuddleducks · 12/12/2017 19:34

Not me but my aunt, on Christmas Day, who having been victim of not one but two (TWO) pick-up-four cards during a game of Uno, threw her hand across the table and screeched “You did that deliberately” at my poor Mum. Mum got her own back a few years later by shouting “why don’t you just fuck right off you fucking know-it-all” at said aunt during scrabble. It was her first swear word in about eight years.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 12/12/2017 19:54

I have come close to a melt down over a crochet pattern, this year.

For the past few years, I have either knitted or crocheted a toy animal, to put in dh’s stocking - I knitted a polar bear, last year, and previous years I knitted a dachshund, a sheep and a t-Rex, and crocheted a hippo.

This year I found a pattern for an elephant - you crochet a heap of pentagons, hexagons, squares and octagons, which you then tessalate into an elephant. I fell in love, when I saw a version of it which is crocheted in dark grey, with a brightly coloured saddle cloth and headpiece somit looks like an Indian elephant in a parade.

I should have known better. The hippo was made the same way, and whilst crocheting the motifs was really easy, assembling him took me three days, and lead to tears and very rude words as I went wrong over and over again, and had to try to find the yarn that was sewing it together, against the edge of the crochet, which was the same bastarding colour. More than once, I cut the wrong bit and had to re-crochet the edge of a motif. I still remember th stress.

So why, in the name of all that is holy, did I decide to do something similar this year?

I am on day 3 of construction again - not full days, but a fair chunk of time each day - and I finally cracked it at midnight last night - at which point I discovered I was 2 hexagons and an octagon short - and I might not have enough yarn left. I stayed up until 1am, crocheting as fast as I could (any crocheter or knitter knows that, if you are close to running out, going faster helps you get to the end of what you need to do,without running out - it is an article of faith).

Today I finally finished fastening it together temporarily (so undoing my mistakes was easier), and have something that looks like an elephant, so I am now seeing it together. I just hope he is right, and I can tick this off my to do list - if I have gone wrong again, I will cry.

rookiemere · 12/12/2017 19:58

I am purposefully trying to reduce Christmas stress this year as work is very busy and I'm not finishing until 22nd.

I said no to the office secret santa - my colleagues looked at me like I killed Bambi.

I decided no Christmas cards ( except elderly relatives) DS tried to guilt me into doing them until I told him he could write them (hes 11). He's done some but spent ages asking me the spelling for everyones names and hasn't delivered them yet - to be fair he has a hacking cough.
Told DH and he then proceeded to go - oh does that mean you aren't doing one for SIL - well yes thats what no cards means. Aren't you doing one for your DPs - no we're seeing them on 23rd why do i need to send them a bloody card ?

Honestly its wifework in its purest format and annoying because there are some aspects of Christmas that I love.

NorksAreMessy · 12/12/2017 22:55

Anybody remember that series “Grumpy Old Women” it was utterly brilliant on the subject of Christmas.
Christmas is almost the DEFINITION of wifework. WHY do we put ourselves through this year after year?
DH decided that we are hosting NOBODY (apart from lovely DC coming home), seeing NOBODY and doing NOTHING all Christmas. I couldn’t be more delighted

Cath2907 · 12/12/2017 23:05

Not to spoil the vibe... but.... a family friend died in a tragic accident yesterday leaving her 3 young kids. This year Xmas for us will be a little sad. I was fretting over gifts and baking- now I am being grateful for what we do have. Sorry to be a downer but tonight I am alone and sad Sad

user1497997754 · 12/12/2017 23:14

Christmas is just so over rated mostly lots of family pushed together not all of them wanting to be there..in a highly stressed situation.mix in drink and can be unpleasant.

Maelstrop · 12/12/2017 23:15

So I've kept my head down re Secret bloody Santa this year. I got a generic decorate your own cup plus generic mini prosecco last year although my recipient got a correct breed of dog calendar plus gorgeous biscuits/tin because I spent time with her in the run up to the swap. I loved my prosecco, but the person could so easily have asked my friends what dog/horse I have, or personalized it to the subject I teach.

A girl in my department made a fabulous suggestion that we go out I on Friday after our early finish for lunch. I love my department so I was delighted, been too frazzled to organize anything big, none of us want to do an evening as everyone's going away on the day we finish or soon after.

StormyLovesOdd · 12/12/2017 23:36

I'm really proud of myself for saying no to
Secret Santa this year.

I hate it, the secret Santa presents where I work are usually things like chocolate knobs and everyone has to take it in turn to open there gift in front of everyone else. I work in quite a stuffy office and it's really embarrassing.

Everyone looked at me like I'd gone made when I said I wasn't doing it this year but honestly it's such a relief

NewBrian · 13/12/2017 00:08

I’ve had several meltdowns since last week when I found out I’ll be moving on the 22nd. I’ve not done any Christmas shopping and I’m working until the 24th. Every present will be something that’s available from amazon for next day delivery and I’m doing a normal roast!

Jellyheadbang · 13/12/2017 00:24

Xocaraic I love your post.

Ikeptthemwithmebabe · 13/12/2017 00:24

Cath just awful Flowers

eitak22 · 13/12/2017 03:22

Having just moved and a flat full of boxes and the previous flat needing a good scrub on top of dealing with the most useless landlords ever i can not be bothered with christmas. Presents are boxed (some still neeed buying) as are decs plus currently i cant put them up even if i want to due to all the flipping boxes.

Add to that second year without my dad and my mum really struggling and a festive celebration is looking even less likely.

whatstheplanphil · 13/12/2017 04:13

slightlyscreaming im skiving on a night shift and that just made be snort with laughter !! Xmas Grin

Bluetrews25 · 13/12/2017 11:15

Thanks, Trailed and there was me googling grumpy old git calendar, miserable advent calendar, etc. But no result.

MrsRobert · 13/12/2017 17:45

Last year I almost collapsed visiting Santa to please the inlaws. I was about 8 weeks after I'd had my son and still couldn't walk properly. I also ordered personalised Christmas/thank you cards from Photoshop. In my zombie state there was some generic shite text inside and at the back that I hadn't seen in the template so I got about 80 cards with Happy 1st Christmas David on them. My child's not called David!

MoralBeryl · 13/12/2017 17:47

I took my DD to her swimming class today. It was about 10:30 am and I have to go through the town centre.

I had to sit in a queue for a car park, even though I wasn't going into to the sodding car park. There were just so many people trying to get into it, they'd blocked the road for quite some distance.

I drove about 15 minutes further along and the road was blocked by a lorry delivering Christmassy things, but parked in a ridiculous place. That took ages.

I finally got to the swimming class, only to look at my phone in the car park and find the lesson had been cancelled. The text had been sent when I was already half way there.

Back through the Christmas shopping traffic jam...

ARGH!

Dramalady52 · 13/12/2017 17:59

Don't know what I'm doing about Xmas this year. I am supposed to be moving house, but the solicitors are dragging their feet and time is ticking away. In an excess of anticipation, I sold and moved out of old house - long story - and at present all my stuff is in storage, my pets in kennels and I'm camping with relatives. I had hoped to be moved by now and had postponed all Xmas related stuff until that happened. Luckily DCs not at home, but getting very frustrated and unhappy

OvO · 13/12/2017 18:04

Christmas doesn't exist in my house this year. Not yet anyway.

I move house on Friday so have no space in my head (or my life!) for Christmas right now. I love Christmas usually so will drag all the decorations out on Saturday. We'll have nowt else unpacked!

I've lost my shit about moving though. My DH claimed to be so utterly exhausted after going to the charity shops/recycling centre a few times recently. I've packed the whole fucking house! AND I'm properly can't-tie-my-own-shoelaces disabled so I (me, me, me!) know what exhaustions is.

I'd have murdered him but I've already packed the knives.

Truzza · 13/12/2017 18:12

I was reading this also not feeling it at all..... then I heard feed the world blasting outside the house
I went out and it was Santa in his sleigh collecting money for a local charity

The kids all jumped up and we felt very cheery!!!

So I guess this is the hard bit then when work slows down we all get 4 days off and spend it with people we like (I refuse to be anywhere but home)

Liketoshop · 13/12/2017 18:18

I hate Christmas more each year, now my eye started twitching, getting tearful yet we've such a small family and not cooking. I'm taking teenage sons for an Indian Christmas day. I've been a single mum for years and envy the couple thing as it seems to elude me. But then I don't have to bother about in laws!

extinctspecies · 13/12/2017 18:19

Arriving at my folks on xmas eve after a 2-hour journey to realise the box with all the wrapped presents was still at home.

We foraged at the local garage for replacement stocking gifts for the DC, & heroic DH got up early on xmas morning & drove home to pick up the rest of the presents.

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