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Me or dd

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Ascold · 10/12/2017 20:58

For reasons I won't bore you we are having some work done on the house. Teen Dd currently has my bedroom as it is the only one with instant heating currently while we replace the rest of the economy seven. As a result the rest of the house is currently freezing apart from her room.

As we are also waiting for someone to fit an external aerial and booster and the WiFi people to come and the big living room TV won't work with one of those internal aerials but her TV will she also therefore currently has the only working TV.

As a result she is in a toastie warm room with the TV and I'm in another room freezing with no WiFi or TV, nothing.

I went into her (opened door) room early to tell her something and to close the door to keep her room warm and sat for a bit on the sofa in there to both get warm and watch a bit of the program she was already sat watching and she has had a huge drama about me being in her my room and made it clear I wasn't welcome! Basically ten minutes of 'when are you going back in there, are you going back in there now' and whinging.

AIBU for daring to invade her space or is she being a bit of a cow?

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SilverdaleGlen · 10/12/2017 21:01

Oh wow you seriously need to take a bit of control here, you should be sharing that room until sorted.

She sounds totally selfish and uncaring of you, forget her space she needs to learn some caring and empathy.

CheapSausagesAndSpam · 10/12/2017 21:02

You said "Currently" four times. Grin

Anyway...is she 19 or 13? Teenage is varied.

Also you shouldn't have given her your room but got her a plug in heater and then you would have had the power.

Also...can you watch your phone?

Sirzy · 10/12/2017 21:02

If there is only one functioning room then you should all be camping out there for a few days. Especially if it is as cold where you are as here

SavageBeauty73 · 10/12/2017 21:02

She's being a difficult bugger. I have a 15 year old DD so I feel your pain.

Can you buy an electric fan for the short term?

And turn off the wifi

Pinklady1982 · 10/12/2017 21:06

She is being a cow, sorry! I wouldn’t put up with that op. She needs to understand how other people feel too.

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Ascold · 10/12/2017 21:07

Sorry cheap Blush
I wasn't amused at all but a family member said I was BU as she 'needs her own space'
Of course she does but it the current situation tough luck everyone mucks in best they can in my opinion.

I didn't buy a portable heater because it was meant to be sorted already and I wouldn't be able to get out and get one until payday on Friday now anyway.

Only got a small amount of data left on my phone so not enoigh to watch stuff on.

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NataliaOsipova · 10/12/2017 21:07

She's being a bit of a whatsit and I'd point that out in no uncertain terms....!

MyBrilliantDisguise · 10/12/2017 21:08

She is being really selfish. Are there just the two of you?

Tomorrow I would switch the bedrooms around and let her sit and suffer for a bit.

Iloveacurry · 10/12/2017 21:11

How old is she? I think the little madam needs to go back to her own room and you have your room back!

Original poster
Ascold · 10/12/2017 21:11

Yes just is two now as divorced.

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Nanny0gg · 10/12/2017 21:12

Remind her of who's paying for it...

Original poster
Ascold · 10/12/2017 21:12

*enough
*us

I can usually type honestly.

She's 15

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billybagpuss · 10/12/2017 21:13

she’ll have her own space when the heating is fixed, in the mean time she can suck it up and share. I would have hit the roof at that attitude and said she was welcome to move back to her freezing room if she’s going to be so ungrateful. Grrrr

MyDcAreMarvel · 10/12/2017 21:13

How old is she?

BertrandRussell · 10/12/2017 21:16

Blimey. You should have been sharing from the beginning.

lazyarse123 · 10/12/2017 21:18

You should be sharing. If she wants her "own space" she can sod off back to her own room

NataliaOsipova · 10/12/2017 21:18

Point out that when she's old enough and solvent enough to have her own house and pay for her own hearing then she can absolutely demand her own, unencumbered space.....

YouTheCat · 10/12/2017 21:20

Put her back in her room. Tell her she could have stayed in yours if she'd not been such a selfish bugger and shared the heat.

It might have been a nice opportunity for a few nice films and some snacks.

HundredMilesAnHour · 10/12/2017 21:21

Wow, what a nasty little madame. My mother would never have tolerated that, not even for a millisecond.

Why can't you share the room? If you have a sofa in there, sounds like there's plenty of space for two.

acornsandnuts · 10/12/2017 21:22

Yanbu.
If she needs her own space she she sit in the cold and use her own WiFi.
I have a 15 year old DD and her selfishness astounds me at times. Complete absorption in ‘me’. I have an older DD who is lovely so hoping to come out of the other side soon. Don’t let the family member guilt you.

glitterbiscuits · 10/12/2017 21:24

She’s not a team player is she?

Gemini69 · 10/12/2017 21:24

she does not respect you or concerned that you are fucking freezing..
what kind of Child has you raised Mum... Flowers

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Ascold · 10/12/2017 21:25

It's a two seater sofa so neither of us would fit on it to sleep. I could possibly drag a mattress in on the floor for one or us.

Mind you if shes going to be like that I'm not sure I want to bloody share with her at the moment!

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TroelsLovesSquinkies · 10/12/2017 21:28

Yep I'm with the others, shift her back to her own room, if she's nice I'd let her into my warm room with TV and WiFi and let her share for a bit.
Entitled little madam who gives not one fuck about anyone elses comfort or well being by the sound of her.

SpongeBobJudgeyPants · 10/12/2017 21:29

Unfortunately, its going to be difficult to claw much comfort back, as you've been a bit soft to start with, but you know this. As a compromise, can you have a timetable? Say, you are allowed in your own room up to 9pm, or whatever, and then you can maybe go off to bed with a hot water bottle perhaps?