AIBU,to report a pub to police ,and will police even give a shit?

[Twuntingattheweekend]

I was sure there was a think 24 policy in place,where if you looked under 24 you didn't get served....well I just spent the whole night looking after my paralytic 16 yr old dc who came home having been served in a pub...in fact dc spent the whole evening in pub repeatedly getting served...this was a Xmas party for a sports club,with the club manager there as well,supposedly looking after the kids, I stupidly thought.granted dc shouldn't of tried to get served,but shouldn't pubs be asking for id ?

The Poloce won’t care, it’s the licensing team at your local council

Your too kind Windsor x

I’d go to the venue, with a photo of your son. I’d explain what happened, say he is only 16. Say you know it’s his own stupid fault but they are responsible too, so you’d appreciate if they could make sure they don’t serve him in future.

They were all 16.. the venue was well aware

I'm honestly shocked he got served without ID, or did he have someone else buying in the pints? I'm over 25 but under 30, look my age and still get asked for I'D.

Do bars even allow 16th birthday parties, I know not many do 18ths near me. My husband still moans now and again how no pub/club would allow him an 18th birthday party back in the day, because he was one of the eldest of his year group, so all the other guests would more than likely be underage.

kung you're in the same age bracket as me... I don't get asked for id anymore, I'm obviously aging worse than you 😑

Op if you're sure, I'd report. Go to the bar, speak to whoever runs it. Show them your sons photo- tell them he was able to buy there with friends last night and ask them what the hell happened to checking id. Don't go in too hard, be nice. But when you leave, tell them you're reporting them to the licensing authority. And do so.

Challenge any age is set by the LA not the law

I think they maybe more lax in those sorts of places than a supermarket or a pub though? I can't buy booze without ID in a shop and have to show it to get in pubs and I have 16 year son the OP's son 🚨stealth boast🚨 I presume they are less likely to be spot checked?

Maybe parent your child better?

OP are you sure that DS or his friends didn't sneak alcohol into the pub and just buy mixers all night? Either way, I would speak to the club leader and the pub landlord so see what measures are in place to ensure that this never happens again. As for DS, he's 16. It doesn't reflect on your parenting, or on him as a person, it's a rite of passage as other posters have said.

Also, I meant to say - the landlord will have the CCTV from the night for a while, so ask him to check (with you present) to see if DS was definitely sold alcohol.

Shame no one gave that advice to your parents Chiaseed.

Most of the bars in town don't seem to care about checking ID. At the 6th form socials loads of underage kids get drunk. Friday and Saturday nights are carnage.

Surely your child knows they shouldn't buy alcohol? It's as much your fault as anyone else's.

Oh ffs.

Think it depends where you are Lonicera Liverpool is pretty harsh on ID now, I get ID’d regularly but in most bars and clubs now there’s ID scanners for when you enter and leave.

I don’t think this is a ‘parent your child better’ scenario, there’s lot of excellent parents out there and their kids do this.

He's 16. Get over it and play some very loud music for the next 48hrs and make him cook his own food and clean up after himself.

He wont want to get that drunk ever again.

Dippingmytoesin

Barnsley. They just seem to turn a blind eye to underage drinking.

The party was at a sports club? I’m honestly wondering if this is where I work! Yes he should have been ID’d but it’s possible someone else got him drink and 9/10 people sneak their own drink in to staff parties to save money.

Glad mine are well past teenage years! They all do it and it’s no reflection on you OP. Don’t bother reporting anyone just concentrate on your DC. Drinking alcohol in smaller sensible quantities and learning how to say ‘NO’ are things we have to learn, no law will do that.
A horrible hangover and a furious parent may make DC think twice next time but don’t count on it.

I see the Arsehole Squad is out in force again.

OP, you’re not ‘that parent’, your DC isn’t ‘that person’. It’s something many of us will have gone through, just one of many life lessons. Help them learn from this, and hopefully it won’t happen again. (I needed two of that particular lesson, but I didn’t need a third.)

Your Club should have a welfare officer in charge of safeguarding. REach out to them first. This should not have happened on their watch, end of.

thought I'd done a better parenting job

Twunting you're being too harsh on yourself. You let him go to a sports club xmas do supervised by adults and they should've been supervising. Also, please don't think your parenting is to blame here because I was a very well behaved child with a brilliant mother and I still experimented with booze. She certainly wasn't to blame for that and I never developed an alcohol problem.

Did you mean to be so rude @chiaseeddisapointmentagain?

I would be so fucking pissed off and would absolutely report it to the licensing authority. And the sports club would be hearing about it as well.

The lazy "oh, they all do it"
"it's a rite of passage"
"underage drinking is a part of life" (WTF???)

is such a crock and a reason why alcohol is such a big problem.

Good for you OP. I wouldn't accept this either and, in fact, haven't. Slightly different circumstances but I expect the law to be followed when it comes to MY child/children.

@accidentlyruntowindsor
yes I did, is there a problem?