Neighbours baby crying

[CumbrianExile]

So, I am after a bit of advise.

Next door, I am assuming a mother and her young baby are living there (not seen the child, seen the mother once, no sign of any father although I can't comment that he isn't there!)

They have been loving there for approx 3 months, as above not seen anyone but the mother letting people in at 10.30 on a Wednesday night.

Baby cries a lot. Last night for 90 minutes non stop. It was heartbreaking. Seems to be quite regular at approx 3 in the morning for 30-90 minutes at a time. I hear it at other times in the day but work 4 days a week so not sure if I am overly worrying about some thing that I shouldn't.

what would you do?

Nothing, babies cry, some cry a lot.

I wouldn’t be worried. As you said it’s a specific time, maybe the baby just wakes up at that time and is hard to get settled.

Nothing
Mum is probably tearing her hair out trying to console crying baby. Or faffing boiling a kettle then waiting for it to cool to make up a bottle as per current recommendations

Do you have kids?

If not it probably seems extreme but it can be quite common. I assure you the 90 minutes will feel a lot longer the other side of that wall.

Make an effort to make friends with her?

Are you my neighbour? My baby is waking up at this time, howling, every night at the moment. It must sound like he is being tortured but i assure you he is being rocked, fed, sushed, sung to, cuddled, you name it. He just wont settle!!

Meant to add, am sure your neighbour is the same!

Does the baby seem to be left in the room in the same place? Can you hear her in the room. Leaving a baby to cry every night non-stop for 90 mins without checking up on it is a red flag.

I have a nearly 4 month old who is teething and he is extremely hard to settle back to sleep atm. Doesn't help that I'm in a middle floor flat but I can only apologise to the neighbours and try my best to get him to sleep. Can you hear your neighbour trying to settle the baby back down at all?

RavingRoo how do you know she’s not with that baby the whole time? Leaving the room might not help either...

Babies do cry and some cry a lot.
I might take some mince pies round just to see if mum was doing okay because having a colicky baby is pretty tough.

My baby cried. A lot. Day and night. I felt awful about the neighbours, but one day the elderly couple stopped me outside and asked me how I was, and said they remembered how hard it was when their children were small. Their sympathy and tolerance meant the world to me. If they'd have been arseholes about it, I probably would'nt have coped.

As an aside, another of our neighbours had parties and played loud music at all hours. I'd probably have more patience with a baby who can't actually help it...

What exactly are you worried about OP?

Babies cry.
Babies regularly cry at the same time every night.
The fact that the baby cries for 30-90 minutes at a time doesn’t mean the mother isn’t picking it up/cuddling it/walking the floor.

I have twins. When they were babies there was usually a baby screaming every 90 mins through the night.

Our next door neighbours were lovely and pretended they couldn’t hear.

Post some chocolate through the door

My lovely neighbour used to bring me biscuits Butterflies and hold a baby while we drank tea and ate them.

Such a nice lady.

Ffs... are you kidding?! Babies cry... some not so much. I have 3.. all very different sleepers/ cryers etc. My secind didn't sleep through until nearly 3 years old!!!
Maybe she's trying different methods to be able to get baby into a routine? Or maybe she's just exhausted. Either way, babies don't cry to death.
Who are you to judge? And wtf has being in a single parent family got to do with it?!

no sign of any father

not seen anyone but the mother letting people in at 10.30 on a Wednesday night.

Funny what you do pick up from posts, the massive leaps you can make. What I'm actually reading from those little snippets is prostitute, leaves baby to cry.

You could be my neighbour, if it weren’t for the fact that I don’t have any. My baby cries, I try so hard to comfort him, but sometimes he gets really colic-y and screams the house down, it’s AWFUL. I’m so glad I don’t have to contend with judgey neighbour on top!

Bake her some biscuits and go round to see if she’d like a chat with a friendly adult?

Also, there could be something wrong. Everyone is so quick to slate you OP. It wouldn't hurt to keep an eye on the situation.

Bake her some biscuits

Fuck me! The 1950's arrived again

Splinters* I agree

I’m so glad I grew up in the 1950’s. I bake biscuits. Good ones.

@splinterz

Yes, I picked up on that too. OP, stop being a judgy cow and go TALK to your neighbour. She could probably use some help, not someone hoping to ship her to social services.