To wonder if the TIL's are trying to take the piss...

[GoJetterGirl]

So, as many of you have read my last few threads re: Toddler in laws, you'll remember that my DS is undergoing chemo for his cancer relapse, and they have been constantly boundary stomping and trying to undermine my and DHs parenting in general...

So, TIL decide they are coming up to visit again, I start with my usual "please don't, not a good time, starting another cycle of a new chemo next week and he doesn't need a cold, etc"

So, FIL interrupts me and states "we don't have colds, we both just have slight chills" WTAF?!?! WTF is the difference between and cold and a chill?!

So in short, can I feel justified in pitching a fucking massive fit and telling them to get to fuck, it's not them who has to deal with the aftermath of the "chill" once they've passed it to DS, or are old people's chills miraculously non infectious?! I don't even know what a bloody chill is!

More to vent, also, I have no idea what "a chill" actually means...

You're PIL are vile.

Every thread of yours gets me so angry on your behalf.

Tell them to get a clue.

A chill is shivery, likely the start of a cold and therefore highly infectious.

A chill is a mild cold.

just when you think these people can’t get any worse

Ask them why they think its okay to endanger your childs life. then send them a load of webpages ( printed off and posted if they're thick) about the risks to children.

They're banned from the hospital, hence them turning up the week before, I'm trying to prevent him having a pre existing infection, like the chest infection one of those arseholes inflicted on him last time...

Tell them if they do turn up they will not be allowed in. In fact, you won't even answer the door.

That's fucking awful.

I offered a heavily pregnant friend a get out of visit free card, as I have a toddler with a cold.

How can anyone even consider being around a child going through chemo, with the slightest hint of a cold?!
Awful people.

Ask them for a note from their doctors explaining what a slight chill is and it’s effects on a child undergoing chemo , or tell them to get to fuck. Either way you are protecting your little one who is having a hard enough time and doesn’t need “adults” like them making things harder.

God they are awful. In my experience, a chill is what some people say they have when they happen to have been in a draft/cold weather prior to developing what the rest of us call a cold. Basically it's a cold but they will swear up and down no virus is involved. Which is total bull. Hugs for you and your family in this awful time.

God I thought it was bad enough when people visit a newborn with 'sniffles' whatever that means
But this is just completely bat shit
I agree you should just lock the door! Literally...
what does your oh say?

Can't you get an injunction (even if it's a realistic one printed off the internet)?

YANBU in the slightest.

DS went through this as baby & mum turned into serious tiger mother of locking doors on people to keep them out to keep DS safe. Have your fit!!

Alternatively, if you have a suitably safe place to take DS, be out when they get there.

People do not grasp that a cold/cough/chill or whatever you want to call it wreaks HAVOC on a non-existent immune system.

Love to DS, I hope he's doing ok x

I have no clue why you're still accepting any form of contact from these utter weapons-grade fucknumpties.

YANBU. There is no such condition as a chill. Sounds like they have colds. They should not be trying to visit a child (or anyone else) who is about to start chemo with a slight cold or any other infectious illness. Selfish and totally not on. There is no reason to feel bad about telling them to fuck off. You need to do whatever it takes to protect your child from these idiots.

^excelkent summary

They sound monstrous. You know you're not being unreasonable. They on the other hand have gone way past unreasonable, inconsiderate, selfish, stupid and a whole lot more.

Lose your shit with them. Do what you like! And very best luck to your son with his treatment

Jesus H, they sound like grade A, card carrying knobjockeys

Tell them to, in no uncertain terms, fuck off.

I'm sorry that you and your son are going through this.

Please don't feel you have to be polite and say please don't come- tell them straight they'll be locked out .

Do you have a nice oncologist? I dont suppose he could be prevailed upon to call your TILs and tell them to get tae fuck?

I suspect the only way to stop will be asking them why they want to kill their gs. Shock tactics. Clearly polite, less polite, requests aren't working so maybe accusing them murderous desires will make them take it a bit more seriously.

Give it a go. It would probably make you feel a bit better if you got to accuse them of it.

God they're arseholes. I agree that a shock tactic might work.

'No you can't come. If you do arrive you won't be admitted because we are putting our child's health before your selfishness'
(or you could even leave the 'because...' part off completely.)