A guy has asked me if I want to 'hang out'.

[SingleSoda]

Maybe i've watched too many romantics but being asked to 'hang out' doesn't quite strike the right note.

We're in our mid twenties and met last month as we both train for the same sports team. We seemed to click, he added me on Facebook and then we spent 6 hours solidly talking over messenger until the early hours. He's randomly popped up on messenger tonight asking if I want to hang out next week..

See I usually date absolute control freaks (I must admit I like the traditional gender roles/not having to making decisions/being swept off my feet) but I made the conscientious decision to date people who weren't my type just to try to end up with a guy who isn't a complete self centred arse. But I just can't seem to get excited about 'hanging out' or the energy to now play 'when/where/what'. I feel he's gone from a 8/10 to a wet 4/10. AIBU?

Ohyesiam - who knew?

So OP "Where shalt thee hang out". Has he alluded to anything?

He's not actually asking you out on a date. He's asking you to spend time with him so that he may accertain whether he was to:
a) never see you again,
b) be just friends
c) shah you a few times before moving on to someone else or
d) date you

Nooo! Being taken on a proper date is not akin to being clubbed over the head . DH still does this now and I believe I'm conscious.

As a bloke, I think it’s a slightly unusual choice of words but I’d imagine that he probably spent at least a while debating how best to ask you. He probably wanted to avoid coming across too strong.

I would normally just suggest a drink but I think you should judge him on how he comes across in general rather than hang on his choice of words.

I also last dated in the 90's, but I think this is wet and undervaluing of OP's time. For me it's the equivalent of staying in with a video OK in an established relationship but not good enough for a making impression 1st date. If you want something low key what's wrong with coffee or lunch ffs

Unless he follows it up with I'm going to "hang out with my wang out" you're probably ok.

'Hang out' sounds like he's after a bit of casual, no effort 'I'll come round to yours with a dvd' sex.

Unless he wants to hang out at the mall or show his his skateboarding skills at the precinct...

Another vote here for the idea that waiting for men who will swoop in and sweep you off your feet is a recipe for romantic disaster. Being an equal partner in shaping the relationship will serve you much better in the long run. But I'm an American, so what do I know.

What I meant by it's a 25yo thing was more that that is how younger people speak these days. I'm 29 and wouldn't find it strange, it's a perfectly normal way to talk.

Also the concept that you might want to spend time together platonically before jumping straight to sex or dating. Though I'll be surprised if that's a new thing - is it?

Spartaca 😂😂😂

You need to find your self respect before you go on any dates!