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AIBU to wake my husband for sex at 4am?

29 replies

shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 04:23

As the title. I'm really horny, he has to get up for work in 2 hours. I have the "luxury" of being off sick (due to surgery).

I'm not sure if he'll be delighted or annoyed.

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shushpenfold · 07/12/2017 04:29

I’d be annoyed! He might think differently if it was 30 mins before wake up though....

Original poster
shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 04:30

True, I'll hold off and if I'm still in this predicament in an hour I will wake him Grin

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bandbsmummy · 07/12/2017 04:34

My DH would definitely not be annoyed.

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shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 04:38

I wish I had asked him in the past - makes note to self...

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laudanum · 07/12/2017 04:39

seems like you need a battery powered friend for such occasions.

TheMaddHugger · 07/12/2017 04:41

get a BOB

AIBU to wake my husband for sex at 4am?
Original poster
shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 05:08

What's a BOB?

He wasn't annoyed Wink

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TheMaddHugger · 07/12/2017 05:18

BOB battery Operated Boyfriend aka a vibrator Grin

Good to know

MsHopey · 07/12/2017 05:30

My husband always said if I woke up horny, I have every right as his wife to wake him up to satisfy me. The one time I did he groaned, said he was too tired, and went straight back to sleep. Sounds like a fantasy, but in reality with work in the morning, not so much.

Original poster
shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 05:33

Thanks Hugger Wink

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Original poster
shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 05:35

Gutted Hopey, some things sound great in theory don't they?

I wouldn't make a habit of it as his work would suffer (and mine once I'm back), but I'm glad I woke him now Grin

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MsHopey · 07/12/2017 05:50

Wahhayyy! Lucky you Grin

Ifailed · 07/12/2017 06:01

The obvious answer is how would you feel if it was the other way round and you had to be off to work?

MoNigheanDonn · 07/12/2017 06:42

My dh would have been thrilled. Also loving the photo of Dean...lovely way to wake up on a dreich Thursday

Emlou07 · 07/12/2017 06:44

Christ some of the things people post online! Hmm

I'd be pissed. I like sleep more than sex! 😂

Fairylea · 07/12/2017 06:44

I would be absolutely livid if anyone woke me up at 4am for sex. Sleep is precious!

CactaiSurprise · 07/12/2017 06:49

My now DH (boyfriend at the time) told me that he LOOOOVED being woken up to being played with/a bj (sorry for tmi). So one morning I woke up horny decided to give it a go and as soon as I got started he, in a sleepy haze, panicked and swatted me off like a fly. I fell off the bed and never tried that again.
Blush Blush Blush

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shiftyfades · 07/12/2017 08:06

Ha ha ha Cactai, that's hilarious Grin

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Llanali · 07/12/2017 08:36

These things sort of depend upon your relationship, don’t they?

Some people on here would say it was rape if their husband started having sex (be that penetrative or “foreplay”) whilst they were asleep as they hadn’t then consented. And that’s fine, their prerogative.

Personally, my husband is fine to help himself before I fully wake up! I would also wake him up playing with him too.
If either of us said no we would stop of course, but I’m always happy to be woken up for that :)

ShatnersWig · 07/12/2017 08:39

I'd expect more than a quickie if I was woken up at 4am and due up at 6am. Based on your postings it lasted not much more than half an hour.

Mammyloveswine · 07/12/2017 12:01

Ha my dh loves it when I do this... ! Doesn't happen often but he's certainly never been annoyed!

TheNaze73 · 07/12/2017 12:07

You shouldn’t even have to ask. Of course you should

Branleuse · 07/12/2017 12:23

mine probably wouldnt mind, but I would mind if he did it to me

liquidrevolution · 07/12/2017 12:23

I woke DH up for sex 4 years ago as I was awake and bored writing up my dissertation.

DD is now 3.5. We hadnt planned on having kids Blush.

SheGotBetteDavisEyes · 07/12/2017 12:28

I would be absolutely livid if anyone woke me up at 4am for sex. Sleep is precious!

Yep, same here. 4 am? When you're in a lovely deep sleep? God, I'd hate that.

Glad your DH didn't though OP Grin

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