To tell my boss interviewee is a dick?

[girlingerrupting]

I left my old job because of a cabal of sexist and bullying men. I was hired in my new one without mentioning it too much and wanted to leave it all behind.

Two in particular were hard to deal with. One was busy sleeping with assistants (through birth of his first child and beyond) being everyone's best friends but underneath a snake and undermining/scheming. Being straight forward I was pretty easy target. I was in my last job for more than 10yrs but last two nearly broke me and I ended up paranoid and cornered. I was being frozen out for speaking my mind.

Luckily new job really wanted me and after 2yrs have shed paranoia and am really enjoying myself again. Collegiate ambitious place. And I'm delivering for them.

Found out today we are interviewing one of the bullies who was so politically motivated! He was fired by the other horrible guy who found him too much of a threat..! Sounds like people like him...here (as people do because he's very good at winning everyone round and politics particularly with men).

So AIBU to try to block us hiring him? Risk really is that i may fail then I will be the person who didn't want great wonderful guy to come but he came anyway!!! So I must be the problem!! But if I don't I might regret it!!!

I'm crap at politics please help.....but so scared of hating my job again.

What Nocabbageinmyeye said.

It’s really simple. Tell boss your honest, full opinion (today) and then leave it be. You’ll have done everything you can then.

If you try and play both sides (which is what it sounds like you’re planning on doing) you’ll be caught out and then you’ll look like the devious untrustworthy one.

You seem to be assuming he’ll get the job l, and so want to get him on side before he starts, whilst simultaneously doing nothing to stop him getting the job.

I have to agree I wouldn’t want my employees meeting prospective candidates on the quiet. I would have thought enough posters had told you it was a terrible idea for you to have given up on it.

I don’t really know what else we can say to underline to you what a major misjudgement it is.

Apart from anything else it won’t prove anything. He’s highly unlikely to be anything but charming if he knows you work there.

I have to agree I wouldn’t want my employees meeting prospective candidates on the quiet

Me neither, really over stepping the mark & I would be seriously at that, possibly to the point of disciplinary if I could make it fit. It also seriously negates OPs negative opinion of the Interviewee. Also gives manipulative interviewee ammunition agains OP. Worst possible thing to do all round

It's a really bad idea to meet up with him at this point. If he's offered the job despite your (as yet not even communicated) objections then meeting up then might be a good idea but it's totally unwise to have any contact outside the recruitment process until that is concluded.

You should phone the person who asked your opinion and give it candidly. They clearly respect your judgement and if you disemble prevaricate and fail to give fair warning that they are in danger of being decieved by a massive twat who interviews well then that respect will not be deserved.