Am I getting old and grumpy ?? 'Making memories'

[ItsAllABitStrangeReally]

Making memories seems to be clogging .y facebook newsfeed.

Today it was feeding the ducks, yes, that childhood staple of feeding bread.in the.direction of ducks and being chased by angry geese is now worthy of being stuck on social media along with a long post from the parent, duck visitor patting themselves on the back for taking the kid.

I once had to help tease out a stuck poo from my sons arse, now THAT was a memory.

I know, I know. Im a twat but siince when has everyday stuff needed a twee paragraph to go with it ?!

It's fist clenchingly abhorrent. I honestly couldn't take a person seriously who trotted out that type of nauseating shite.

I had a couple of years of this from a friend with three DC. She was dying of cancer though, so genuinely was making memories for her children to have for a life time.

She died just over a year ago and that phrase makes me think of her. She was 32, far too young and I hope her children really will remember her, especially the youngest, who had not even started school at the time!

Playdates, making memories, Elves on Shelves, god I hate it. Hate this new fangled jargon.

I must be an old and grumpy bastard too then as I would find this eye-rolling! However, I rarely Facebook and when I do the people I see are far too old to be "making memories" with their own children so it is something I hadn't noticed.

I remember going on a tour of Anfield and everyone was there filming it on their I pads instead of just having the experience, and listening to the guide.

Oh god yes this^^

We were once on holiday in Canada and went to see this place called the spiral tunnels. Basically the trains need to get down a steep incline so, in order to avoid them all going out of control and crashing at the bottom, they have built a tunnel inside the mountain that goes round in a spiral so that the slope is not so steep. Because the trains there are often over a mile long it is sometimes possible to see a train where the front is coming out of the tunnel while the back is still going in IYSWIM.

Anyway, there is a viewing area and information boards that explain all about it. While we were there we were excited to see a train about to go through the tunnel so we stayed to watch. There was one guy there though who was laboriously filming the information boards around the viewing area and didn't even notice that the real thing was taking place right in front of him!

And another thing that pisses me right off about it all is the misuse of the hashtag in the first place. A hashtag is there to search for similar posts so why parents use it to tag their photos is beyond me.
#fuckinboilsmypiss

#3sleepstillholibobs

STAB STAB STAB STAB

DD’s best memory of her summer holiday, written about in her school book? We saw a dead eel on the beach, we hit it with sticks and I saw its guts! (Luckily “eel” was spelt as “eyul” so maybe the teacher didn’t know what she was on about.

Oh I’m #soblessed to be #makingmemories like this, it’s so #todiefor 🤢🤮

hate blooming hastags, #staroftheday#cleverboy#oxbridgebound Or #3partiesinonemonth#partyboy#partypartyparty.

I deleted this mum off FAcebook, and now its hashtag and boasting free.

ooooh one from my nephew

#famlam#specialdays#makingmemories

Ah yes. The Hashtags.

Just today I've seen, on the one post, #sobusy, #makingmemories, #precioustimes, #they'llthankmeformummytime.

I thought #fuckrightoffyoupretentioustwat.

Oh they really smack pretentious,boasty and nausiating.

Actually, my mum died a couple of years ago and I wish I had this sort of thing to look back on - our kids will have so much more to look back on than we did, I think that's wonderful. This time last year one of my twins just came out of hospital after spending almost his entire first three months in there and looking back at those posts shows me how far he's come, it makes me happy - I'm not sure who it's hurting. And frankly, I think kids whose parents want to make memories with them and post about it are fortunate to have parents that love them and want to make this effort. Of course some people go overboard but overall I don't think it's a bad thing.

I was once at the park during summer pushing dd on the swing when a woman and her two young children came along, they looked 4 and 6ish. They sat on a blanket and she gave them an ice cream and had her head stuck in her phone. The children spoke to each other, she said nothing, just stared at her screen. I then saw her wrapping her arms around her children to take a group smiley selfie! Cheeeeese! Happy faces! The children then ran off to play and she spent the entire time I was there glued to her phone.

I have a feeling she was #makingmemories too.

Not saying this is always the case but I DO think it's common. Too many people are more bothered about presenting a lifestyle rather than actually living it.

I like to call it Fakebook.

Then take photos Tammy and keep the memories with you, why does everything have to be plastered on social media now, what did we do back in the day. My dad died when I was 11, way before social media, all I have are photos and memories in my head and letters that he left. I think that's fine.

You have no control over what they will remember. One holiday cottage every member of our family fell down the stairs. Don't remember anything else.

And frankly, I think kids whose parents want to make memories with them and post about it are fortunate to have parents that love them and want to make this effort.

Tammy I think the thing that gets peoples goat is that this is not "making memories" it is just doing normal, everyday stuff that everyone does but taking photos of it and sticking it on social media. The DC will probably remember it just as much or as little if it remains undocumented; or photographed and saved for private viewing rather than plastered all over a facebook page.

Oh and BTW - nice implication that parents who don't photograph their offsprings' every move somehow don't love them as much!

#makingmemories #soblessed #myworld #daysrlongbuttheyearsrshort

The problem with memories is that the most enduring ones are associated with strong emotional moments. Either of happiness or unhappiness.
So, if you manage to get your children in hospital after being attacked by the ducks/geese, they'll probably remember it.
Just feeding the ducks/geese, not so much.

Sparklingbrook My DS had to make some 'memory bunting' at a club, with one flag for each of his most treasured memories. Did he put his trip to the Natural History Museum to see the dinosaurs or our epic journey from South Wales to Mull so he could visit the real Balamory? Did he heck. His bunting had three flags: 'Went to Top Gear Live', 'Went to Truckfest', 'Was sick in school'.

BTW, after taking DS on a week long trip with different things, including white water rafting, what did he say was the best bit of the trip?
A little dog that followed us along a path.

He's older than 5.

We just can't control this stuff.

It is very needy isnt it
like my post, like my pictures.

you can make memories and take photos without sharing to all, do people know this??

One of my most vivid memories was going to Folkestone on holiday and all us children being sick that night after a day swimming in the sea. Our parents thought the sea was polluted.

I read an article that predicts FaceBook will completely disappear in the next five or ten years, especially with the rate the tech world is moving forward.
Photos on it won't be life long memories to look back on necessarily as you might with actual physical copies of a photograph.

you can make memories and take photos without sharing to all, do people know this??

They don't seem to. We should invent some new hashtags- #showingoff, #selfobsessed, #nobodyelsecares, #tedious. Etc etc.