For being on my phone

[Marissa2727]

Have been watching Tv with DH and he has gone off in a massive sulk because I have been on my phone some of the time.
He told me off several times for being on my phone during the programme. He then got more and more angry and ended up shouting at me several times.
It's not like I do this every time we watch tv together, just tonight I felt like doing that. I can't help feeling like I haven't done anything wrong though! He just turned the light off in the lounge while I am in here stomped off upstairs shouting get off your f*ing phone now. He also had a go at me because I didn't eat all of my dinner. I feel like this is a bit too controlling.

I think being on the phone whilst you're watching tv with partner is not particularly nice as you are in your own world as opposed to experiencing something as a couple. I hate it but have got used to it cos I figured this is just modern life now. Your dh over-reacted but perhaps try seeing why he was annoyed and put away your phone for a happy marriage!

YANBU - firstly, you have a right to spend your time as you wish. I really dislike it when people expect you to be glued to the same film/tv programme they're watching.

Secondly, his way of objecting to this was controlling and abusive. Even if you had been disturbing him in some way (which it doesn't sound as though you were) a reasonable response would have been to ask politely if you could go into another room - shouting and getting angry to the point where you were scared is not an acceptable way for someone to behave.

If some one tells you what to eat, when and how to watch tv, when to go to bed and leaves you in the dark when they leave the room to be a knob you need to making an exit plan. Sounds like you've swopped one tosser for another type of tosser

OP I think outofmydepth45 is right.

I also think/know not all posters will have read all the posts.

I think being on the phone whilst you're watching tv with partner is not particularly nice as you are in your own world as opposed to experiencing something as a couple.

‘Experiencing’ a tv show ‘as a couple’?? Get real.

Do you also think it’s rude to read a book in the same room as someone watching tv? Because if so, you’re bonkers.

He's abusive op.

Husky no i don't think reading a book is the same thing as using your phone but i would think it odd if we were meant to be watching something together - if we're not really watching the tv but its on, then do what ever you like. But if we've made an effort to sit down and watch something then watch it. Someone playing some crazy game that requires them to stab the phone in a manic manner is just not relaxing. Like I say I've got used to it but I find it annoying.