To find the whole concept of in-laws annoying

[munkynutts]

Is it just me?
Re your partner's family, in my case my boyfriend's.
I mean, they're okay and stuff and I go with the flow and chatter away with them at family stuff and get them thoughtful gifts and all the stuff you're supposed to.

But it just feels annoying - they're a close-knit family and they aren't people I would choose to be friends with even though they're nice enough. I dont want the pressure of hanging out with someone else's family and listening to in jokes and rambling anecdotes and reminiscing. I totally get those are all valuable things, but why do I have to be a part of it?

Doesn't it seem weird when you think about it, that you choose to go out witj someone and then are kind of expected to blend with their family? I mean nice, but still, weird?

With one exception, my in-laws are lovely, especially my MIL. One of DP's BILs is awful (racist, misogynist and thick) but we pretty much ignore him. I feel like I'm among my own family when I'm with them.

My ex's family were dreadful though, completely dysfunctional and frankly embarrassing.

Whatever you think of your own inlaws, I don't think it's in any way an odd concept. It would be far odder if the norm was to have no relationship with your partner's parents.