Behaviour at concerts/theatre/cinema

[Paddington68]

Last night I went with a friend to Wembley at see STEPS, yes they were brilliant, thank for asking. My friend kept glancing back to two women behind us and I became more and more aware that they were chatting. No about the concert or STEPS but about I said this he said that, blah blah. STEPS were on the stage at the time. The woman next to me was also bothered by them and rolled her eyes to her husband/boyfriend.
After them talking through three songs, I turned and said,
"I've paid to see them (pointing to the stage) not listen to you, so can you pipe down." The woman I spoke to said "sorry." like a tantrum four year old and looked at me like dirt.
AIBU to think that people no longer know how to behave and need to be told.

Yanbu.
It's the thousands of mobile phones being held up in front of you that do my head in. Are they really going to rewatch a mobile phone recording of the concert? Even if it is STEPS.

I agree. Many people are selfish, rude and/or clueless about how they impact others with their behaviour.

As Sartre said, “Hell is other people” - this is true now more than ever !

What gets me is people laughing at inappropriate moments in films I just dont get it.
Worst I ever experienced was howls of laughter during 12 years a slave whipping scene.

YANBU to want her to stop chatting.

YABU to be so rude in the way you told her.

YANBU. I went to see Imogen Heap do a one off concert with a full choir singing Hide and Seek. The seats in front and next to me were completely empty for the acts in the first half, then some time into the second half when Imogen is on these people rolled in together, sat in front and next to me and were passing around a water bottle filled with vodka. Then when she comes to Hide and Seek the guy in front sings REALLY loud and off key through the whole thing and totally ruined it. I was so gutted, I am never going to get the chance to hear that again.

If they'd been there in the first half I'd have said something to the stage team in the interval but they rolled in halfway through the second half and ruined the finale. People all told them to shut up but they just laughed.

It would have annoyed me, but don't know if I'd have actually said something. Maybe a bit of passive aggressive tutting lol!

I would be less hung up about this at a pop concert. But I'm fed up with people using mobiles during theatre and cinema. It's completely unnecessary and spoils it for others because the texting and the glow is distracting. Why pay something like £50 for a theatre seat and then use Facebook? Brings out the rage.

Yanbu. So bloody rude.

Kids are the same in lessons at schools these days. The whispering and rudeness of people is rife.
Like they are so important it must be sad right now.
Entitled!

We had this with a group behind us at a Broadway show. They talked through a good 15 minutes of the first part of the show, and not quietly either. You could see rows of people getting the hump and twitching with anger until finally one women turned around and lost her shit at them. They shut up sharpish, didn't speak again and slunk out at the intermission never to return.

Chatting about inane bullshit at gigs pisses me off it's always right behind my ear as well, if you want to chat do it at the pub beforehand, or go to the bar area, other people want to hear what is going on from the people they've paid money to see, same goes for the bellends who scream along to every song. As for dickheads who watch the entire gig through a mobile phone or even worse, a fucking ipad (I've seen it done), congrats you've now got some suboptimal video and audio footage of a gig you once attended, which after about a couple of days you'll probably never watch again and quickly forget about.

I've seen a ipad recording as well..dont get It! Enjoy the moment. Surley better to see it for yourself then though a screen which when you watch back will be far from the experince it was.

I was at a youth awards ceremony recently where the man next to me made a phone call immediately after a solo item and proceeded to give a long and detailed analysis of the performance we'd just seen to the singer's mother. Right down to "Yeah, she seemed a bit nervous but I reckon she got away with it." Poor kid - about a third of the audience could hear exactly what he thought of her song.

And a performance of Cats where a family chatted all the way through the final performance of Memory, which would have been a huge emotional climax (singner was superb) if it hadn't been for their inane chatter.

Yes I think people have forgotten how to be respectful of others at live performances. I'm sad to say I suspect the cat is out of the bag and it will become the norm.

They must have been shouting at each other for for you to have heard them , I sat behind two men at a concert on Friday night and they chatted at times and I couldn’t hear a word they were saying . People should be quiet in cinemas and the theatre but I think concerts are a bit different .

I once stood next to a woman who was filming a gig on two mobiles, holding them aloft one in each hand, and talking away to her friend at the same time. I still hate her.

Concerts are not different. Ask the people performing what they think of those talking through their set, for example.

At a small one man acoustic gig I went to, a lady came in mid way through, set her drink on the stage at the singer's feet, and proceeded to dance like one of pans people in the semi-circle of clear space for 2 songs then wandered off again.

I haven't been to the cinema for several years. People talking throughout, playing with their phones, eating buckets of popcorn and smelly enormous hot hogs, leaving piles of litter, kicking the back of my seat etc...It just used to do my nut in. It's like people are in their own little bubble and have no concept of others.

I can't stand talking at the cinema.

Several times now I've been to see films rated 12 at the cinema and someone has taken a younger child who clearly doesn't understand the content and has sat asking questions throughout the whole film. The parents never shh them either they always sit there answering them.

I saw Deacon Blue a few years ago in a reasonably large venue. There was a group of people really loudly and annoyingly chatting and laughing right from the start. A few songs in Ricky Ross stopped all the music and told them to be quiet cos people had paid money to hear the band play not them talk.
It was an awesome moment.

I went to see Steps too and they were so bloody loud there was no chance of hearing anyone talking! Were you far back from the front or something?

I find disabled viewing platforms the worst for this. Sometimes you get carers/family members who obviously aren't interested in the act and chat away, sometimes you get special needs people who chat away (more difficult one to police). Even somewhere with great disabled facilities (like the Academy Manchester), the support act, and hangers on, often comes on to the viewing platform and chats away.

And you can't really move somewhere else because then you won't be able to see.

I've noticed this more and more over the last few years and it's everywhere.

I will admit to being told off at the ballet . We paid a small fortune to see Swan Lake at our local theatre being performed by one of the Russian ballet companies, so we were expecting it to be fantastic. It wasn't. I have never been so bored in my life. I know the story well but couldn't make head nor tail what was going on or who was who.

We were sitting in front of a Box and the people in there were having a fabulous time, singing along (WTF??!!) and having a chat. The people in the next box to them were having a picnic!

My DD asked me "is that man the prince?" in a really quiet voice, just as another lady further along asked the same question to her companion (it really was difficult to work out). I told her I thought it was and the woman immediately in front of me, who had moved from somewhere else, turned round and said "will you please be quiet!" I was mortified. But then, having got the reaction she wanted, carried on with "you've been talking all evening". At that point I was really ready to have a go at her and stopped feeling bad about disturbing her. The fact was I hadn't been talking at all until that point, and the people she could hear were in the Box. It was a bit of a lesson in less is more because she made me so angry with her second comment that I could have slapped her.

I am now very careful to make sure of my facts before I tell somebody else to be quiet!

Yanbu. Why pay money to go if you've no interest. We had this with a bloke sat behind us watching a comedy show. He kept clapping at the wrong times n shouting ffs. And then proceeding to tell his mates how shit he thought he was.

Went to a concert recently at the Hammersmith Apollo - I really like this place as a venue, it's far better than somewhere like the O2, and the last time I went to the Apollo it was great. This visit, I just didn't get people. I expected the mobile phone thing, loads of people had their phones out - you're missing the real experience but you snooze you lose - it was everything else.

People would not sit the hell down. People were constantly up and down to go to the toilet (I made sure I did that before the main act started), then up and down multiple times to go back and forth to the bar for drinks and snacks for them and their mates. There was one woman kept blocking the stairs (you know, the fire exit) by just standing on them and had to be told multiple times by staff not to do that. Then she went to stand at the back for a while, then came back to her seat, then back to stand, then returned to her seat. Up and down, up and down.

A load of people left before the encore as well. I didn't really get that. They just opened up the fire exit and marched out while the rest of us stayed for the final half an hour. I do get it if you're pressed for time, but the concert wasn't running late.

You bought seated tickets for a reason, prepare yourself, sit down and enjoy the show, stop bothering everyone else in the row by getting up 7 times in two hours.