Behaviour at concerts/theatre/cinema

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Last night I went with a friend to Wembley at see STEPS, yes they were brilliant, thank for asking. My friend kept glancing back to two women behind us and I became more and more aware that they were chatting. No about the concert or STEPS but about I said this he said that, blah blah. STEPS were on the stage at the time. The woman next to me was also bothered by them and rolled her eyes to her husband/boyfriend.
After them talking through three songs, I turned and said,
"I've paid to see them (pointing to the stage) not listen to you, so can you pipe down." The woman I spoke to said "sorry." like a tantrum four year old and looked at me like dirt.
AIBU to think that people no longer know how to behave and need to be told.

YANBU

you unfortunately can’t do much, however much you want to, including friends (I’ve checked the law) about people who sing badly at gigs however people who talk shit should be evicted immediately.

I use my phone to take one or two pictures to remember it by but that’s it.

I know some artists are making you check your phone into a case that’s then removed by a security tag thing when you leave the venue. I’m not that convinced that’s a good idea

There seems to be lots of poor behaviour at Joseph and his Technicolor Dream Coat. Last time I saw it I was sat next to a very smelly man who kept singing along. He was quite good at Cayman days though.

I was thinking about going to see STEPS but thought the tickets were too much. Also I hate Lisa Scott-Lee.

was on a train and a lady was having a really loud and painful conversation with her 2 colleagues. Although they couldn’t really get a word in edgeways.

After about 25 minutes a commuter from the other end of the train suddenly piped up ‘ for God’s sake will you just shut up, the whole carriage doesn’t want to hear about x, y ,z.’ Everything went silent. The lady took a breath . . . and started talking again.

I went to see Joseph in London years ago as an office Christmas outing. Small children who were being told to be quiet when they dared to sing along were scandalised as our group of supposed adults sang and drowned out the cast at times. I refused to go out with them again the following year.

I have the feeling that any other way of speaking to her would have totally ineffective.

YANBU

I sat near two girls once in the cinema. They were talking loudly and everyone was giving them shitty looks but no one said a word. I asked them to be quiet and they got up and left. Thank goodness.

I think it’s a case of reverse evolution. People are gradually regressing to the chimpanzee state.

Last year took dc to see matinee performance of family Christmas show as (expensive) treat. It was completely ruined by random picnickers eating throughout, talkng and passing food around (including between us). Also accompanying adults ' gave running commentary because their kids were too busy noshing and chatting to follow the performance.They were oblivious and theatre staff just shrugged when asked to intervene ( & I wasn't the only one complaining). Makes me sad that we seem to have replaced kindness and concern for others ( i.e. good manners) with virtue signalling on social media. And that's apparently ok because we're all 'entitled' to do what we want. Or at least that's the entitlees world view until someone else suggests that their behaviour isn't socially acceptable and then they're victims of the mean people who obk ct to them behaving like tantrummy toddlers. Rant over but not wasting time and money this year.

DH & I got cinema unlimited cards for Christmas last year so have been going a lot more than usual. There are so many idiots who use their mobiles throughout the entire film, either talking on their phone or checking messages/Facebook etc. Why can’t grown adults go without checking their phones for 90 minutes?

DH, DS and I went to the cinema on a Tuesday morning last half term. DS's school is in the next county and had a different half term to the cinema town, so there were no other kids there, but we had obviously chosen pensioner morning and it was absolutely packed. Everyone was greeting everyone else like a regular and there was a very jovial atmosphere.

But once the film started there was complete silence. It was absolutely my best cinema experience in a long time.

I agree. I went to a child's production a couple of weeks ago and 2 parents talked through the whole thing. I was raging by the end of it.

It annoys me at things like the cinema etc where you have to be quiet but I couldn't imagine being at Wembley at a music concert and even being able to hear two people have a conversation tbh. I was there to see Cold Play a while back and you'd literally have had to shout at eachother to hear yourselves

I went to see Paddington recently at the cinema and you could hear a child had obv bought their tablet with them. Every now and then you could hear whatever they was watching. We were right at the back and they were in the middle somewhere and could still hear it so I felt sorry for the people sitting by the family. I thought that was rude.

I'm going to see Steps this week, bit worried now coz I get well annoyed with inconsiderate people... Let's hope they ain't next to me lol!

I was at the Albert Hall recently in the nose bleed seats and you could see directly down to the front 20 or so rows (people who paid over 60 for each seat) and for the vast majority you could see nothing but a sea of little lights as they sat with their phones on. Do people really not think £60+ is a huge amount to pay to then sit on Facebook during the performance?? I don’t understand it!!

Last had this at the cinema when watching Dunkirk. The opening scenes that frame the mood and hopelessness, the haunting music all ruined by two women sitting behind me having a normal volume conversation. I politely ask them to stop talking, they look at me as if I should apologise for interrupting their conversation before they just ignore me carrying on chatting. Other cinema goers are now shushing them as well and they natter away at which point I spin around seething and say 'is there any chance of you two shutting the fuck up'. Lots of muttering and 'well I never' noises before another person tells them to shut up as well. It was really odd, they honestly thought they were the wronged party. Got further filthy looks from them after the film and I have to confess I could not resist firmly pointing out exactly why they had pissed off half the cinema.

I had that in Dunkirk too. A load of teenage girls who had come just to ogle Harry Styles.

They wouldnt stop laughing and talking.
Then they made a grand exit waving and shouting goodbye to everyone.....and one of them fell down the stairs.

Fuck I laughed.

Where are the cinema staff and ushers at theatres when all this antisocial stuff is going on?

The amount of complaints on here show it's a definite problem, so why not do something about it?

Ask your cinema or theatre to have an announcement before the performance, saying that people have paid good money to see the film or acts and do not want to be disturbed by other people talking, eating and moving around in front of them.

Then make it very clear that anyone disturbing other people will be asked to leave.

It's very sad when good manners go down the pan, but instead of letting the minority spoil things, please try and ask the venue to do their bit too. If that means telling the few who don't know how to behave beforehand, then so be it.

There are generally no ushers in cinemas anymore.

There is a clip at odeon before every film telling you to turn off your phone and finish your conversations as the film is starting. People ignore it.

I can't remember the last time I saw an usher in a cinema. Most of the people who work in cinemas round here are teenagers on minimum wage so I doubt they'd be very enthusiastic about asking a group of disruptive patrons to leave.

At one cinema where the disruption was particularly bad (shouting, laughing, chatting, phone calls, abusing other patrons who asked them to be quiet), I went to ask staff outside that they were removed. The cinema refused. I complained to the manager after the film and her reaction was just to give me a refund, despite the fact I explained that I didn't want a refund, I just wanted the cinema to take action when some people were being disruptive. She basically just shrugged and said there was nothing they were prepared to do.

We went to see John Bishop in Manchester over the weekend and 2 women next to us were talking as he came on and for about 10 minutes until the woman in front of them asked them to please stop talking as she couldn’t hear.

They were just chatting about their day, friends, kids etc - it was very strange. The tickets aren’t cheap for these things either.

And I never record anything on my phone, it never sounds the same and I’d rather SEE it properly with my own eyes, not through a phone.

I went to see James Taylor about 10 years ago and there was a spare seat next to me then a woman and her husband. She had been drinking and talking all through the support act then got more drinks in her. By the time James Taylor came on , she was pushing her Husband, swearing, throwing bottles and then threw up everywhere. Husband tried to pull her out and she scratched him down the face and neck. They both got thrown out.

I don't get why anyone pays any sort of money for any sort of performance and then act like that or talk through it etc.

DH and I were on a cruise.
I wanted to hear a piano recital given by a lovely Japanese girl.
Sitting near us was two Welsh guy chatting non stop, not even trying to speak quietly.
Several people gave the 'the look' but they carried on.
I was so mad. Told them to shut up or clear off as we were all the to listen to the recital and not to their crap.
Their wives came and claimed them a few mins later. Why are some people so rude and ignorant.

I remember going to see a film with DH years ago... about a year after Dom Joly and trigger happy tv did the recurring 'Nokia ringtone HELLO I'M IN THE CINEMA' joke... a group of teenagers were doing it nonstop.
During the adverts I ignored it.
During the trailers we glared at them a few times.
They kept going it as the film started.
Then this Huuuuuuuuge guy, looked like Mike Tysons older pissed off brother, stood up and yelled 'If you don't all shut the fuck up, I'll make you'

They shut the fuck up.

Mike tysons brother got a round of applause.

people are used to being at home, getting up, sitting down, talking,eating etc so the behaviour is just transferred.Lionel Ritchie once made a point at a concert in Mcr arena when he could see people getting up to go the bar etc. Once saw a show by Eric Clapton and the band were just motoring thro' a big song and I noticed a guy walk the full length of the arena with a tray of drinks and sit down front row centre stage. Couldn't figure out why you would leave that seat to buy overpriced drinks but thats how people are now. phone conversations/selfies/Facecloth all while the performance is going on