Helping family members financially

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I was born in a poor country and moved here as a child. I am now in a high paying job and pay school fees for some of the children in my family back at home. I'd like to pay for the rest of the children and do more to help other members of my family, but my income doesn't quite stretch to that. My husband is very wealthy. So much so that my income - while high- is a tiny fraction of his.

Would it be unreasonable to ask him to help support my family? I'm sure he would agree if I were to ask, but should I even ask? I really don't want to take advantage of his generosity.

Erm your income is less than a tenth of his?

So you send 1000s.

He is on 200,000 you on 20,000? You imply you're on a great salary so if that's £50,000 he would be on £500,000? So affordable for him?

Excuse my maths it's early.

already work 65-75 hours per week

That is a lot of hours! What job do you do?

OP you are married to this man, no? Why are people saying he is "already subsidising you" and this kind of thing? This is an odd set-up. Why would your money not all be joint in the first place? How can he be "paying your bills?"

If all your money was joint, as it should be really as a married couple, you could then have the conversation about how much you are both prepared to commit to helping the people in your home country.

If you're planning to have children if your own, don't underestimate the impact of school fees in this country.

I'm from a Southern European country and my DH is a very high earner. I've been a SAHM for years. We have helped out some family members e.g. rebuilding houses etc. It's not quite the same as ongoing school fees though, admittedly.

I think if you're doing this it has to be thought of as a family commitment going forward, not just you paying up. Otherwise it's going to get very complicated if you have your own DC.