To take a home made cake into work for my birthday knowing at least one person doesnt eat homemade?

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for reasons I cannot fathom

Sounds lovely! The only homemade cakes I avoid are the school bake sale ones. You take a look at the table and Joshua's Mum tells you proudly how she and Joshua made them together and he iced them all by himself then look at his snot and filth smeared face and fingernails and wonder about all the rest of the lovingly iced cupcakes on the table...

However presuming OP that you don't have snot smeared over your face and dirty fingernails I wouldn't pander to the colleague!

Weird. Unless you have a reputation for poor hygiene, what's not to like about a home made cake? Take it in and let her go without. Her choice.

Yanbu to take in your home made cake; but you wbu to comment on your colleague not accepting any. And tbf there will probably be more than one person who declines for one reason or another (not criticising your cake op! Just meaning likes / dislikes / diets / intolerances..)

they are of the eeeew camp

Fuck em then.

Its just another way for people to draw attention to themselves isn't it?
'I don't DO homemade because I am special and have special requirements I want you all to know about'
Rather than 'no thank you, I'll take some for later though'

I'd love someone to make me a homemade cake. I can't understand the germ issue. In fact I'd be more worried about some disgruntled person in a factory who has just been refused a pay rise or day off sticking their finger up their bum and dipping it in the cake mixture. I an honestly say that I avoid shop bought stuff and make my own food from scratch due to my day dreaming about what people get up to in food processing plants.

YANBU take what you want.

However, just to put a another perspective on it, I sometimes find it very hard to eat food made by others, especially if I don’t know them very well. I have food phobias and anxiety that started very young in childhood and if I’m having a particularly anxious time, the whole food thing can be exacerbated as a symptom. Its totally irrational, call it ‘neurotic’ if you like but it’s very real and it really sucks for me sometimes. I don’t want to be this way. If I were your colleague though I’d not take offence at you taking in a homemade cake, I’d just politely decline.

Take it in. Anyone who doesn't want any just says ' no thank you'. No need for great British fat-off drama.

Man. If you start pandering to one you'll have to pander to all! No home made because so and so doesn't like it. No chocolate cake because so and so doesn't like it. No lemon drizzle... You get the picture.

If I were your colleague though I’d not take offence at you taking in a homemade cake, I’d just politely decline.

This exactly. Being considerate and having good manners goes both ways.

If she is so fucking rude to voice...ewwww homemade, then she does not deserve to be taken into account at all

Let the rest eat (homemade) cake

The majority of people I work with are like this, but then we do work with food so I wonder if that makes them think more about food hygiene. But they don't like telling people. So when someone from another department brings us stuff I usually get my own and then theirs as well. Which backfired recently with a piece of a really grim cake that smelled of fat but usually it's their loss! I don't bring in anything I bake, but recently we got a new colleague who like me doesn't what the big deal is so I might start bringing him a bit when I make stuff.

I’m weird, I never have either shop-bought or home-made cake or biscuits that people bring into work. I have it at home, but not at work. One team at my work brings treats in every day and I shudder when I see everyone dipping their hands into a massive bucket of popcorn. I have never seen anyone wash their hands properly in the ladies’ so it puts me right off!

OP, I think you should just bring in the cake you want and give it no further thought. People have the choice whether to eat it or not, and unfortuntely some people will be left out, but you just can't please everyone and trying to is a nightmare. You'd need a cake that's gluten free, lactose free, soy free, germ free, nut free, egg free, vegan, environmentally friendly, suitable for diabetics, home made but not shop bought...

I find it almost impossible to find any cake in the shops that does not have a trace of nuts warning so it's homemade all the way here.

Go for it. I never eat cake that's brought into work. I have coeliac disease so it needs to be gluten free. Sometimes they are, because one of my colleagues likes to eat gluten free for health, but I still don't eat it because I don't know how it was made, how clean their kitchen is, what their standard of hygiene in the kitchen is. I'm in the ewww camp for people I don't know well...sorry.

I’m a Home baker who won’t eat others people’s home baking 😬

I wouldn't take a shop anything...if they don't fancy my homemade that's their choice
Have a fab birthday

*Possibly worried about cross contamination and they have an allergy?

So yes, YABU.*

That would still be a possibility with a shop bought cake.

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I don't even think it's that much of an OCD issue or an anxiety issue the way it's often marked out on threads like these. It's merely personal choice. Not just cakes as far as I'm concerned. A colleague once brought in a massive bowl of pasta salad, she's lovely and I'm sure the pasta was delicious but I wouldn't have any.

The people who won't eat homemade cake - what on earth do you do if you go to someone else's house for lunch or dinner?

Do you refuse to eat all their home made food too? What if they've made something cake-like, like sticky toffee pudding or bakewell tart. Would you not eat that?

Well my colleagues have talked about not knowing how clean the person's kitchen is so I imagine if they were at their house they may feel differently.

vladmirs I also wouldn’t eat the pasta 😁

Pasta salad seems an odd sharing dish to bring into an office.

Places I’ve worked, when savoury foods have been brought in on birthdays, it’s been single serving stuff like sausage rolls, pork pies, samosas, cheese & onion pasties. Although this sort of savoury stuff was always from local shops rather than homemade.

I’m picky about this sort of thing but I really do believe you should take in whatever you like and people can eat it or not.