To be annoyed partner is not invited to wedding

[HonestTeacher]

I've been with my partner for nearly 10 years and we live together. My friend who is getting married has informed me that only I am invited to the wedding.

I know that she has never really liked him that much, not because he has done anything annoying, they just don't click/have anything in common.

Part of me thinks 'well it is her day so she can do what she wants'. The other part of me is quite hurt. I know his feelings are hurt too. I would never think of not inviting her partner to our wedding the year after (although I sort of don't want to invite him now).

Has this ever happened to you and how did you feel?

We get married next year.

I am not inviting my bil. He is a prick and I don't like him and he will be an arsehole all day.

I am also hoping and praying my best friend is separated from her partner because I don't want to invite him either.

If my dsis doesn't come because her dh isn't invited I would be hurt but understand why. Same with best friend.

But it's my day and I am not paying £50 a head to spend it with people I can't stand.

Maybe your friend really hates your dp for some reason? My bil and my friends partner are vile abusive cunts. Not saying your dp is but that's why I won't be inviting them.

I don't like my other bil either. Or my fil. They will be invited as I simply don't like them. The other 2 I really hate.

I think before you get too stroppy you need to find out what the status of everyone else invited is.

If the whole group is invited without partners then it's not an issue at all imo.

This wouldn't bother me but we aren't joined at the hip and do have separate friends.

Marriage vows are important, who wants someone they don't know well or have little in common with to be there for that. It should be family and special friends.

This happened to me. Wedding of really close male friend. Wedding in a barn in the middle of no where miles from where anyone lived necessitating a very expensive hotel room that you would have to of got a taxi to and from. I was invited to evening do only (random people who weren’t as close invited to all day with their partners). No invite for DP (kids were also excluded - “we hope you enjoy a night away from your children”. Needless to say I politely declined. Made a point of inviting both to our wedding a couple of years later!

OP this does seem unfair. But I disagree with hermione above. We couldn't invite everyone's partners to our wedding. We were really tight on numbers (70, and we have big families) and costs. We didn't invite partners where we hadn't met them, even in some cases where they'd been together quite a while. I think this is fair enough. The only exceptions were where the person we wanted to invite didn't know any/many others there.