Will try and keep this as short as possible, DS went into A&E Wednesday night with breathing difficulty, got dropped off in the middle of the night by DH who then drove home and went back to bed (he didn't think it was that serious). Spent 7 hours in A&E on my own holding DS (he's 11 months and couldn't be put down as had to stop him pulling his oxygen mask/monitoring device off) was texting dm from 6am that morning that ds was being put on oxygen that I was on my own and then that he was being admitted to the ward. Dm only lives twenty minutes drive away so I was sure she would pop in to see me while I was on A&E, she is normally a really involved grandparent, looks after DS a couple of days in the week while I'm at work and loves him to bits, but only got text from her to say keep her updated. Dh came back from work and we got admitted to the ward. It soon became apparent that ds would definitely be staying in so was sure dm would drop in to see him as some point that day. Dh got a call from dm at 6.00pm to say she had an appointment at 6.30pm and couldn't make it as visiting hours finish at 8.30pm. I couldn't believe it, she had booked to go away for the weekend the next day so I get that she had stuff to sort out but I can't believe she was that busy she couldn't spare an hour. Then got text from her in the middle of the night saying could she pop in first thing in the morning, I was staying overnight with ds in the hospital we had such a terrible night I forgot to reply, but she text the same to dh and he said please do come. Roll on lunchtime the next day and I called her to see when she was coming to be told 1. She was leaving for her weekend away now, 2. Ds had me and dh and that all he needed 3. She spoke to her friend about what ds has and her friends daughter had the same and was fine, so its not serious (he's been on oxygen and nebuliser since he came from A&E 4. That she has a slight cold and doesn't want to give it to him and 5. That she was going to come in at 6am to visit but I never got back to her (I don't know a hospital in the world that has visiting hours that start from 6am) . I was really annoyed but didn't say anything at the time, she away now and text me lots but it still really make me sad that ds hasn't had any visitors, DH's mum and sister live abroad and even they have offered to come over and give us a hand and see ds. He has now been on the ward for two nights and will definetly be staying another at least, so whats really tipped me over the edge is dsister called last night to say would we like her to visit I said great and gave her visiting times, text her this morning to say what time was she coming and she now said she won't be there until tomorrow. I replied back with a snippy text which I now regret, but AIBU to feel let down. If it was either of them in hospital I'd be straight there, that day not on maybe on day 4.