To kick everyone on this bus who cheered?

[Sayyouwill]

So I'm sat on a very full bus and there was a lady with a young toddler in a pram. I can see where you think this is going... but no, not a bus/wheelchair debate, don't worry.

So the toddler was clearly upset at something and was crying and groaning. The mum was talking to her, pulling faces, rocking the pushchair (as best you can when the safety lock is on) to settle the toddler. Tbf, she looked knackered and at her wits end. When she pressed the bell to get off people cheered. As she was pushing the pram down he aisle one man yelled "thank god! Keep them indoors if you can't control them".
She looked so hurt!
I was raging! The poor woman was trying her best and it was a toddler for god's sake!!
I sort of said loudly and generally for them to pack it in but was drowned out by the cheers and giggles from everyone.
I'm still annoyed!

To all those doubting that this happened, I had something similar when my DS was tiny.

We were on a bus, he was in his pushchair, and for whatever reason started crying. I could not pick him up as my mobility problems were much worse than they are now, there were no seats available, and I would have been in danger of collapsing (and injuring him) if I'd got him out and tried to hang onto him one-handed on a moving bus while I was standing. So I just tried to pet him, talk to him, distract him, anything to settle him, cheer him up and stop him crying.

This wasn't good enough for a bloke at the back of the bus. He spent the entire time bellowing down the bus for me to pick him up. I tried to explain why I couldn't, but it didn't help. He threatened me with the social services, bellowed all my failings as the cruel, useless mum that I so obviously was, and so on. It went on and on. Nobody stood up for me, nobody offered me a seat or to help. I just had to endure this awful bellowing abusive man screaming PICK HIM UP YOU BITCH at me, and my crying DS until it was my stop.

tl;dr I believe the OP.

Was it the local asylum's Christmas outing?

I'm still mates with some hospital friends, they don't have this level of bad manners.

ArcheryAnnie - how horrible for you. People can be shits sometimes - I hate the thought of nobody sticking up for you.

Bus Wankers!

Arseholes.

Poor woman.

I once witnesses a woman trying to calm her toddler down. No amount of cajoling toddler, letting her get out, putting her back in, trying to distract her with drink/toy/snack was working.

It was clear the kid was just simply knackered and was refusing to give in. I felt so sorry for that lady bless her she looked completely exhausted getting off.
No one cheered though.

Probably because we're not all a bunch of ignorant twats who understand toddlers have off days just like us adults do.

Why are people doubting the op. I get buses and trains daily due to my job and have been doing so for years. I have loads of stories about idiots on them.

And yes this can happen with a whole bus or carriage joining in. I witnessed similar a few years ago with a last minute platform change resulting in a young student type guy getting on a local train rather than the long distance train he was booked onto. He grabbed the conductor at the first announcement and was obviously panicking as he was supposed to be travelling a long way and was now going to miss his train. The majority of the carriage were fucking awful to him. Laughing at the fact he was not going to get to his destination now. Shouting how stupid he must be to do this. And just generally sneering in a horrible loud way. I gave them the death stare but I don't think they noticed. I was getting off at the next stop so I told the guy where to go to get a train back to the previous station but I felt so bad for him. How would the arseholes on the train have felt had that been their son brother etc?

It's a bit like on here really with everyone piling on to tell the op they don't believe her

Thank you, kaitlin! It was pretty grim at the time.

This reminds me a bit of this

I want to give that Mom a hug. How horrible that people can be so nasty.

You do seem to have a lot of bad luck on busses. My bus-life is terribly uneventful.

Apologies, Unborn. That was in bad taste.

So what did you do OP, you know, considering you were raging? Did you speak up or silently seeth about it? If this did actually happen then I seriously hope you did the former...

To be fair, who wants to sit on a bus with a screaming toddler. And it's a distraction for the driver. I'd cheer...in my head.

To be fair, who wants to sit on a bus with a screaming toddler. And it's a distraction for the driver.

People don't travel on the bus for fun (most people anyway).

I once had someone say “thank fuck for that” when I got off a bus with my baby. He wasn’t even crying - he was about 10 months and doing a sort of happy squealing. I don’t know how I was meant to stop it!

Oh how horrible

I must say, I've seen people mutter to each other and look relieved in this type of situation but I can live with that. Actually cheering as she got off? What a nasty git.

There's an awful lot of deleted comments on this thread

Those people on the bus were absolutely awful. If I'd been there I would have tried to help the mum but I hardly use buses now because I have 2 under 3 and this kind of scenario scares me.

Toddlers do cry on buses, it's a boring journey and they're strapped in a pushchair. it's not usually practical to take them out as they don't understand about sitting still on a seat/lap etc. My boisterous 16 month old is dangerous on a bus if she's not in her buggy so we mainly catch trains. Unfortunately for the parent, it's not an option to just get off at any point, you are committed to the rest of the journey.

I hate this idea that parents should 'control their children' they're not little robots and have a mind of their own. All that pressure can cause a mum to be overly harsh when she wouldn't normally out of embarrassment and that can make matters worse. Toddlers who are crying don't need to be controlled like animals, they need understanding. They also have as much right to be there as everyone else. If other people can't tolerate it it's them who should take alternative transport not the toddlers.

ArcheryAnnie, that’s terrible a man abusing you on a bus calling you a bitch. Why didn’t the driver throw him off?
I’m a bus driver, have been for a few years. Babies, toddlers crying doesn’t bother me. It’s part of my job. I also have a child so am sympathetic to mums with crying children. If someone was abidive or aggressive to a vulnerable mum, I’d chuck them off.
As for old people sneering, well most of them don’t bloody pay for their bus travel anyway!

Okay so since getting home I've been busy so I've clearly missed loads of peoples posts which have been removed.
I can imagine what they said.
It did happen. I get two buses to work and back each day. I work 9-5 so get buses at peak times so yes I do encounter lots of weird and wonderful people.
You can doubt all you like if this happened or not, but it did.
I will admit I embellished at the end by saying cheers and giggles from everyone, as I was sat near the front so I can't comment on everyone at the back, but certainly the people who were sat near the lady and baby cheered. It was enough people to upset the lady.

Mamabear4180

I don't understand why my comment was deleted as it was not nasty or horrible in the slightest. Earlier posts that have been deleted I don't recall being nasty to OP either, just saying that they thought it was unlikely this actually happened. I've seen much worse left posted on other threads.

To be fair, who wants to sit on a bus with a screaming toddler. And it's a distraction for the driver. I'd cheer...in my head.

I'll tell you who doesn't..their mother. She doesn't enjoy any part of that and while you're silently cheering she's going home to deal with that tired kid not relax like you so maybe have a bit of empathy.

Oh that's odd Misson

Righto

Well, no point in this staying up. Was frustrated and wanted to vent as DH is away so I'm in on my own tonight and was pissed off.
Thought this was the place to do that. Clearly wrong.
I'm going to assume the vast majority of those who think I'm lying don't use public transport that often.