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Original poster

To ask for a 'discount' on my ticket to this Christmas party?

59 replies

GloriousGomez · 23/11/2017 15:55

A hobby group that I am part of is holding a Christmas party. Tickets are £25. The invitation specifies that they are NOT doing this to make a profit, it's just meant to be a social occasion and the ticket cost is purely to cover the booze and food - apparently there is going to be lots of booze Grin

Normally I would happily pay the £25 and make sure I drank my money's worth but I am pregnant so obviously won't be drinking.

AIBU to ask for a discount?! Or will that make me look petty?

Obviously if it was for a charity or something I would pay regardless of whether I will be drinking or not, but that's not the case and the organiser has specified that the party is not about making money..... I'd be happy to pay say £10 but £25 seems a lot as I'll probably just drink a glass of orange juice and have a mince pie.

Also my friend I am going with is not a big drinker and will only probably have a glass of wine (2 max) and she won't be asking for a discount. Am I being cheeky?

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 23/11/2017 15:57

I think its a bit petty not to contribute the full amount. There might be lots of food so you can have more than one mince pie....

AnneLovesGilbert · 23/11/2017 15:57

I'd plan to eat twice as much food as everyone and consider the ticket the cost of a fun night out. Or, ask if they'll make sure they have some really nice non-alcoholic drinks in.

PinkHeart5914 · 23/11/2017 15:58

I think it looks petty sorry. £25 is the price and don't see why being pregnant gets you a discount

As you say your friend won’t be drinking much either and she’s not asked for a discount and I don’t imagine anyone that isn’t a big drinker will

TheSnowFairy · 23/11/2017 15:58

YABU.

Tickets are priced at the amount they need to cover costs.

Simply eat a lot of food instead Grin

MissionItsPossible · 23/11/2017 15:58

Comes across as a bit cheeky if I'm honest though I can see where you're coming from.

Migraleve · 23/11/2017 16:00

It always amazes me how tight people can be. Honestly I would be embarrassed to ask this.

Leeds2 · 23/11/2017 16:00

I certainly wouldn't ask for a discount.

Original poster
GloriousGomez · 23/11/2017 16:00

Thanks - I suspected I was being a bit cheeky but just wanted a sense check! Baby brain!!

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AllTheWittyNamesAreGone · 23/11/2017 16:00

Cheeky.
It's £25 for a meal out with friends.

Chrys2017 · 23/11/2017 16:00

YABU and there's no way you can ask for that without looking like a dick. Think of it as giving something back for all those times when you "drank your money's worth".

Original poster
GloriousGomez · 23/11/2017 16:02

Not so much being tight, just planning my maternity leave and have things to buy for the baby, so £25 for a Christmas party is quite a lot especially on top of all the gifts I have to buy for family, work secret santa, Christmas tips for everyone and anyone

OP posts:
Charlesroi · 23/11/2017 16:04

Tupperware Grin

ThreeWheeledCar · 23/11/2017 16:05

sorry it would seem petty

Original poster
GloriousGomez · 23/11/2017 16:06

Thanks everyone for confirming I would be being petty Grin

Just to clarify, it's not a meal - the food will be mince pies, maybe a few cheese straws etc. This party is definitely about the booze not the food!

OP posts:
Guavaf1sh · 23/11/2017 16:08

Well done! For listening that it. Though the best AIBU threads are when a consensus against the OP becomes a drip feed of doom

RunningOutOfCharge · 23/11/2017 16:11

You seem to want to keep pushing for different answers op!!

Yabu

cheminotte · 23/11/2017 16:14

I don't think yabu.
£25 is an awful lot for cheese straws, crisps and mince pies!

BarbaraofSevillle · 23/11/2017 16:25

So it's just booze and a few nibbles?

£25 would buy two bottles of £10 wine per person, a tub of pringles and a box of mince pies each, plus something else, as they're on offer everywhere right now.

YANBU to not want to pay £25 for that, especially when you can't drink. Who came up with that figure? Or does the money include room hire, raffle prizes, presents for everyone?

hardboiled · 23/11/2017 16:26

When I don't want / can't pay for something I simply avoid going. Simple.

GreenShadow · 23/11/2017 16:28

I'd feel a bit miffed too but then I guess there will be quite few others not drinking for various reasons (driving etc) so if they all asked for a discount, it would have an impact on the event.

Considering what food is on offer however, could you have a quiet chat with the organiser and say you'd love to come, but couldn't justify spending that sum on a few nibbles and see what she says..

RhiannonOHara · 23/11/2017 16:30

I'm sticking up for the minority view! I agree with '£25 is an awful lot for cheese straws, crisps and mince pies!'

I don't drink and wouldn't pay this much to go to a party for this and a sparkling water or whatever.

I just wouldn't go, but then again I don't like parties, so I wouldn't be going anyway whatever the cost.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 23/11/2017 16:33

I think YABU.

The price is the price. You can't have everyone offering different amounts on what they expect to eat or drink.

Pearlsaringer · 23/11/2017 16:34

YABU, but not very. There will be others arguably not getting their money’s worth either (veggies, designated drivers etc) so a line has to be drawn somewhere. It would be reasonable to ask what they are providing for non drinkers - there’s a non alcoholic prosecco I’ve seen raved about on here.

hardboiled · 23/11/2017 16:36

It would be reasonable to ask what they are providing for non drinkers
That.

grannytomine · 23/11/2017 16:38

I sympathise, as a lifelong teetotaller I feel I have subsidised other people's drinking habits for a very long time.