People who post on their partner's Facebook wall saying happy birthday

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Despite the fact they live with them and could (and hopefully have) said it to their face.

Particularly the OTT 'I love you so much, can't wait to celebrate tonight' variety which includes a collage of 17 favourite photos.

AIBU to think it's all for show? If IABU please forgive me it's 5pm on Tuesday (worst day of the week) and I'm grumpy!

Some people want to shout their lives out of their windows. If I'm reading FB, that's sort of my fault!

I don't mind them too much. I do have a friend who wishes her "amazing, gorgeous, thoughtful hubby" a wonderful birthday, on HER own page. He doesn't have Facebook and will never even see it. (Plus he's a bit of a prick).

Ha! Couldn't agree more.
Also wishing their children happy birthday, that won't even see it!
Just why? No-one except you gives a shit.

Op, its been a long day here too

Very very weird.

First world problems! Who cares...

YANBU

If these people phrased it a bit differently, it would be less annoying. “DD is 2 today, woohoo!” instead of “Happy 2nd birthday to DD, mummy loves you to the moon and back!” or “Looking forward to celebrating DH’s birthday later” instead of “Happy birthday DH, you’re the most amazing man ever” at least that would make more sense!

Yes I am the FB police 👮‍♀️

People who post Happy Birthday messages with a photo of themselves & the recipient. Usually a photo in which the poster looks gorgeous and the person celebrating their birthday looks awful.

I dislike this behaviour as well.

DH and I literally just write ‘Happy Birthday’ but it’s an in joke between us. I know how ridiculous it looks but also the ott messages are quite sweet. I’d be mortified if he actually did it but sometimes I read others praising their partners and think, ‘oh, it would be a nice surprise if DH did that’

What gets me is that people do birthday messages for DD by posting a pic of her and then and tag myself and DH in it. That I find all levels of weird. Especially when 65 of THEIR friends who DD has never met then like it

One which sticks in my mind was when a friend posted that she was driving her son to a university open day and followed it with another post something along the lines of "I'd just like to wish son's name good luck as we make our way to such and such university for an open day"
He's sitting there next to you - tell him!

I think its nice.. Then others online who may know them but havent caught up in a while, can say happy birthday too. FB is 90% this kind of crap anyway so what do you expect? Tbh I can't see what would bother you about this at all.

Yep. Fucking irritating regardless of what day of the week it is. Overall I find everyone's Facebook personas irritating so more fool me for using it. When I get 'On this day' notifications I even find my old posts nauseating.

Eeeek! I’ve done this. Didn’t realise I’m making myself look like a twit! Will cease immediately

Always seems attention seeking to me "I'm so glad I met you, your the most amazing hubby in the world, everyone please look at this and notice how wonderful my life is!" But 'Hubby' hasn't checked his Facebook since 2009.

Same as those statuses talking to their toddler as though they can read. "Thanks Tarquin for vomming all over mummies brand new expensive bed sheets, I really wanted to spend the afternoon cleaning up half digested alphabet spaghetti". Dude, unless he's off to Mensa next week, Tarquin is a baby and cant read. No one cares about your bed sheets!

Or posting long statuses talking to people who have passed away as though they're going to be checking facebook. "You always knew what to say Gran". I think its safe to assume your Gran is not reading your Facebook wall for the afterlife. If you want people to know you miss your Gran, just say "I miss my Gran".

This is why I shut down my Facebook.

It’s cheaper than a card 🤣

I don't mind. It's just a way of saying to the world this is a special day and this is how I feel. It's really not an issue.

Its incredible. How dare they use facebook differently to you!!

But most of Facebook is for show. Even if some people pretend they're oh so private (!), don't post up about family or everyday things (yet surprise surprise, they're on FB ). What do you expect? Going by the various MN complaints about it there'd be no content on it if some had their way.

I don't mind them because I find them hilarious. It's free entertainment.

I don't see the issue. I like to scroll back through my facebook sometimes and see the nice/sweet/jokey messages people have left me, including the ones from my partner (and everyone else who saw me that day).

I have to bin the cards because I don't have space to keep them. I can't read the texts easily because they're miles deep in message chains. Phonecalls get forgotten. But the facebook messages are still there when I need some warm fuzzies.

I knew someone who did this out of pure insecurity. So whilst she posted 'happy birthday, can't wait until later, love you' she was really saying 'fuck off all Dave's female Facebook friends, he's mine'!

I have friends that do it for their young children. Along with a post that goes on about their gorgeousness.

Most odd.

So is it an issue because she is saying it to a partner? As in, it wouldn't be an issue if saying it to children? If so thats a bit off key isn't it..its nobody else's job to differentiate, why even bother unless you have a vested interest? A friend of mine would always go on about this, but it was because she had a vested interest ie interested in the man, so transferred that as irritation towards his girlfriend mentioning him on FB. If you've nothing to say when a woman posts re her DCs or her friends or relatives birthdays but you specifically zone in when she says it to her man then, the problem is you

I don't understand it either, especially the

"Happy 2nd birthday to my baby boy, you are mummy's everything, our bond is so strong"

Your child is 2 it still sucks it's own foot, it can't read.