People who post on their partner's Facebook wall saying happy birthday

[moutonfou]

Despite the fact they live with them and could (and hopefully have) said it to their face.

Particularly the OTT 'I love you so much, can't wait to celebrate tonight' variety which includes a collage of 17 favourite photos.

AIBU to think it's all for show? If IABU please forgive me it's 5pm on Tuesday (worst day of the week) and I'm grumpy!

I do post on dh's Facebook when it's his birthday but usually it's 'ha ha, you're old'.

just why? No-one except you gives a shit

that is where you are wrong though. Lots of us happen to give a shit about friends and family birthdays, and their kids/partners. You don't have to, but don't assume no-one does.

It irritates me too and also (though I am horrible for it) the 'happy birthday nan in heaven hope you're having a lovely day with uncle Fred. Love you to the moon and back birthday angel '
I bet nan wasn't even on Facebook when she was alive!

It the happy birthday to dead relatives that give me The Rage" "Happy birthday Uncle Whatever, you would have been 125 today"
Who the fuck is that for?

Great minds there fishy !

I posted happy birthday for my DS today.

He won't see it as he's just turned 10 so not on FB. I even posted a photo of him opening a present with it.

It's a special day for him, and me so it seems natural to mention it on fb. I have people who like me on my friends list so everyone was nice and told me to tell him happy birthday and I had the obligatory "where has the time gone?" conversation.

Im not attention seeking, just sharing something I think people who know me will care about - which is how I use fb. So ner. 😝

It is one of my pet peeves and when I see it it makes me want to NOT wish the person a happy birthday.

Main reason I shut down facebook a few years ago, it's full of utter crap like this.
Also full of 4/5 photo's all the same. Oh no actually they were looking in a different direction in 1 of them.
Cryptic statuses were the worst. E.g. today is awful, I can't believe this has happened.

Joe bloggs - oh hun what's up.
Facebook twat - I can't share pm me...
Arghhhhhhhh if you can't say don't bloody mention anything!!!!

Yanbu. I come off fb cos of shit like this.

It also irritates me when people email or call in for 'mentions' on the radio. 'Tell my wife Diane I love her so much and looking forward to going out later'

Tell her your fucking self!!!!

Beyond irritating. I unfriended my partner. Neither of us cares about it. We talk to each other.

I post to Dd on her birthday even though I see her, I like to do it.
I also post photos of my cats, my dinner and presents under the tree.
You should all block me immediately

It's really nuts. You're sitting in the same room with your "cheeky Chinese and pink fizz" yet still feel the need to carry out a conversation via FB complete with photos of your prawn balls.

I also get driven daft by the people who spend a whole afternoon of their forrin holiday writing #memories in seashells so they can show the world that they went all the way to the Greek Islands and were so fucking bored by day 2 that they had to resort to pinterest wankery.

It gives me the rage too, but not as much as the ‘happy birthday darling 1 year old’ crap.

If everybody told partners, friends, relatives everything themself, then there'd be no point to FB would there? What do people think social media is about? Yeah I roll my eyes at some things but I accept people will put their thoughts and doings on FB.

Why even be on it if you expect it to be some highbrow intellect thing? It isn't. Anything at all you post on there can be deemed attention seeking, because it really is entirely possible to keep your thoughts, your photos, your everyday doings etc to yourself. If you don't then you are the same as everybody else on there - in some way you want to be seen and heard. In some cases thats extended to wanting your family members to be seen, via you. Or you wouldn't be on FB..

FB is not compulsory. & anyone on there isn't a private person really, or FB would be the last place theyd choose for their utterings

Its fine to be that way but I don't see why people can't own it, instead of criticising. One man's poison and all that....if you are on FB criticising others then you can be sure that unless you are there and mute, then you aren't so different (or better than) everybody else.

The ones I know that do the 'happy birthday to my amazing husband, so lucky to have you blah blah blah' are the ones who are usually moaning about him and saying how crap he is.....gives me a laugh though. I don't believe anything anyone puts on Facebook.

There's people on my Facebook feed telling everyone how much housework they've just done, eg "washing on, beds changed, dinner in the oven, floors cleaned" wtf???

Oh good we havent had a "Arent I superior because I dont use Facebook" thread for at least half an hour.

A friend has posted today asking for recommendations for books, films, albums, and his wife has responded by saying oh, have you ever read ‘x’, I read it once and loved it. What? Could they not have just had that conversation on the sofa?

I’m not anti-facebook, it has its benefits, but sometimes people are so odd on it!

This thread makes me laugh. Is it just me who is laughing at the utter irony of people moaning about people sharing banal "drivel" about their day when they're posting shite on MN and doing the exact same thing?!

I mean, using a site that has people telling you that they're having spag bol for tea, or that little Johnny's done a poo on the potty for the first time etc etc etc..... much of a muchness!

@MistressDeeCee

I use it to share stuff with my friends who I don't get to see very much (most of which is totally ridiculous) but I don't live in the same house as them so I can't look them in the eye over my prawn balls and tell them that I've seen a unicorn themed version of VIPoo and they'd love it because they're kitsch, camp and smelly.

@Falconhoof1 I have a cousin that does that, I just cannot see the need.

I don’t understand what is allowed on FB then. So many of you seem to genuinely dislike your friends and all their little life moments. What is an allowable non-twattish FB update? We’re not allowed to post about kids or dead grans, about our partners, about our lunch, about holidays, about the boring mundane bits of life like cleaning sheets. So unless I’m sharing a BBC article about someone else’s Nobel prize everything is just disallowed?

Why are any of you even on FB? Just get off it and stop whinging fgs!

Or get better friends who fit into your view of how exactly social media should be used!

DHs sister wishes 'happy birthday' to him instead of buying him a card.

On her FB account.

DH and i aren't on there.

She knows neither of us are on there by the way.

We found out as DH was teasing her one year about her being the only one who always forgets his birthday.

And she said - but i always wish you happy b on FB ...

Riiight.

Next time it's her birthday he's going to post happy birthday to her on his carpentry forum. Which she's not a member of

I understand how it could be irritating. But a record of positive messages on Facebook is a far more pleasant thing than spending the same amount of time and energy bitching on mumsnet 😂 instead of being on the Internet, why not march up to their front door demanding to speak with them to let them know you don’t give a fuck about the birthdays of their partner or children?

I joke but seriously I’d bet you’ll be happier and less prone to this kind of irritation saying vapid happy things than pointless negative things.