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to expect DP to pay for his family?

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livemore · 21/11/2017 13:04

I am a complete newbie, so please bare with! But my DP has opened a bank account in his name, got his wages paid into it and is just drip feeding me money as I ask for it. His reasoning behind this is that I am not affectionate enough anymore. I am livid. I gave up a good job as he didn't like the environment I worked in, I then took a lower paid job to keep the family going (we have 2 DDs) After being made redundant I took the leap to work for myself which financially has its ups and downs, but DP said he would support me. Now he has cut off all money, I mean all money. He says he's not going to pay my direct debits, I have to pay them myself, which he knows I can't afford to.
I have no money, my business is only in its second year and only providing a "pocket money" income. I suddenly feel so worthless.
Any advice please .....?

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WhatwouldAryado · 21/11/2017 19:26

Leave. He'l have to pay to support his daughters and he can come to some sort of business deal with a sex worker as he seems tk think paying money is relatef to "affection".

ConciseandNice · 21/11/2017 19:27

Oh wow, he's abusing you. I hope you can see that. Imagine 10 years from now. Just awful. Even disregarding love etc, a decent human being doesn't act that way. It's abhorrent behaviour. Do whatever it takes to get rid. A lawyer. Now.

Bananamanfan · 21/11/2017 19:40

How old are your dds?

livemore · 22/11/2017 14:14

6 and 9

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livemore · 22/11/2017 14:17

thankyou sailorcherries , you have given me a bit of confidence and i'm getting my shit together today.

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VladmirsPoutine · 22/11/2017 14:25

Ltb. Make a claim via CMS. Gather the relevant documents you need before jumping ship. Then jump.

sailorcherries · 29/11/2017 20:22

livemore I've just seen your message. I hope it goes well x

Caroelle · 30/11/2017 15:44

Change bills to solely in his name otherwise you could end up with a very poor credit score.

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