I have a friend I have known for a couple of years. She is, how can I say, quirky and very outspoken. I would say bordering on rude. I have often wondered if she is aspergic.
She pops round for a cup of tea, always unannounced after school once a week. This isn't a problem in itself but I have started to really dread her visits.
Every time, without fail she will make a comment about me. She used to do this when we worked together, daily. She would comment on the way I walked, the clothes I wore " that don't suit you, your parting makes you look old, those shoes are horrible" etc etc. Then she would always tell me I was silly and sensitive if I challenged her.
I have low self esteem as far as my looks are concerned anyway.
Today I was showing her a hat I had bought. I put it on and she said that it really suited me ( so far so good) " yes it suits your hooked nose" ( my nose is large and hooked and I have always been paranoid about it)
I challenged her in a sort of "oh thanks friend you think I have a hooked nose?'
"yes you have a hooked nose properlavs, I tell it like it is but don't be so silly, it suits your face"
She made me feel that i was being crazy for being upset.
She then left to take her son somewhere.
When she left I burst into tears.
I would never say that to someone. If were complimenting someone like that I would say it suited their features, made then look attractive.
I am really confused,. Am I being over sensitive or is she being horrible? Some perspective would be useful.