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To ask for my money?

384 replies

Kellyopio · 17/11/2017 21:20

In March I paid for concert tickets for me,my friend and her cousin.
They were £50 each.
My friend paid a week later but her cousin never paid.
I sent her a message and pic when the tickets arrived and reminded her they were £50.
8 months later no payment and concert is Sunday.
She is writing on her Facebook she is excited and can't wait but I don't think she's going to pay.
I asked my friend and she said she doubts she will pay for the ticket.
I asked my friend can she speak to her cousin and remind her about the £50 and she refused.
What would you do now?
Let her go for free?

OP posts:
Neolara · 17/11/2017 22:04

"Still waiting on £50 payment for ticket. Bank details are xxxx If cash is not in by 12.00pm tomorrow I'll assume you can no longer afford the concert and sell the ticket instead. Thanks"

This. You need to give a deadline for action and explicitly tell her your going to sell if you don't hear from her or get paid.

dameglittersparkles · 17/11/2017 22:05

Cheeky fucker!
Message her immediately and demand payment or you'll sell the ticket!

RaeSkywalker · 17/11/2017 22:06

“Hi x, would you still like the concert ticket? If so, please transfer £50 to my bank account xxxx. If I haven’t had the money by x time, I’ll assume you can’t make it, and sell the ticket on. Hopefully see you soon!”

CherryChasingDotMuncher · 17/11/2017 22:06

Hi X

Can you send me the £50 for the ticket to X today please otherwise I’ll have to sell it on, I’ve paid out my own pocket for this and don’t feel it’s fair that I lose out. Let me know and I’ll send you my bank details.

Kelly

If she doesn’t reply within a few hours stick it on Facebook.

You have a really shit friend BTW OP. If my cousin or family member this did to one of my mates I’d be mortified and breathing down their neck to get the money sent.

Bochdew · 17/11/2017 22:06

Part of me wonders if she’s already paid your friend if she’s so reluctant to ask?

PoshPenny · 17/11/2017 22:07

Don't be apologetic, she's the one in the wrong. This could all have been avoided.

Do you really want to go with her after all this hassle anyway. I'd be tempted to go straight to the Facebook post offering it for sale as suggested above.

MrsPicklesonSmythe · 17/11/2017 22:08

Hi X,
Can't wait for xyz. Money is due for ticket now, bank details are ..... If you aren't able to send by xx let me know because I've got someone else who wants it with money waiting and I need to let them know.

Don't explain, don't say please, don't make excuses just sell the ticket on. Starr asking around now to see if any other friends are interested. Id rather let the money go than let her take the mick.

MiddleClassProblem · 17/11/2017 22:10

I think it’s lucky you didn’t say take the £20 off the ticket price for the petrol as you would never see the other £30. At least with resale you have a chance to get it all back x

Gemini69 · 17/11/2017 22:11

I agree with all the others OP.... no apologies.. short sharp and direct... where is the money.. or you ain't going anywhere Princess Grin

Hauntedlobster · 17/11/2017 22:11

Drop the I wouldn’t ask

aaaaargghhhhelpme · 17/11/2017 22:12

I'm with everyone else here. Don't send your post. You have nothing to apologise for and its got nothing to do with your circumstances. She owes you money.

Good luck. Send it now. And give a cut off point so you can post on Facebook if anyone else fancies the ticket instead

The fact your friend won't ask her speaks volumes

DontTouchTheMoustache · 17/11/2017 22:12

"Hi CF, X concert is coming up this weekend, i have had a few friends ask about that ticket but i am giving you first refusal as you asked first. Please transfer the £50 to X details tomorrow if you still want it. If i dont hear from you i will sell it on, cheers."

FlashTheSloth · 17/11/2017 22:13

If she doesn't pay, she doesn't get the ticket. You need to make that clear.

"Hi pisstaker X, very excited for concert on Sunday. I do need that £50 that you owe me before we go, by bank transfer (don't agree to let her give you the cash on the night, she won't have it), here are my details."

Guiltypleasures001 · 17/11/2017 22:13

I hope the cousin hasn't already paid your mate, and she didn't pass it on to you op
Good luck

FlashTheSloth · 17/11/2017 22:15

I had a similar thing, had an unexpected ticket spare, someone I know desperately wanted to go to this show, agreed to sell it to them. Had to ask and ask, time was ticking. In the end I just sent a message saying if she didn't pay for the ticket it was going to be sold to someone else. She never replied at all, ticket when to someone else.

MimiDeLaSun · 17/11/2017 22:18

Send “Hello, can’t wait til Sunday. Do you still want your ticket? It was £50, and I’ll need the money tomorrow, worth it to see Little Mix though Grin”

CorbynsBumFlannel · 17/11/2017 22:20

I would absolutely say that there are other people interested in the ticket and if she wants it can she transfer the money tomorrow otherwise you'll sell it on. Not because you need an excuse to want paying but because otherwise I think she'll string you along with excuses and then not pay you in the end or say she'll pay you in a week or something. If she genuinely wants to go and thinks her ticket will be sold I think that's your best chance of getting your money.
I wouldn't pay for anything for her again though. And your friends attitude isn't great. If it's her cousin she should be telling her she needs to pay you not shrugging it off.

NameChangedAndForgotOldName · 17/11/2017 22:24

Id be tempted to comment with "oh, are you going aswell?" And sell the ticket because of her piss taking

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 17/11/2017 22:25

I'd tell your friend that if her cousin doesn't cough up the money then you'll be selling the ticket on, so if she still wants to come, she'd better pay for it before the night.

gamerchick · 17/11/2017 22:28

I wouldn’t bother asking. Just stick a post up on your Facebook selling the ticket due to a none payer. Honestly it’s time to stand up for yourself.

HSMMaCM · 17/11/2017 22:28

How about

As you hadn't sent the money for the ticket I've advertised it. You'd better get in quick with the money if you want it.

I'd rather go and have a spare ticket than have a free loader with me.

FinallyHere · 17/11/2017 22:29

Yup, I'd just it and act all innocent if she challenges you.

What is she going to say, oh, you told me it was £50 but I thought you would just let me have it for free if i didn't send you the money. Especially since i got you to cough up for petrol money and you still didn't ask me for the £50?

FinallyHere · 17/11/2017 22:30

Crucial word missing 'just sell it'

mummymummums · 17/11/2017 22:32

You e been more than patient OP. Give her till lunchtime Saturday or sell on. No doubt you'll get a sob story that she'll have it after she's paid, but she's had 8 months to find it, but instead chose not to pay you. She certainly won't pay you after the event!

Findingdotty · 17/11/2017 22:40

I'm sure you are lovely but you sure are a mug. Especially handing over £20 to her when she owed you £50!

Message:
Hi

Please let me know by 8pm tonight if you still plan on coming to the concert on Saturday. I need payment by 8am tomorrow morning. I have held a ticket back for you but if you haven't paid by the morning I will sell the ticket to recoup my money.

Regards

Don't apologise and do put specific timed deadlines and stick to them. Don't extend them. She has had months to pay and excepted money from you when she owed you money. She just wants a freebie.