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AIBU that visiting Santa is a total mission these days!

130 replies

thegreenlight · 17/11/2017 10:59

Had a festive day out booked for 4 year old DS for a few weeks - sitting smug thinking it was all sorted. Read between the lines when checking recently and realised there is no meeting with Santa (despite it being £54 for 90 minutes Confused! Aghhh! Cue panicky trying to find a Santa 'late' in the day. Have booked a fab one but will be taking DS out of school for a day as all weekends are booked up (breaking up super late here this year) I am so stressed! If you don't book in October you don't stand a chance! Tell me it wasn't always thus!

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PercySimone · 18/11/2017 00:19

I think your best option would be to go to Lapland, for a year. Take your exceptionally bright child out of school for a year and just go and live there. You can actually rent houses in the real Lapland, Santa and elves potter about and kids can go to Elves School. I did it with my children when they were 4 and 5, like your son they were just so super clever and bored at school - so we went to live with Santa for a year. It was great and they learnt so much more than they would have in school. Came back a year later and they were still way above their peers! It wasn’t expensive either and they got to keep their little elf suits (they had to wear them to school).

Chicoletta · 18/11/2017 00:27

....what in the actual fuck...? Is this a thing?! Competitive Santa-ing?

Btw OP I hope your exceptionally bright four year old can spell the world 'queue'.

Hellywelly10 · 18/11/2017 00:35

I saw the que in selfridges once couldn't believe it. I agree with the school fete idea. Used to take my daughter to the local Catholic school fete there grootto was amazing

Chicoletta · 18/11/2017 00:38

Oh my god, the word is queue.

For fucks sake.

GreenTulips · 18/11/2017 00:53

Competitive Santa-ing?

This is why these stupid things start, when some money grabbing oik realises that parent swill fork out tons on cash for 'the best experience'

DD was terrified of Santa that to take her would have been cruel.... tears sobbing hiding ..... enjoy

Wishicouldfastforward · 18/11/2017 06:20

Oh my god, WishICould, you must have been so embarrassed at the awful behaviour of your kids! How spoiled! What did you do when they were so ungrateful and rude??
I recognised the child was overexcited, overwhelmed and fed up. I apologised with a bit of a red face and carried the child off. Then later had a laugh with his Dad - because we haven't lost our sense of humour about parenting.

coconuttella · 18/11/2017 06:41

Firstly, wtf do you get for £54 if you don’t actually see Santa! Sounds like the biggest con going!

Secondly, I simply don’t believe all the shopping centres/garden centres/NT houses Santas are fully booked between now and Christmas! I live in Hertfordshire and have always booked a Santa visit in week leading up to Christmas at one or other local shopping centres - never had any problem!

coconuttella · 18/11/2017 06:48

Oh my god, the word is queue. For fucks sake.

So, you can spell and like to show your superiority by berating those that make a spelling mistake Hmm. It’s a pity about your grammar though. It’s fuck’s sake not fucks sake. Learn to use the apostrophe! Hmm.

Dsmummy · 18/11/2017 06:50

Wow almost everyone here is massively overreacting at opConfused
He’s 4, a day out of school for a lovely memory isn’t the end of the world.
OP is obviously being light hearted and everyone has come with their pitchforks.
Insults at her child’s intelligence don’t make me question his but they do make me question the posters saying them Hmm
I hope your little one has a fab time OP and that the teachers try and catch the other kids up WinkGrin

robinR · 18/11/2017 06:58

OP you failed to write the now-require MN signpost for the hard of thinking [lighthearted]

Christ there are some thin skinned people on this thread GrinBlush

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 18/11/2017 07:37

I can’t believe all these Father Christmas experiences people are talking about. Breakfast with him, afternoon tea with elves. When did it all change from some grumpy bloke in a department store?

piggleiggle83949 · 18/11/2017 08:51

You are making way too big a deal out of this.

Visiting Santa does not require a day off school Hmm

Not everywhere requires prebooking, shopping centres usually have them where you can just arrive and queue up.

WitchesHatRim · 18/11/2017 08:56

A Santa has to be convincing and enthusiastic not some poor male relative coerced into dressing in a cheap suit to awkwardly interact with children.

Will give the others a chance to catch up

Well aren't you a delight coming out with these types of comments. Hmm

GreenTulips · 18/11/2017 09:02

Wishicouldfastforward

LOL - bloody kids!!

Mine daughter was in the queue to see Santa after a train ride with the elves, wasn't much and a charity event

She starts crying because she's terrified of the big man and starts hiding behind my coat crying.
I'm juggling two others excited to see Santa

We get in the tent and the most she can manage is to hold her hand out for the gift - still hiding in my coat!!!

When we leave the real year breakout and we have to walk the whole queue and some parent faces were comical!!

At the school fete she won the 'top prize' of seeing Santa first (My face must have hit the floor as she ran and hid and wouldn't come out!!) of all the kids in the room it would be her that won!!

Kids are kids and you can't change there reactions!!!

She's 15 now and we can laugh about it

GhostsToMonsoon · 18/11/2017 09:15

I agree it is difficult to get a slot! A local attraction had Santa tickets for multiple days on sale from 10am on 6 November. I only remembered to look in the evening and they had sold out by then. Christmas events are often a total rip-off too.

RedToothBrush · 18/11/2017 09:53

Dominic Grieve interview in the Times

www.thetimes.co.uk/article/dominic-grieve-putin-wants-division-and-brexiteers-are-at-risk-of-being-his-useful-idiots-bzkcx0bjt?shareToken=770a94d6cd107db8df70c99f16317429
Dominic Grieve: Putin wants division, and Brexiteers are at risk of being his useful idiots

The Conservative MP has fears about leaving the EU but says he is no rebel

This is not paywalled.

Dominic Grieve is perplexed. “It’s rather extraordinary finding oneself called a rebel and a mutineer,” says the mild-mannered former attorney-general. He has never thought of himself as a disrupter. “I’m a conciliator,” he says. He wasn’t head boy but he was always well behaved at school and was at Oxford with Theresa May before studying for the bar. He doesn’t tweet or use Facebook, he drinks his tea out of a cup, has a Union flag in his immaculate office, rugs on the floor and finds Silk too racy, preferring Rumpole of the Bailey. “I’m an establishment figure,” he explains before apologising profusely for his cold, which he says he must have caught from Steve Baker, the Brexit minister.

And

“The belief that we are trying to destroy Brexit or put a spanner in the works is just not correct,” Mr Grieve, 61, says. “We all regret Brexit and think it is a mistake but with the possible exception of Ken Clarke we are not trying to kill off Brexit. So I am not sure what we are meant to be mutinying over.” The former minister insists that all he is trying to do is improve the bill. “We are objecting to attempts to characterise this piece of legislation as some kind of loyalty test. It’s a process bill, it is quite techy, incomprehensible to most people. I suspect if we don’t get it into a reasonable order the Lords will rewrite it.” Most of his fellow rebels have legal backgrounds. “We have tended to look at this with a lawyer’s eye,” he says. “We aren’t querying everything, I want to avoid rebellion.”

RedToothBrush · 18/11/2017 09:53

Wrong thread!

KenAdams · 18/11/2017 09:55

I'm guessing OP is talking about the Tamworth Snowdome or similar.

Everyone seems astounded on here that people actually take their children to see Santa and that 4 year olds believe the Santa they see to be the real Santa. Really not that unusual. Oh and most places like garden centres etc require booking, you can't just turn up. I can't understand why this is brand new information for people.

longestlurkerever · 18/11/2017 10:02

I agree it's a bit mean telling op and others that they are doing something bad by making a big thing about Santa. I think that was a reaction to the OP's view that anyone who does things differently is a shit parent who doesn't care, but it's not nice. I hope the op's ds likes the santa trip. He's not even of compulsory school age so there's no need to lie. I also think no one else's DC are missing out because of their choice to do Christmas differently.

grannytomine · 18/11/2017 10:08

I've never heard of booking to see Santa. We used to go to the local Co-op where one of my elderly neighbours was the great man. The kids loved it as Santa seemed to know quite a bit about them. I think it cost 50p but that is a few years ago.

LookMoreCloselier · 18/11/2017 10:36

We see santa at the school fair, my works xmas party and if I have the time I also take them to the shopping centre grotto which is actually good. There are also some near me that you have to book for, I don't think it adds anything tbh. I would be disappointed with a rubbish looking santa but as long as the costume is decent I am happy, extra points for a slightly chubby older man in the costume though.

If you don't have options of school fair grottos etc then YANBU, but if you do and you think that your DS needs a more professional experience then YABU as kids don't notice that stuff, I also think YABU for taking him out of school for that. People do get themselves into a more stressed out state these days with all the things they believe they 'need', see creepy elves, fancy advent calendars with anything other than a bit of choc in it, hampers at various points in december, christmas themed clothes and homeware, duvet covers even for the adults. Don't get me wrong I love christmas and I do go in for some of that stuff, but I also think it is better and more enjoyable for the kids to keep it simple with the same fun traditions, don't feel the need to buy into every new fad there is, it's expensive and exhausting.

Notso · 18/11/2017 11:53

Everyone seems astounded on here that people actually take their children to see Santa and that 4 year olds believe the Santa they see to be the real Santa. Really not that unusual.
No I think most people on the thread seem to manage not to make a mountain out of a Father Christmas visit mole hill. As for children believe it's the real one, I don't know many who do unless their parents really press the issue. The majority I know (and I've been an elf at the school one for three years running) think the ones they visit are 'helpers' who relay information to the real one or just know it's pretend.

FluffyNinja · 18/11/2017 12:49

OP, you're one of my tribe!
I'm taking 8yr old DS out of school for 2 days to see Santa in the week before Xmas. It's a 2 hour activity including a train ride through the woods and culminating in a 1:1 chat with Santa in his cabin. We'll be staying in a hotel overnight to save me driving too far in one day. Mentioned it to his teacher before booking it, to check he wasn't doing anything important that week and she said it was a brilliant experience as she'd done it in previous years and to enjoy ourselves.
Luckily, we don't live in the U.K. with the bonkers attendance policies. Grin

Northend77 · 18/11/2017 15:00

This sounds very much like the Christmas experience at the Snowdome in Tamworth, which we did last year with our then-2-year-old twins. It was ok I guess, I think mine were a bit too young perhaps. If it is that and you have the 30 minutes of snow play make sure you get in there immediately and make the most of it because it goes so fast and you are ushered out pretty sharpishly

bigbluebus · 18/11/2017 17:17

I hate the way this has grown into such a massive guilt trip for parents if they don't spend a fortune on taking little Oliver or Maisie to see Santa.

So glad I had my children in the 1990's when a visit to Santa was usually free, the child told 'Santa' in the garden centre what they wanted for Christmas, Santa promised to do his best and they probably got some free sweets (rather than some cheap gift that they didn't really want and which parents have paid an extortionate sum for). There were very few Santa experiences around so children that went on a 'paid for' visits were in the minority. Now there are Santas on steam trains, Santas on canal boats, Santas having breakfast in the garden centres in fact Santas everywhere where a venue thinks they can extract large sums of cash from guilt ridden parents.

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