To not automatically give eldest dc biggest room?

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We're moving (yes, I have another thread, I'm excited ok? )

Dc will finally have a room each, ds 10 and ds 6.

When we were growing up, my brother always got the biggest room wherever we moved (forces, so moved frequently)

I never thought this was fair, obviously! But still don't think it is necessarily.

What do you think?

Wibu to flip a coin with them?

Sorry, DS 10 DD 6, in case its relevant.

Flip a coin. Nonreason for the eldest to have a bigger room. I imagine it usually happens because you move the first baby into the bigger bedroom and they just keep it.
I was the eldest and swapped to have the smaller room as I found it more cosy!

I think you should flip a coin, then the DC with the smaller room could maybe have a few new things for the room, maybe a new bed, to make up for it being a bit smaller?

My parents did it the other way around. Youngest got biggest room as dsis needed more space to play and was likely to live there for the longest.

I would give eldest the smaller room because the older they get the fewer "big" toys they have so they don't need as much space.

My youngest has biggest bedroom. They organised it between them as teenagers.

Have you asked them? My DNeph wanteD the smaller one as it was easier to keep tIdy. Younger DSis had larger as she had more stuff. Then if they can't agree, toss a coin

Older child gets the bigger room. They are given more responsibility in most cases so should reap the rewards.

My youngest also has the biggest bedroom, I didn't realise that this was a thing!

Exact same situation as you, OP, even down to the DC ages.

DD (10) isn't really into "stuff". She's a bookworm.

DS (6) is car mad, with track everywhere.

We decided that DS should have the bigger room, mainly because of the above.

DD is delighted! She loves the size of her room.

Which one of the DC are the "spreadiest"? Do any of them have hobbies which take up a lot of room? (Lego, hotwheels, etc)?

I wouldn't automatically give the eldest the bigger room just because they're older, but I think at 10 and 6 I would give the older child the bigger bedroom, simply because they are more likely to have friends round, want space for studying etc. But on the clear understanding that the rooms are switched round when needs change e.g. when older child gets old enough for bulk of socialising to be done elsewhere

But I'd also ask them for their preferences. If they want different rooms, problem solved!

That's a really good point actually, maybe I'll not make the size of rooms an issue at all (only found out today that its a certainty, so they don't know yet!!)

We could just look round, and see what they say!? One may want to look out over the garden!?

You lot are awesome, how did i ever think anything through without you?

Ds mainly lays on his bed on his phone if he goes upstairs, but he's normally down here with us.

Dds more likely to 'play' up there, she has barbies and art stuff up there.

Have you asked them?

If they both want the bigger room then have a family meeting to see practicalities. Who has more toys?how will the rooms be organised? Does the older one have friends over more or the younger and if so what’s the situation?

In my view and we have 5 kids I would prefer to piss off the younger one as older kids do have a harder row to how. He will be babysitting for you in a few years so keep him sweet

Whats I like your logic

You lot are awesome, how did i ever think anything through without you?

The amount of times I've thought the exact same thing about this place...

My DH and his sis swapped rooms at one point so you could consider that if you're going to be staying long term.

His sis had the bigger room (she 5 years younger than him). They swapped when he started uni and needed the bigger room for a desk and computer.

They are quite a communicative family and I think he and his sis were consulted about these sorts of things even when pretty young. But if in doubt,flip a coin!

In this house, the first one wanting their own room goes into the smallest. Boys are still sharing but there is a lovely single room available for whichever one wants his own space first!
Enjoy your new house

Our eldest got the back bedroom as it faced west and the morning sun woke him up. It was also the smallest room. Our youngest got the room closest to ours as she was more likely to need me during the night. The middle one got the bedroom with the wooden floors as he has allergies. No decisions were made based on room size.

Who ever is more able to keep the bigger room clean and tidy.

I'm oldest and had the smaller room, cos my brother had bigger toys etc. One of the ways my parents sold it to me was that I'd be able to decorate it really nicely and have expensive wallpaper, as that was more affordable for a smaller room! That might help?

We have 2 large double rooms and one box. When Dd1 was 3 and DD2 cam along we moved DD1 into the large(previously for guests) room and she still has it at 17. She knows that when she goes to uni, we will swap rooms over as she won't be home much. I do wonder what 1930s architects were thinking when they designed most semi-detached houses this way!

Who ever is more able to keep the bigger room clean and tidy

Ha - this made me smile! DD1 would have the biggest room until it got messy, swap with DD2 who would tidy up, then she'd talk her into swapping back....

I'm the oldest of 4 and always had the smallest room - because I preferred having the little room and found it cosier - and I just didn't have a lot of stuff so didn't need the space! Two of my siblings are autistic and one of them in particular was and still is a collector and went through a stage of hoarding ridiculous amounts of toys which had to stay in their boxes so he had the biggest room.

Flip a coin for your boys.

Usually the box room is because they split another room in order to make room for indoor bathroom in houses of a certain age