To not automatically give eldest dc biggest room?

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We're moving (yes, I have another thread, I'm excited ok? )

Dc will finally have a room each, ds 10 and ds 6.

When we were growing up, my brother always got the biggest room wherever we moved (forces, so moved frequently)

I never thought this was fair, obviously! But still don't think it is necessarily.

What do you think?

Wibu to flip a coin with them?

IME, girls tend to need more space as they get older than boys. My teen dd has mirrors, dressing table etc and spends loads of time with her friends. Ds only ever used his room to sleep and use the computer.

We’re about to move, two bedrooms are small and the same size and one is the same size as the master bedroom. So we’ve given DS2 the biggest room as he’s keeping the massive bunk bed he and DS1 currently share, and DD and DS1 have the smaller rooms as they have beds with space underneath (playhouse for DD and desk and futon for DS1) since that seemed fairest.

Sorry - just saw update - seems like it’s all sorted for the moment lol.

Sorry just saw the update! Happy days

I think 10 is too old for a high sleeper, he'll be embarrassed and want a double in just a couple of years time.

our youngest has the bigger room. because she has so much "stuff" and plays with dolls and barbies all over the floor.

ds prefers his books and lego which fit into a smaller area. Though they do still share space and may drag all the lego into dd room to use the bigger floor space to make a mess masterpiece. and as ds has a high sleeper they will make a den under his bed together.

LostForNow I had a high sleeper until I left home at 21.

My sisters also had bunk beds until one has gone to uni and the other has now claimed the whole room lol. They did have single beds but decided between them to spend money they earnt from weekend jobs to buy the bunks themselves so they had more room....

why would they be embarressed with a high sleeper?

DS1 is ten and he’s delighted with his, he chose it. Well it’s not been delivered yet, but he’s still delighted. He’s picked the whole theme for his new room!

I always had the bigger room as a kid, but if we had guests they got my room and I had to go in my brother's top bunk.

I have this situation. Eldest has the bigger bedroom, bigger than mine in fact but light-wise, for studying, I wanted her to have more light in the evening. If we move my youngest will get the middle sized room.

I got a high sleeper when I was 8 and was completely embarrassed by it by age 11. They seem babyish and like giant cots! No adults have them do they? Fun for children but wrong once your a teenager and wanting sleepovers.

Just read your comments- that's such a good result!

Personally, I wouldn't base bedroom size on ages- i.e. give the biggest to the oldest. When we moved into our new family home as a child, my brother was automatically given the biggest bedroom because he's oldest and I was given the smallest bedroom as the youngest. A couple of years later, we ended up swapping because I had so much stuff and he only played on his game console in his room.

Bedroom size for me depends on who has the most 'stuff' and what the children do in the room- e.g. just sitting on the bed on the Xbox or actually playing on the floor and needing floor space.

I'm the older of 2, and where we lived when I was very young, my little brother had a tiny room with a big built-blanket box in it which we liked to sit on. I thought his room was much more exciting than mine, so when we moved when I was 9, I begged to be allowed to have the smallest room this time. Unfortunately it wasn't quite as intriguingly small, but I enjoyed it when I was a teenager and did all sorts of fancy things with shelving to get the most out of it.

Moral - I'd ask the children which rooms they want. If they both want the same one, then maybe flip a coin - and suggest they swap after say 2 years if they still both want that one. You might find that one of them hankers after a small room, like I did.

DD1 always had the smaller room - even when we gave her the garage conversion, which was a bit bigger than her original room. She has never complained. Now that DH and I are getting divorced, she will be getting our room and I will be moving into the smaller bedroom.