To think getting quite drunk with a baby is odd??

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NC as could be outing.

So we are suppose to be visiting friends this weekend. They have a 6 month old we have a toddler. They want to go out for dinner and drink then go back to theirs and pop open the champagne. Apparently they have quite a few bottles. My DP friend then said he's going to guzzle the wine and his wife will be drinking too.

Obviously most of the drinking will be when the kids are in bed but AIBU to think you wouldn't do this?? What if something happened like an emergency and you needed to go out or the baby needed something. I wouldn't want to get really drunk while caring for my D'S.

I'm all for having fun and a laugh but a glass or 2 not 3 bottles of champagne and guzzling wine!

AIBU or would other people do this?

'I would always want to make sure one adult is sober. Surely that's normal?'
I have never, in all the parents from all the walks of life I've met, ever met anyone who would be so paranoid that their child will suddenly fall ill in the middle of the night having gone to bed fine, that they would never go over the drink drive limit. This is a new level of precious parenting I've only discovered on mn.

Exactly this. One of the main reasons I stay on mumsnet is so I can laugh at the amazing and increasing levels of precious parenting and judgement on these types of goady threads. It really helps my day go by faster!

Why is it sad to have a glass of wine every evening? Is it sad to have a piece of cake every night or anything else not ideal for your health? I don't, by the way, but I wouldn't find it sad or see why a child would struggle with that.

I can't function at all without a cup of coffee in the morning and my children are well aware that mummy loves coffee and needs it. I am totally dependent on it! Would this upset them more or less than watching me have a single glass of wine every evening?

I didn't learn to drive until my eldest was 6 so I have always been mystified by the 'be ready to drive to A&E at a moments notice or you are an inadequate parent' brigade.

There are some very extreme attitudes on this thread which are totally alien to me. I wouldn't be getting raging drunk but I can't understand the objection to two or three glasses on a Friday night or whatever!

Go Sober for October is trying to do something about it? Haha, OK!

Then binging on the 1st November because they've "done it", even though they've slipped up and had to buy themselves "Golden Tickets"?

If you say so

You sound mean spirited and judgemental @ProfessorCat. What a horrible attitude to have towards people trying to drink less.

I do find it strange how normalised drinking alcohol to excess is. If the op had written that the parents were planning to smoke weed, or do coke, people would be in uproar over them not being in a fit state in case of an emergency. The kind of drinking the op is describing is not just having a glass or two. Talking about 'guzzling wine' and having three bottles of champagne, infers an intention to drink to excess. To be planning to do this whilst caring for a young baby is surely not responsible. Let's hope you have got a false impression of their intentions.

i don't understand the leap from people splitting a bottle of wine with their partner on the weekend whilst their kids are asleep to alcoholics who are drunk in the day and attempting to drive their children around. The two situations are not the same...

I'm nearly 40, I love wine - in that I like to drink fancy italian wine if I can get my paws on it, of a weekend evening when my DH isn't working. Occasionally a nice G&T or a whisky before bed.

I can't for the life of me believe this is a slippery slope towards alcholism for me or my children.

@ProfessorCat I must have misread. We clearly agree!

Can't stomach it. Fair enough if it's for taste, for a meal, for a tipple or whatever, but most are just drinking it to self medicate because it's bloody there and it's alcohol. May as well pop a vallium

freddie the guzzling was the DH. All we know about the DW is she's planning on having a drink. Not getting legless.

Guzzling

I'm not mean spirited but I am judgemental.

You don't say. Never would have guessed.

what so nobody is allowed to get slightly drunk because they just, you know, enjoy the sensation of being happy and tipsy? They have to be some sort of self-medicating saddo. Ok then...

I think the blind conformist reliance on private car ownership is more worrying than the fact that some people enjoy alcohol and some do not.' The endless howling of 'But what if you have to driiiiiiiiiiiiiiiive?' completely ignores the fact that lots of families get by just fine without anyone having a car or a driving license.

You might just as easily whine and moan about going to visit someone who lives somewhere at the back of beyond because what if the baby explodes and there's no ambulance...

Mybestfriendisadog please read what you just wrote... "enjoy the sensation of feeling happy"...

If you can't be happy without alcohol, you have a problem.

being happy and tipsy actually. Don't misquote.

Why do you feel the need to berate others when it doesn't concern you Professor?

You sound like you'd be loads of fun at parties, ProfessorCat . . . . said no one ever.

what utter rubbish - I am happy nearly all the time - drunken happiness is slightly different as anyone who actually y'know, enjoys the occasional drink, knows. It really is a ridiculous rabbit hole I've entered into here.

If you can't be happy without alcohol, you have a problem.

What an enormously stupid thing to say. I am, every day, amazingly happy without alcohol.

This Friday night, I will be also amazingly happy with alcohol whilst I'm out to dinner with good friends. There may also be shots necked and some wild and crazy dancing in a loud and noisy bar with sticky floors. I will also be amazingly happy again on Saturday night when I'm at a wedding enjoying a bottle of champagne or two.

It's amazing how some people manage to be happy both with and without alcohol isn't it?

Why do you feel the need to tell me it doesn't concern me when it's an open public forum? How odd.

As I've already said, I really wouldn't want to be the life of a party. I don't like parties - I enjoy other things that don't involve rooms of drunk people and making small talk with strangers.

I can be happy without alcohol. I can be happy with alcohol too. After 15 years of parenting, sometimes I choose to be happy with alcohol, sometimes without. I'm always an excellent parent.

That wasn't really my point, Stroke. Some people need alcohol to feel happy or to have a good time. Of course some can be happy with or without it. It's when you depend on it to actually make you feel happy that there's a problem.

MN is hysterical when it comes to boozing. What's really weird though this the gene more hysterical focus on whether things are illegal or not. You don't have to be a rocket scientist to know that the police don't come banging your door down once you've gone over the 1.5 glasses vino collapso with minors in the house 😭😭😭

Quite Professor. Your inconsistency is staggering.