to think my houseguest doesn't like me?

[lostpurplehoodie]

I have someone staying for a couple of nights as he's involved in an event in our city and asked if he could stay. I'm getting the impression that we've not been asked for any other reason than convenience and he's not that bothered about us at all.

He turned up last night as I was cooking dinner, empty handed, and then decided to go to bed as soon as we'd finished eating (around 8ish). When he surfaced at 10.30 I asked how he slept and he told me he had read until gone midnight but then slept very well. He's announced that he's off out this afternoon with friends - who live in his hometown, and we're very much not invited, but he'll see us at the event/afterwards.

AIBU to think he doesn't actually like us that much and is seeing us as a means to an end?

We’ve had houseguests stay in bed that late, but it didn’t bother me. I didn’t keep quiet for them though! Did you get a verbal thank you?

Guests should fit in with their host within reason. Hosts should try to accommodate their guests within reason. Staying with someone with young children and getting up at midday is unacceptable imo.

Meant to add. I much rate your “friend”.

I did get a verbal thank you, but we had another couple (dh cousin’s ds)stay at the same time in a different room for one night. They left a bottle of wine and a tin of biscuits.

It didn’t bother me that they slept in, it was the lack of appreciation that got me. They flitted back up to Paris to their new flat!