To wish i had a friend

[sanddune11]

Just that really, i have a few casual type friends, but no one who i'm close to. Sometimes i just wish i had someone who i could confide in when i'm down. How lovely that must be.

I like chumns!

Thanks all, i appreciate the response.

The woman I think of as my closest friend, I have seen once in 3 years, she's never even met my OH. It was wonderful and we had a fantastic time together, but just not enough time with her. She moved quite far away a while ago, and our lives are going in different directions too, which makes it even harder.

I don't have another friend. I don't know who I would call at 2am if I needed to.

I had a best friend at school, fell out over a boy (FFS). Met a great girl at uni, but she left after a term and everyone else had made their friends by then. Story of my life.

Have always been an outsider looking in and its shit.

I’m in a similar situation, I finished work on ill health 3 years ago and all my friends have filtered off one by one. DH is brilliant but it’s not the same as having a friend to chat to. I’d love to join the FB group if I may?

Yes send me a PM and I'll try to find you on FB - let me know your name and a description of your profile pic so I can narrow you down!

I feel the same, the school mums etc are great but it's not the same is it? If a Facebook group opens could I be invited or let me know what to search for?

Definitely not BU. I’ve got good friends but no family outside of dh and DCs, and I feel crap about that almost every day. I feel like friends are great, but it’s not the same as having family support really. Unless you are NC with your fam, they will always be there for you, whereas friends will always put their own families first (and rightly so). I think if I had close family - parents, siblings, etc I wouldn’t feel that I need so many friends (if that makes sense). I don’t have that big group of friends who do spa weekends or whatever as we are all at different stages or have varying amounts of spare cash!

I'm in same situation. I don't have any friends really. I have my 'bestest/oldest' friend but she lives like 100+ miles away, we've known each other since primary school so 40 years, have kept in touch, but we only see each other once in a blue moon & text now & then. Our lives are are at different stages, her daughter is mid twenties, mine are under 12. I don't have any friends around me, no one to pop in for a cuppa (or a bottle of wine) & a chat.

I have my DH and yeah we get on (good job really!) but sometimes you just want a friend. I mean I say hello to the school mum's & they are all lovely but we don't socialise, although I've been invited out on the odd occasion but due to DH's work & lack of childcare I've had to decline. I am shy & probably look a bit awkward so I don't find it easy to make friends!

My sil is totally opposite. She has 3 great sisters around her, they're all really really close best friends as well as sisters and she is incredibly sociable. She lives quite far away as well.

I'm not on Facebook. I was too boring so I de-activated myself 🤣.

But yeah, would be nice to have a proper giggle with a friend now & then.

Someone needs to create Tinder for friends.
We have moved countries several times in the last few years and as much as I hate doing it I get straight on the expat Facebook page to find people to hang out with. Of 50 meetups 4 or 5 might become my friends. Lots of work, something which doesn't really come naturally to me and really exhausting but worth it.

Maybe MN should have a section for this? Like dating but with less sex and more coffee?

Yes - not alone - just me and the children at home and they will leave soon . I know that getting divorced was the right thing but I do worry that I will turn into a mad cat lady.
A few casual friends but nobody I really click with

Yes would love to join too

Can I be a chumn?

I also have no friends.

3DC, one with SEN, and part time work mean that I seem to be out of step with everyone. After drop off I go past the local coffee shops looking at all the school mums having coffee together. Like someone said, on the outside looking in and really lonely.

Recently I supported someone I know through a really tough time. This week I am feeing really low and anxious about my job, my son, the amount I have to do each day, and she is completely uninterested and distant. I know it doesn't work like that but I'm sad that she doesn't have any time for me.

Fluffyunicorns or anyone. Have you heard of MeetUp?
You can find it online. There's lots of groups with different interests and you join the ones you like. It's great!
I'm a member of a Theatre MeetUp and you arrange to meet single people at the venue of whichever play etc you're interested in. Also a Cinema MeetUp,
great if you want to watch a film and no one to go with. And a group that has lunches out, nights out etc.
I'm pretty lucky as I live just outside Manchester and there are loads to choose from but worth a try near you.
There are four of us that have made friends through the theatre group and we make our own meetings as well now.

It’s hard, isn’t it? I do have some close friends but mostly they’re not local and hence I don’t get to see them. And it’s been hard to get to see them since we’ve had our DDs. I’ve also had MH issues (PTSD and depression), so I haven’t felt up to making phone calls. Facebook is great, and recently mumsnet has been a great help.

I do have a couple of friends among the school mums, but mostly I just chat with the mum of whichever friend DD2 is chatting with. (She’s a bit of a social butterfly lol.)

Similar to your situation, my DH is at work so he gets that social contact and he’s never been that bothered about maintaining friendships, he’s very task orientated. So he doesn’t mind not having a busy social life.

Itsonkyme that's one reason I regret not living in a big city: living in a small town and not driving means there are no local meets and difficult to get to others.

I've tried the 'mum' apps but they tend to focus on young mums (I'm relatively less young) meeting up when I go to work.

Just bumping this in the hope some others will join the Facebook group!

Can I join please.

Can I join too.
I’m not even a Mum anymore. My son was adopted.
Few friends kind of close to one person but that’s it.
No family- parents both dead. Sister is toxic so no contact

What's the group called?

I have a lot of "friends" actually they are mums from school who I am friendly with, or mum's from dancing that I am friendly with. I have a friend from school, who is a really good friend, and in the last couple of years have reconnected with a group of friends from school.

Mostly, I spend my very limited free time ferrying my kids between activities and time with the mum's there.

I do joke that I should have married one of the mum's (we're both heterosexual) but it's like we were separated at birth. Even her husband asked to be a FB friend, I normally see her twice a week, desperately missing her at the moment, but did see her on Monday, currently discussing the need for a "date night" or cup of tea!

Oh, and I forgot DH's cousin, who I also felt I knew for years when we first met.

I don't mean to gloat, I know I'm blessed.

DS has no friends, that makes me very sad for him. Currently looking at a possible Aspergers diagnosis

Can I join as well, please? Although I'm not a great fan of FB, I'll give it a go.
sanddune as you can see, you are not alone. I hope you also join

It's called chuMNs

Would like to join the group but I can't find it.

Hate the thought of people being lonely and will happily have a coffee with anyone near me.

Oh love Were are you? I have a couple of friends, rest are aquatiances. 😶