To NOT want to give neices vouchers AGAIN for christmas?

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I love christmas and the present buying and sharing. I enjoy thinking of the person im treating and working out what gift would put a smile on their face espescially if theyre a child.
My dps neices are 13 and 11 respectively. For the last two/three years we have been told by their mum they just want vouchers or even worse, cold hard cash!.

Now im in my early thirties and still to this day remember how pleasing it was to find out if i got the big present i wanted and what other fun stuff i had been gifted each chrimbo.

Am i being selfish to want to buy these Children actual presents - things they can unwrap - rather than just give them vouchers for brands that they shouldnt even be looking at anyway? Think Victorias secrets Pink

£80 for a fleece

I think it's fine either way, i try to get things for my similar aged niece because growing up i loved that my aunt bought things that my mum wouldnt have although I really struggle as there is no feedback aka not even a thank you so I dont know how far of the mark I am!

Also they spend a fortune on each other at Christmas not on my kids so i think our cash offering would be see as tight.

hotbutt did you look at the link? VS pink sell very little underwear, and what they do, couldn't really be described as lingerie.

It's mostly sportswear, fleeces, yoga pants etc.

'I think it's fine to stop exchanging presents if it's bringing you no pleasure.'

This ^. Everything is now a cash transaction, OP. No one wants anything but cold, hard cash - anything else (except what they buy with the swag is 'clutter', 'tatt', unwanted, etc). I get it, you don't want to dole it out. I don't, either. And there's some difference that most people now never acknowledge, being asked and telling people. Everything's now dictated, in naff poems or just straight up. 'I want your money.' Or nothing. So seriously? Punt for nothing. 'DH and I have determined that, due to circumstances, we are no longer exchanging or giving out gifts.' And mean it.

'Also they spend a fortune on each other at Christmas not on my kids so i think our cash offering would be see as tight.'

Precisely the reaction you get from 'Give me your money' types.

You can take the whole, 'Well, you were going to spend X amount on them anyhow, why not just hand them over the cash?' argument further and all of you keep your money to yourselves and spend it how you like?

I don't see anything wrong with giving money for Christmas. Especially when they are older! They may well be saving up for something!
Money can be wrapped up in different ways. How about a bucket& spade filled with sand and 20c £1 coins? Or a bar of chocolate wrapped in £5 notes? Origami is also a good way to present money, but the new notes don't work!

I thunk YABaBU.
For my friends DDs I'll buy a voucher or cash but also get a small branded gift with a name i think they'll recognise. TK Maxx does a good line in make up bags 😬. They may hate the gift but it hasn't cost me much and means they have something to unwrap.

As a parent I feel sorry for other parents who when asked suggest vouchers or a brand that then gets scorned as being not appropriate. Buy your neices what you want or give them what they'd like- thems your choices. Oh and agree with the sales its daft paying full price before Christmas.