Sharing hotel room with friend... AIBU

[LittleMissUnreasonable]

Hello, first post so please be kind :) I'll keep it short but sweet

Friends birthday party is being held in a major city so very expensive to organise accommodation.
All of our friends have been invited including partners who are also part of he friendship group.
The only single members of the group without DPs is me and one male partner (his gf can't attend due to money issues)
A hotel room on my own costs almost double what everyone is paying.
I don't feel comfortable sharing with the other male as his GF is quite paranoid about him sharing with another woman (understandable)
There is 1 couple in the whole group married and living together (my friend of years). I have therefore asked her if I can get a hotel room with her for the 1 night and suggested her Dp shares with the other single male (they are close mates).

The friend and her DP have got back to me and said they would rather not as they hardly see each other and spend time together and want to spend the night together .

AIBU by;

1. Being hurt by this as they are the only couple living together and can't bare to spend 1 night apart so I can attend
2. Feeling a bit scorned they didn't offer to help me find an alternative. Just dismissed it.
3. Feeling like they were the best call as they live together unlike the other friends who are all doing long distance.

Crikey, you're brave posting on AIBU - it's hellish. I like to think people on here don't speak to others IRL like they feel it's acceptable to do on here. If they do, I'm bloody glad I don't know them.

I would second (or third?) the Air BnB suggestion and see if you can get a few others to share.

Good luck - hope you have a fun weekend.

Ooops, cross-posted. Glad it's all sorted. Have fun.

So you’re not even single, it’s just your partner isn’t coming? So because your partner can’t come you think that another couple should give up a night together in a posh hotel?

Yabu, I’d hate to share with anyone other than my dh or ds nowadays. They’re probably looking forward to their break together.

Also I’m not sure why you think they should help you find an alternative. Maybe your partner should come, that would help you out.

Flipperty - yes it really is haha!! I can't see myself coming back to be honest but thank you :)

I need to find out how to close this thread now the issues been sorted to stop people still going on about how awful I am being :p

Cross post

Perfect, all sorted. Enjoy!

LittleMiss you can’t close threads I’m afraid. It will just fizzle out on its own.

To be fair, I don’t think you did get a particularly hard time on this thread.
Most people were fairly polite even if they were pretty unanimous in feeling it was a cheeky request.

The rule in AIBU is don’t ask if you aren’t prepared to hear that, yes, your request was outrageous.

I’m glad it’s sorted, have a lovely weekend.

Just Hide the thread OP.

Ahhh okay thank you everyone :)

Air BNB
Youth hostel (single rooms are possible) Shared are less than £20

You'd be daft to be hurt - hope you get fixed up with something affordable - enjoy

OP, I think you got a hard time on this thread. Glad it's sorted.

Pricilla

stop trying to make her feel bad about your problem.

Maybe stop inventing stuff? There was no hint that OP was trying to make the couple feel bad. She says she accepted their refusal with grace.

Well, I've been half of that married other couple, and we said yes. We volunteered actually. Seemed the decent thing (only sensible option) to do for just one night.

But I probably wouldn't have asked if I 'd been the single person. And I wouldn't share a room with a man unless he was a very good friend.

I'm going to go against the grain here, I don't think you were being U to ask at all. If a friend said she'd feel uncomfortable sharing with a bloke and asked if I could bunk up with her, I'd happily send my (hypothetical) boyfriend off to have a sleepover with the guy for the night. Really don't see the big deal! Can see how it would be different if they had kids and it was the only time together they were getting in a while.

But equally, they're not unreasonable to want to spend the night together and I don't think they needed to offer to help. And depending on how close the male friend was I'd have no issue sharing with him, if it was someone I'd only just met I might be hesitant but if it was an actual mate it wouldn't even cross my mind to be uncomfortable about it

Glad you've got it sorted.
FWIW I went away with friends and for similar reasons (expense/no DP) one of my female friends ending up sharing with a married couple. I thought she was UR but they did say yes so obviously it was worth asking.

Thanks Minerva :) .... i think some people like to just be confrontational for the sake of it. Was wondering in what part of my post I had made my friend feel bad...how strange. Some people can be so unnecessarily agressive

Thanks everyone again I'll hide this now

In glad you got it sorted out. Have a great time at the party.