Because they've text me yet again making me feel guilty because they haven't seen DD since her birthday in June. DD is 2.4, has a developmental delay, a speech delay, hip problems, hearing problems, eye problems and a chest problem. (I've posted about her before under various names).We spend so much time at hospitals it's unreal.
I also work, DH works. I cope by myself with no help with DD over the weekends because DH works every Saturday and once a fortnight works Sunday as well. I don't drive, so rely on public transport.
PILs won't help us as we apparently live to far away even though it's a 20 minute walk. They refuse to get DD from Nursery to have her a few hours then but won't because SIL is only just 17 so not allowed to pick DD up (it's over 18s only allowed to collect the child) and they won't walk/drive there themselves. I have to take DD to them and then pick her up again after. They're not old people, FIL is 43 and MIL 51, both in pretty good health. Yet apparently it's my job to facilitate contact with them. I have posted about them too under different names.
I just want to tell PIL that they'd see her more if they made the effort, picked her up from Nursery occasionally, or even offered to drive us to an appointment every now and again, just like my mum does. Who also got us out of a huge financial mess in March because when we told PILs we needed help (the first time since we moved in together in March 2015) they shrugged their shoulders and said that's life with a young child. My mum supports herself, and her father (who's 84) on her wages and my granddads pension which is less than DH and I earn together, but managed to help us anyway so we didn't lose the flat we live in. Yet I know PILs earn double what DH and I do and work less hours (DH and I do 62-70 hours a week between us, PILs do 45 hours between them).
I give up and want to tell them so. AIBU?