I'm late 30s. Been with OH forever. 2 Tweenies. OH is a high earner. Joint mortgage, small joint debts. I have a small earning full time WAH job, literally no pension. OH has a high wage and ridiculously generous pension. Joint finances. We have no savings. We're pretty happy, but I'm really conscious that all the eggs (so to speak) are in his basket, and if he chose to leave me, I'd have nothing, except a half share of the equity. I signed a release for his parent's contribution to our first house 12 years ago- that accounts for 30% of our equity. So all I have to show for 18 years is 35% of the equity of the current house. That's not much. What can I do? I'm not going anywhere. But my lack of options makes me feel trapped. I need a long term strategy to make me an equal financial partner in the relationship, bearing in mind that my earnings are about 1/3 of OH. Any advice gratefully received. I find it hard to feel complicit in the relationship when I know I have no escape route! OH is lovely but short termist, so doesn't understand how I feel.