It’s a parents & money aibu

[Happyhappyveggie]

I know these types of posts never go down well on here but I want to know if Aibu.
DMother helped DSister with money for both her house purchase and her wedding.
I don’t own a house and i’m not married and I asked for the same help/ equivalent amount of money towards a house purchase.
DMother is basically treating me as if I have behaved really badly to ask for help.
I’m really upset about it- surely it’s not unreasonable to ask for the same financial help as my sibling? Am really struggling to raise two kids in expensive rented accommodation. I’ve never ever asked for anything ever but am being made to feel like I have asked for something outrageous when sister has had loads of help.
So Aibu?

I just wanted to say I get it, it’s unkind and unfair for your sister to get help for both a wedding and a house and for you to receive nothing. I’ve been there and there’s absolutely zilch you can do about.
For one sibling to get help but for you not to I think is designed to hurt unfortunately and that’s just sad. From what you have said some money to buy a property would make a huge difference to you and your kids, give you a security of Home which couldn’t get taken away from you, allow you to stop paying expensive rent and basically throwing money down the drain renting. It must be so frustrating to see your sister in her own home and not being able to afford your own.
To everyone who is saying the mother shouldn’t be expected to give her some money towards a house I get that but it is grossly unfair to give to one child but not the other and if she can no longer afford it she should have thought about that before.

My children have had the same chances. If one messes things up although they can come home and I will feed them basic food I will not make up financial differences because they made different choices than their siblings

Let me guess you are a Tory! People are poor because of the choices they make, nothing to do with good or bad luck.

Let me guess you are a Tory! People are poor because of the choices they make, nothing to do with good or bad luck.

Can you clarify whether you think a parent can't know whether choices have affected their children's outcomes, or is it just that you think choices never make any difference?

Is she your older sister?
I am the eldest and my parents loaned me the money for a house deposit when I was 26. They have not done the same for my younger sister, but will do when she is 26 and by then they will have had more than enough time to save up again.