AIBU about weekend away

[teaandcakeat8]

One of my parents has a significant birthday next year and wants to go on a city break to a popular European city to celebrate.

Obviously this will involve a flight and three night stay.

My parents are not short of money - probably have a combined income of 100k and no mortgage.

I have two siblings. One lives with his girlfriend so has a double income. They are comfortable.

Younger sibling still lives at home but earns a good salary and doesn't pay rent.

I am single, earn 31k but I live in London and have a mortgage which is a fairly big chunk of my monthly pay. Money is tight for me - if I go on a trip I usually plan far in advance and try to do this the most cost effective way - hostels, cheap attractions, offpeak flights etc.

Parents have picked a 5* hotel on a peak bank holiday weekend in mid summer when flights are also very expensive. They live in Yorkshire and also expect me to make my way there so that we can all fly together.

When I pointed out that I cannot afford this, they got very upset, as they want us to all stay together. I have asked if we could compromise on a cheaper hotel but no. They have also planned a lot of expensive touristy type trips which are all adding up to £££s.

So now after negotiating it looks like I will be staying in a hostel nearby whilst my siblings and parents stay in 5* all inclusive.

My AIBU is - are they being unreasonable to expect me to pay the full cost of the trip?
WIBU to just not go?

I would work out what you could afford (eg flight from London, x for accommodation and y for activities). Point out living expenses vs siblings, really spell it out.

Maybe them paying the difference so you can stay in the hotel could be your bday and/or Christmas present this year?

Try ringing the hotel to see if they might offer a discount for someone booking 3 rooms?

Offer some suggestions to show you're really trying to go (eg point out you're willing to share with brother it's him that's being difficult about it) but if no one will meet you half way then I don't think you can then be blamed if there is a detrimental impact on the relationship.

They are very weird parents to expect you to eat into savings to celebrate their birthday.

Why should OP donallnthe running around? Since when have you been invited to a party and expected tompau for it and organize it as well? Plus put yourself out more than others to do so?

I definitely wouldn't go. You'll be resentful all weekend and won't enjoy any of the excursions because you'll be feeling sick about how much money it's costing you.

if its all inclusive what happns at meal times do u hav to wait for them outside or go out by yourslf

Your parents and your brother are arseholes, sorry.

Fly or take Eurostar from London! Its ridiculous to go via Yorkshire - just meet them there. I'd prefer a hostel but hope its really close.
Do try to go - family occasions are important. Far too easy for internet people to say don't go!

really so gt low on savings because someone else wants a birthday abroad and half of it u wont b there for