To be furious with DH about dog shit on the carpet

[lostpurplehoodie]

I know he didn't do it on purpose but I am fuming right now.

New rug in the sitting room arrived on Wednesday so isn't even a week old. He's decided to go for a run this morning so has got his running shoes from by the front door and instead of sitting on the seat there, putting them on and going out has brought them into the sitting room and put them on sitting on the sofa and has trodden dog shit that he must have run in yesterday into the new, cream rug. He literally walked past every other chair in the house before using the sofa by my nice new rug.

He then attempted to brush it out with the dustpan and brush, which didn't work and he just shoved back under the sink. So I've had to get the carpet shampoo out (and hope it doesn't damage the new rug) and clean up shit, and then disinfect the dustpan and brush and am now in a house that smells faintly of shit wondering how to make the smell go. Whilst he has gone on his fucking run

AIBU to be fucking furious with him for being so stupid to bring his shitty shoes onto the new carpet, make the mess worse and then fuck off out?

I have a dog poo phobia and this makes me feel queasy. Pet shops sell a spray enzyme thing that gets rid of poo/sick smells effectively. Only just discovered it- wish I'd had it when kids were pooing/sicking all over the place!

Exactly, plus I second ** - I can smell dogshit at 5000 ft - I can't believe you didn't get a waft of it every time you went even near that part of the house! Plus, even if DH has no sense of smell, whenever I used to run when I got back I'd take my shoes off at the door and then examine them to see if they had anything noxious on them. If there was it was scrubbed off with a brush set aside specifically for that job and that job alone.

So even if I'd carried them to my living room the next time I was running and put them on on a pure white rug, nothing would come off because the running shoes would be clean!

At the LEAST, when you get back, smell the shoes - if they're just muddy only you don't have to clean them but then you wouldn't walk into the living room to put them on after either!

But this is a 100% avoidable situation! Why do we constantly give men the get-out on this stuff all the time?!

Sorry, meant to reference Whataloadof's comment about how could they possibly not have smelt it straight away.

I have no idea how I didn’t smell it on his shoes, as I normally have a nose like a bloodhound.

I’ll look out the spray to sort the smell. Thank you.

I would be bloody furious, in fact I would have taken my ex's shoes out to the garden and made a bonfire of them if he'd done that to me.
You can be damned sure he'd never do it again.

I think the spray could be called Simple Solution.

Pet shops do often sell it.

A strong solution of biological washing powder can also help.

Also, if you know anyone who owns a carpet shampoo machine then borrow that. You can get shampoos for them that deal fairly well with pet smells, such as dog and cat. Failing that, hire rug doctor from Tesco?

In the meantime put the rug outside until your DH is home and available for these tasks.

DH says you should have changed the locks while he was out on his run. I agree.

"I put my own shoes on wherever the fuck I like btw "

But presumably you'd clean up shit that you trod into the house, as would your husband-not leave it for the other to do?

OP, you know how dogs piss to make their territory?
Well your husband has just done the human equivalent!

He knew you were 'precious' about that one area - so he 'shat' on it both literally and figuratively....and left you cleaning up the mess.

I don't understand how neither of you smelled the dog shit on his shoes though - especially since he brought it in from his previous running session the day before....

You do need to stop infantilising him and making excuses for this man-child though.....which is what is happening with your defense of his lack of common sense/being a bit dim etc.

mark their territory

This why we are a shoeless house.

Heebies as I said I have no idea how we didn’t smell it either. All I can think is that they were in his shoe cupboard and because I don’t go in there I didn’t smell anything.

I don’t think I’m infantilising him by saying he didn’t do this deliberately, he did it because he doesn’t engage his brain properly on occasion. He doesn’t do spite or vindictiveness so the concept of him doing this to undermine me being precious about the new rug is pretty ridiculous. If anything he’s more horrified because it’s something I’m being precious about as I’m channelling my perfectionism into keeping the house spotless at the moment instead of my eating disorder and he’s very mindful of this. He just wasn’t concentrating, and didn’t think to put his shoes on elsewhere as I was in the sitting room.

Leaving me to clean up the mess after his pathetic attempts are something for me to be very cross about indeed, as is the fact that he didn’t make an effort to avoid accidents on the new rug (it’s surely akin to spilling a drink), but to try to get worked up that this was intentional rather than just a bumbling accident because he wasn’t thinking is unnecessary and completely barking up the wrong tree.

Mine wouldn't have gone running if he'd left a mess.

What a bloody pain I'd be fuming too.

Shoes off at the door here too! I don't care who you are, you're not walking dog shit and God knows what else into my home. There are so many cultures where shoes are left at the door, that I'm amazed so many in the UK think it's acceptable to traipse indoors with outdoor shoes on .

I would of locked the dick head out, I got angry reading ur post :( this is exactly something my fella would do and I also have a rug/shit story.
He went out and left the cat in the livingroom with no litter tray etc and when u got home from work, there was a turd on my 3 day old new rug 😢

To be fair if it dried on the shoes you wouldn't smell it, only when you wear them do they flex to reveal the fresh more... complex notes.
HTH.