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To be furious with DH about dog shit on the carpet

92 replies

lostpurplehoodie · 05/11/2017 10:54

I know he didn't do it on purpose but I am fuming right now.

New rug in the sitting room arrived on Wednesday so isn't even a week old. He's decided to go for a run this morning so has got his running shoes from by the front door and instead of sitting on the seat there, putting them on and going out has brought them into the sitting room and put them on sitting on the sofa and has trodden dog shit that he must have run in yesterday into the new, cream rug. He literally walked past every other chair in the house before using the sofa by my nice new rug.

He then attempted to brush it out with the dustpan and brush, which didn't work and he just shoved back under the sink. So I've had to get the carpet shampoo out (and hope it doesn't damage the new rug) and clean up shit, and then disinfect the dustpan and brush and am now in a house that smells faintly of shit wondering how to make the smell go. Whilst he has gone on his fucking run

AIBU to be fucking furious with him for being so stupid to bring his shitty shoes onto the new carpet, make the mess worse and then fuck off out?

OP posts:
A1Sharon · 05/11/2017 11:21

Just put the rug outside for a bit, open the windows, and let him sort it when he gets back?
Bicarb gets rid of the smell.

expatinscotland · 05/11/2017 11:25

I'd be tempted to throw his shoes on a bonfire.

Orangealien · 05/11/2017 11:26

Why the fuck did he put filthy running shoes on by taking them to a carpeted area. What a colossal dick head. It's almost like he isn't house trained. Made it even worse by trying to brush it up Confused and then putting the filthy dustpan and brush in a cupboard. It's almost like he was deliberately spreading it over as much of the house as he could Confused

That said, no way would I leave dog shit festering for an hour whilst he was out. I am shocked anyone would just leave dog shit because it was not their mess. He has been a bellend for going out but really his cleaning efforts only made things a lot worse.

Anyway this is the reality of living in a society where we don't have a doggy DNA database and remove dogs from people who let them shit everywhere. Completely uncivilized. Every dog owner should pay for a licence and DNA sample/storage and we should have a database and enforcers. You ought to have to pay a £5 per month fee to a body like this to own a dog. As it is almost all our parks, paths, pavements and public green areas (and often beaches) are ruined by filthy fuckers who won't look after their dogs properly. In the high street of my town, if you go there at 7am, people use it as a dog walking route. So if you go to a shop later on, you might step in the shit they left!!

Wondermoomin · 05/11/2017 11:26

Your partner got his priorities wrong today and needs to know it. Don't expect him to change if you give him an easy way out by cleaning up after him.

Put the rug outside and he deals with it when he gets back. It's not glued down to your floor Confused

pictish · 05/11/2017 11:28

Yes you are. It wasn't deliberate fgs. Surely he can put his shoes on in his own house wherever he wants? These things happen - the rug will be fine. Chill out.

stitchglitched · 05/11/2017 11:28

This thread has made my blood pressure rise. What a lazy, dirty, disrespectful man.

pictish · 05/11/2017 11:28

Although it would have been him getting the shampoo out in this house, not me.

stitchglitched · 05/11/2017 11:29

Leaving the dog shit for OP to clean up and heading off for his run was deliberate though.

pictish · 05/11/2017 11:30

Nah I'd deffo be furious about that...but all the business about where he puts shoes on is ridic. It's his house as well, he's not the butler!

Shadow666 · 05/11/2017 11:32

I agree, put the rug outside for when he gets back.

WhereYouLeftIt · 05/11/2017 11:32

"I know he didn't do it on purpose but I am fuming right now."
Why do you think he didn't do it on purpose? Consider how much effort he put in to create this situation. It really, really doesn't sound accidental to me.

CaramelEmporium · 05/11/2017 11:33

For all those saying why isn't he cleaning it up, why are you? I know in our house I'd be clearing up because my DH is simply incompetent at doing that sort of thing to the standard I want it doing. YANBU OP to be cross.

Trafalgarxxx · 05/11/2017 11:34

Sorry but I agree you should never have cleaned the rug for him.
I wouod go batshit at him because he knew the caroet was dirty, ried to cleaned but then just left because it wasn’t as easy as he thought and left it to the OP to sort it.
It worked too! So I suspect he will do it ag8n and still take no responsibility for the mess he is doing.

By any chance, is it a normal th8ng for him to crate a mess and then do noth8ng about it??

Trafalgarxxx · 05/11/2017 11:35

my DH is simply incompetent at doing that sort of thing to the standard I want it doing.

Really??
Either your standards are extremely hard (and you might want to relax a bit) or your DH is trying very hard NOT to do th8ngs well because he knows he can then get away with it and do nothing.
Men are just as able as women to learn how to clean and cook.

BarbarianMum · 05/11/2017 11:37

Your dh is too incompetent to work a carpet shampooer Caramel ? Or to pick up the phone and call in a professional carpet shampooing company? Fair enough, but you must realise that that level of physical and mental impairment isn't usual and is unlikely to apply to the OP's situation.

Original poster
lostpurplehoodie · 05/11/2017 11:38

Because nobody would smear shit in their house on purpose would they? He's been a bellend and used his normal lack of common sense. He's back so I've just handed him a bucket, some disinfectant and a scrubbing brush and told him that he and his shoes will stay outside until they are pristine.

Re where he puts his shoes on, I agree when they're not covered in shit, but it was so illogical. He moved the shoes from where he needed them to as far away from the door as he could and onto the only bit of floor I am precious about because it's new (and harder to clean). It just made no sense for him to bring them all the way through the house when he could just have put them on and gone straight out like I would have.

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WeAllHaveWings · 05/11/2017 11:40

Walking dog shit through the house is a stupid mistake, we all make stupid mistakes, and is not what you should be focusing on.

Going on his run before making sure it was fully cleaned up and leaving it to you to deal with properly is unacceptable. 😡

CaramelEmporium · 05/11/2017 11:42

I disagree Trafalgar, I don't think my standards are particularly high but he wouldn't do it well enough and something like dog shit on the rug I'd want to know it was done properly. It's certainly not a case of being incompetent to avoid doing stuff. DH does the vast majority of the cooking in the house because he's better at it.

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 05/11/2017 11:42

Do people really leave disgusting messes just because they didn't make them?
Well, I'd have either closed the door of the room the rug's in and got comfy somewhere else. Not pleasant but there's no way I'm clearing up a grown adult's mess unless some medical condition means they can't. Or simply gone out for an hour or 2, making it clear to him that I expect to come home to a clean rug, a disinfected dustpan and brush, and the house aired out. What an arsehole.

BewareOfDragons · 05/11/2017 11:43

Has he at least apologized???

I can't believe he just went running and left it there! Does he know what a complete and utter jackass that makes him?

WeAllHaveWings · 05/11/2017 11:44

so I've just handed him a bucket, some disinfectant and a scrubbing brush and told him that he and his shoes will stay outside until they are pristine.

You are treating him as a naughty teenager. Sorting out a bucket and all the tools he needs to do something an adult should know how to do. Your expectations of him are far too low.

Butterymuffin · 05/11/2017 11:47

He needs to pay for a new rug, out of his personal spending money, not household money.

BertrandRussell · 05/11/2017 11:53

I know in our house I'd be clearing up because my DH is simply incompetent at doing that sort of thing to the standard I want it doing"

So he's not capable of cleaning a rug and getting rid of the smell of dog shit? What can he do?

Dobopdidoo1 · 05/11/2017 12:02

If the smell is so bad then it’s strange that he didn’t notice immediately. Why on earth would he then put the dog shit smeared shoes on using your brand new rug? Sounds like he secretly hates the rug and did it on purpose!

Kraggle · 05/11/2017 12:02

Have you asked him why he decided to put his shoes on there?