WIBU Not to apologise?

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Just looking for other opinions on this as I didn’t think I was in the wrong but am open to being told I’m wrong.

Was just in Sainsbury’s, which as you can imagine at this time on a Saturday is heaving. I didn’t need much so picked up a basket. Was at the beginning of one of the aisles waiting to go down it as a family were stood across the aisle trying to decide what they wanted-which for me is a whole other issue that I won’t go in to. I stood waiting, not in a rush so don’t really mind. They then chose what they wanted and all turned towards me to leave the aisle at which point one of the children walked into the corner of my basket. I didn’t say anything and then her mum asked me if I was going to apologise to which I replied “no, she walked in to it, I was stood still.” She’s replied saying that I should have been more careful about the way I carry my basket and she still thinks I should apologise. As I didn’t think I’d done anything wrong I said again that I wasn’t going to apologise and went to walk away, thinking it was all done, she then grabbed my arm as I walked away and said I wasn’t going anywhere until I apologised, at this point her husband stepped in and said she was wasting her time as I was clearly too ignorant to realise that I was in the wrong and then they left.

Boils down to, was IBU by not apologising?

I would have told my child to apologise to you for bumping in to you. You were not BU, they were.

Would have thought a simple "Whoops are you OK" ? To child and a "She just walked into my basket" to the parents would have avoided any of this tbh

Ilost you do the child no favours by apologising for their mistake. Raising children to be entitled adults is what's depressing.

I'm sure the posters saying they wouldn't apologise would be the first to want to help a child genuinely hurt and in distress.

I’d probably have said something like ‘careful sweetie, watch where you’re going’
So would have acknowledged the child had walked into the basket but wouldn’t apologise.

I’d probably have been told off for saying sweetie and telling the child what to do when saying ‘watch where you’re going’ though

Their reaction was completely OTT though

Depends. How old was the kid who bumped into your basket appear to be?

Toddler type kid who's just not looking where they're going = "ooh sorry are you okay?" is sufficient.

Much older than yeah should have looked where they were going a bit more. (SNs aside of course).

But then I find online shopping a lot more cathartic and a lot less stressful.

Bonus that there's also no aisle hoggers

Where in the OP does it say that the child was hurt during this terrifying incident? Oh wait, it doesn't.

she then grabbed my arm as I walked away and said I wasn’t going anywhere until I apologised

Would have loved to be a fly on the wall if this happened around some of these parts. She'd have been punched on the nose in reply for it.

Part of that makes me think you should contact Sainsbury's and let them know what happened.

I think the child learned the valuable lesson that if you walk into a basket it hurts.
If you were genuinely worried that you might affect the child's emotional development and make him grow up to feel entitled by this brief interaction then a gentle reminder to "look where you're going" would suffice.

Ignoring him completely? No it's rude.

The reason I say that is because I witnessed someone get barred from Asda for less.

Delightful Parent. Swearing his head off and being verbally abusive to the staff. All whilst his children stood behind him in tears because daddy was kicking off again.

Presumably you were pissed off the child bashed into you after waiting so patiently and it was written all over your face so the tiger mama came out of the other woman. Either that or she's just rude. I agree with others that the polite thing would be something like 'oops kid, you ok'? rather than nothing EVEN if it wasn't your fault but in reality yanbu it's the mum. Perhaps she's knackered and hates shopping or has sensory issues blah blah I don't know. No excuse but maybe it's easier to be charitable than to worry about this kind of weirdness. Grabbing your arm was v unreasonable op.

The child was at fault for walking into OP

So it serves him right then? Even though it was a packed supermarket with trolleys and baskets all at the eye level of a small child. I would have thought it would be difficult not to bump into something.

I give up now, you're all hard bastards.

Wtf?! If my child walked into someone I’d be telling them to say sorry, not the other way round! She had no right to touch you, I would have told her to get her fucking hands off me.

@penggwyn

Don’t be such an utter idiot. Do you really think the police force isn’t stretched enough without people wanting someone charged with assault because they put their hand on there arm? Really????
Please explain to us how you think that one would play out?

Do like being thought of as a hard bastard

If I genuinely hadn’t moved and the kid walked into me, I’d actually have expected them to apologise, it’s what I would teach my daughter to do. If you walk into somone you apologise. However as the adult I would have said to the child “oh, are you ok” or similar. I wouldn’t have just stood and said nothing, which is probably what annoyed her.

Always useful if you happen to annoy an aggressive mother in Sainsburys, Gin.
I'd be a trembling wreck if some woman grabbed me in a supermarket aisle. I hate confrontation.
I did once apologise to an unmanned trolley I backed into in the queue.

I did once apologise to an unmanned trolley I backed into in the queue.

Sorry ILost that made me chuckle!

They sound delightful and not a good example for their children. But I can't believe there have been a few people criticising them for being in a supermarket as a family. No need for families all to be together in a supermarket? Is this some MN rule then? Me and DH both work full time and gave a day off together today. Taking the DSs to the cinema. No doubt we will stop off at a supermarket on the way home to get something nice for dinner, which yes will involve us all going in, lime normal people would.

Oh I'd be useless in person. I'm only hard on the internet

i wouldnt have apologised either, probably would have asked the child if they were ok.

This ^

And added a non-apology apology e.g. "I'm so sorry your child has arseholes for parents."

Technically this woman assaulted you.

Blimey, those parents sound delightful!

I once saw a child charge down an aisle in Sainsbury's and crash into a lady in a wheelchair. The child's mother shouted at the lady for bombing along and mowing her child down....!!

She assaulted you. I would report it to the police and ask them to check the CCTV. How dare she

That's really being over-dramatic. The OP is fine, she's not injured or traumatized so why would she call the police? The police hardly have time for real crimes never mind this.