Remember that scene in Love Actually where wife finds necklace intended for mistress?

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I hope this is light hearted and has funny ending!

It's a special occasion and by accident I found DH has recently (few weeks ago) ordered an expensive gift (the sort you only give to partners or close family) BUT, earlier he gave me a little gift and went on his way. I'm grateful of course but now wondering...

Will I get the gift later..... or should I worry?! He's not organised enough to be sorted now for Christmas and I can't think of any family occasions....

Could it be for Christmas?

Personally I wouldn't mention it to him if you don't get it - not until after Christmas.

Sorry, cross post!

I wouldnt mention it. Wait and see. If it is a bit dodgy then you asking about it now gives him time to cover up.

I speak from experience with a partner that I never in a million years would have thought was a cheat.

He's saving it for a big production after the meal? Drum roll and sparklers. The small gift this morning was just a tease, like giving a child a jigsaw when there's a bike waiting for them in the garage.

Christmas present?

Screenshot the email as evidence though just in case.

I wonder if he's feeling all smug about how prepared he is for christmas this year and completely unaware of the mumsnet lynch mob thats about to give him a good bashing because we've all seen love actually too many times.

I'd wait until this evening and if he doesn't give you it then ask him.
Maybe do a bit of snooping before you ask him. Double check he has actually ordered said item first.

Well, I always thought that the scene in the US where the girls fall over themselves for Kris Marshall because of his "cute" English accent was ridiculous, until I moved to America and got soooo many compliments on my accent...

(I hope it works out OP, and he is saving it for tonight / soon)

you're going out tonight to mark the occasion? My money is that he's given you a small present this morning just so you don't think you're not getting anything, and the big surprise is later.

Doesn't that seem the most likely?

Tonight's the night

"You've made a fool out of me and made the life I lead foolish too"

Gets me every time...

I brought my Mrs a really expensive gift a few years ago and then we got some really really huge unexpected bills so had to send it back to the jewelers before she knew about it.

When the bills were settled, I went out and got it again, luckily the jewelers were able to take a small deposit on it to keep it for me and totally understood.

Oh Gawd i'd be all twitchy about this too OP.

Are you out together tonight? Have i missed that detail?

Does anyone else remember the 'necklace left in hotel room' thread? It was very long and wasn't a good ending. Sincerely hope this doesn't go that way for you OP. I think i'd have to ask. Tomorrow.

That scene is better than the entire movie! It's a movie unto itself!

heartbreaking and so bloody real

Sure your DH just bought you a Christmas pressie, but can you wait that long?! ....

My husband bought me a beautiful Tiffany ring for my 40th birthday. The problem was he didn’t give it to me! He gave me lots of presents in the morning, but not the ring, then when he got back from work, nothing. Then we went out for dinner with family and friends, still nothing even though my sister gave me the matching Necklace. My husband just sat there. Eventually when we got home about midnight he produced it! So, OP, maybe your husband will do the same. The day isn’t over yet.

Oooh I hope you get it later. It would be so hard to wait until Xmas...

Does it have a dispatch/delivery date on the order? He possibly could have ordered it for you and it just hasn't arrived yet.

Is it your birthday today? Will you be going out tonight?

The fact that DH doesn't have form and that he didn't deliberately hide the order is a positive and that it's probably something for you.

It's a horrible feeling though, because now you are expecting something but at the same time fearing that it may not be. Good luck

I'd guess the small present was given just so this one would be more of a surprise. Maybe he has something planned for tonight and he will give it to you then.

I think you’ll get it tonight.
If you don’t, could you be browsing on the device again while you’re sat watching tv together or something? Maybe you could “find” that order again while you’re together and act as if it’s the first time you’ve seen it, act all surprised and say something like “oh god I am so sorry but I think I might have stumbled across something I shouldn’t have while I was looking for my own order” and see what his reaction is.

I'd have to mention it, if it were me, because I can't bear not knowing and the suspense. I'd rather hear bad news than no know.

I think I would laughingly say something like
'You know how you're not very good in hiding the websites you've been on, guess what I've found that you might not have wanted me to know about?'

And then he will either mention it and explain, or won't and you can tell him what you found.

You will have to gauge the conversation and how to take it forward.

Hopefully he will instantly be able to explain it all and it will be fully convincing and make sense for you and reassure you.

If there is any doubt, awkwardness or suspision, I might say
'I felt a bit like that character in 'Love Actually' who finds the necklace but gets the Joni Mitchell CD. Is there something you need to tell me?' - the tone here could be very light, or pretty serious.

This is just how Inwould play it.....but I'd have to push to know. Of course if he is having an affair and is determined still to hide it, he will try, but if he is, this will be a good opportunity for him to admit it.

Depends if you really want to know or not. I'd have to know because otherwise doubt would eat away at me....not a good place to be in.

Really hoping it turns out to have an innocent explanation OP. Please let us know.....we will all be rooting for you.

I’d do what SummerRoberts suggested!

I agree with PPs.

Wait until tomorrow and snoop.

Ah man the suspense is driving me mad! Slightly twitchy but deep down I do think it's all innocent, hope I'm not proved terribly wrong! I will keep you all informed...