I have posted about this ex before, so sorry for keeping posting about it!
My ex broke up with me after a tumultuous 12 month relationship where his behaviour was very abusive (emotionally, and in the latter weeks turned physical - grabbing wrists etc).
In the days after we broke up he said he loved me, missed me etc., but that there was no way he could keep hurting me.
We're getting to the one month mark now and despite me being very sad in the first week, I feel like I'm getting over losing him and concentrating on the abusive side of the relationship (which was about 80%) so I don't really feel anything anymore. However, having tried to establish NC he's getting really quite sulky - I didn't speak to him for less than a day on text, and he text me saying "are we not speaking anymore?" and rang me three times. He is going through some problems with therapy and part of me feels like I do want to help him, but his behaviour and his need for constant contact is quite unnerving.
For background, he has said a number of alarming things during the breakup. He keeps painting me as someone who is utterly devastated and heartbroken by his decision 
to which I have told him it was sad that things didn't work out, that we weren't a good fit etc so it was a good decision. He has told me that he has "got what he wanted" with contact as he can enjoy me without the pressures of a relationship. Perhaps most disturbing is that he said that we have a "deep magnetism" that will never leave us, and that we keep being drawn back together and so cutting contact is near impossible.
He has said he has been looking for me in places that he thinks I am, and he has text me saying his new job makes him sad because last time he was with that company we were in a really happy place and that "he couldn't stop thinking about us". He text me from yesterday evening to early this morning. I kept responses quite short and boring but I don't feel like ignoring him is the answer because he just keeps contacting (have tried a week before and it was awful)
I do love him, but I don't understand why he keeps contacting as he cut it off ? I would consider in the future giving us a go again, but this would be months/years down the line when he has had the therapy that he needs.
AIBU to ask him what's going on?