To text my sister and ask why she didn't get me a birthday present?

[u32ng]

I've put off texting as it's quite an awkward one to send. I want to let her know I'm hurt without coming off as 'grabby'. I let it slide last year but feel this needs addressed now.

As she has always be terrible with money I just assumed she is skint. But then see pics of her out for Halloween so clearly not that skint. I asked our bro if he had got anything for his bday and he said he did get a small gesture so now I'm even more hurt and confused.

How do I phrase this text?

It's not really about the actual gift per se it more that the absence of it feels like a lack of thought of care. I'd honestly be happy with a Twix or a few pretty flowers or favourite magazine.

[Mittens1969]

And I’ve seen that she did send you a card, so I do think YABU.

[Bonez]

Bleeding hell. She sent you a card. That in itself is acknowledging your birthday. This is all about the fact you want a gift. Stop trying to sugar coat it. No one is obliged to give anyone a present if they don't want to. You would be massively unreasonable to bring this up to anyone, never mind your sister.

[bridgetreilly]

Next time it's her birthday coming up, just text her and say ,"We're not doing presents for each other any more, are we?"

[sayyouwill]

Have you recently had a child? My DSis stopped sending presents once my son was born. He gets presents and they get a present off him but I don’t get anything anymore. It was a bit of a shock as we didn’t discuss it and as they live away I just assumed it was lost in the post or something but I just never said anything incase. I still haven’t mentioned it but they won’t get a gift from me going forward, only from DS if that makes sense.
You’re allowed to feel a bit confused/hurt but then you need to realise that it’s not the end of the world